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Smoking should be easy to quit, the wife and the kids are a few good reasons...
Smoking should be easy to quit, the wife and the kids are a few good reasons...
Dave,
I wish you the best! I suggest you try and do anything to quit. The symptoms you state you are having are not good at all.
My only advice is every time you want a smoke or just a drag - go lick a dirty ash tray completely clean!! I was told that by a therapist one time and since then - no smokes. Only licked an ash tray clean one time and that taste changed my life forever for the better when it comes to cigarettes.
Dan
You actually licked an ashtray? (I guess if it works? Lol)
for me it was changing my life style. = diet and exercising more, not drinking hardly at all.
not that I smoked a lot. off and on for 35 years. but never a pack a day. unless I was at river.
saw my dad go through a bad sickness caused by smoking and drinking , poor diet and not exercising, by the time he quit smoking it was to late.
he lived another 10 years. but always in pain. they wanted to start taking limbs off and he just fought it. until he couldn't fight any more and just gave up.
I lived a very active life style, soccer, skiing, biking. but still smoked.
finally my own stress of why am I fucking smoking. made me quit cold turkey 12/30/2010.
with having one of, if not the leading premier boating website / forum in the world. its going to be super tuff.
everything about boating, off roading , and freedom enables a party life style, drinking, smoking, diet , friends coming over emptying the cooler and your smokes , all the different events your involved in , through out the year. all caters to smoking.
so what I'm saying your pretty much fucked. unless you have super strong will power.
I would start with doing some type of activity/exercise that you really enjoy. don't kill yourself. but maybe that activity will make you cut down , then you will see how much better you feel and then all together stop eventually . because smoking will prohibit you from taking it to the next level.
that's what I did.
I picked up mountain biking. riding is one of my greatest joys now. almost more fun then making 100mph passes in my boats.
Good luck.
@RiverDave in your title you stated "Life Changes"
what changes are you making to ensure your success? my questions is you already mentioned you are going to show up to this hypnotist wheezing and hungover from the drinking and smoking you are going to do up until the moment you go in.
Are you really putting all of your faith in some voodoo, and hoping that 30 years of habits and routines will just magically cease to exist when you get home??
Its been said that you must not want it bad enough and that's why you have failed in the past.To be frank with you, It seems like you are going into this hoping for a magic wand to be waved and Poof....you're cured from being a smoker.
I'm just curious as to what other steps you are taking to ensure that you have the best chances of success going through this. I know what I did personally, but what works for one might not work for another there is no magic bullet, you have to make a decision and stick to it through thick and thin...… Kind of like Stacy has done staying married to you
And since you're probably all irritable even thinking of quitting. this isn't me being a "hater" its me seriously pulling for you to succeed in this.
That said I am making some changes in life to help with the success in this venture. Putting you on ignore on here is one of them
RD
At least she doesn’t give him any stupid ultimatums... seems to really be working well@RiverDave in your title you stated "Life Changes"
what changes are you making to ensure your success? my questions is you already mentioned you are going to show up to this hypnotist wheezing and hungover from the drinking and smoking you are going to do up until the moment you go in.
Are you really putting all of your faith in some voodoo, and hoping that 30 years of habits and routines will just magically cease to exist when you get home??
Its been said that you must not want it bad enough and that's why you have failed in the past.To be frank with you, It seems like you are going into this hoping for a magic wand to be waved and Poof....you're cured from being a smoker.
I'm just curious as to what other steps you are taking to ensure that you have the best chances of success going through this. I know what I did personally, but what works for one might not work for another there is no magic bullet, you have to make a decision and stick to it through thick and thin...… Kind of like Stacy has done staying married to you
And since you're probably all irritable even thinking of quitting. this isn't me being a "hater" its me seriously pulling for you to succeed in this.
There's some other things as well, but I'm taking it one thing at a time here..
RD
I don't think anyone can tell....Now you're just being a dick. And here I have made a conscious effort to be nicer around here.
Do you hang out with people that smoke? If so you need too stop doing that.
If this hypnosis thing does the trick I'll probably not drink for awhile just to not have the temptation.
RD
Interestingly enough that is a lot of what is driving this. My left arm has been tingling off and on for months (been better lately, but all summer long), Sometimes I will have a tightness in my chest. Below my arm pit on the left side off and on most the summer I have felt like someone rubbed Icy Hot on my skin.
For some reason almost all of that went away a little while back. Now though I'm tired.. and I mean really freakin tired all the time. I'll get up at 9-10, and I want to take a 2-3 hour nap at 4-5.. It's literally everything I have to get out of bed in the morning, or after a nap and not just want to lay there all night until the next day. Anything physical and I'm on my ass the next day. I think I have a blockage as well.
Tomorrow we go in for labs.. Monday is the next Dr. Appt and then we are also going to the heart specialist for a stress test etc..
Ironically enough if I just do my normal routine and drink beers in the garage and smoke cigarettes I feel better the next day. I've cut back a lot lately on the booze, and it's harder now than it ever was..
Had beers on Saturday with my buddy John, but it was recreational, not the usual one after another till ya pass out. Had two beers last night with Headless Hula at the end of the night thinking it would help me go to sleep. It didn't..
RD
I chew...got reasons to stop, but no balls I guess. I'm already kind of a dick, and the stories of mood swings scare me. When I was wound tight in the rat race, I wouldn't have put up with me. I don't know what to do about those. I tried quitting a couple times before, but, like you, I caved to the urges. In my case, I find I cut way back on tobacco when I'm on tedious fab projects...kind of hyper-focus on the task at hand. I think people are all different. Some can go cold turkey, some need a reason...I think I may need a good boot to the head. I hope you can quit. Never seen your kids, and only met your wife briefly. Some say it needs to be you doing it for only you. I don't think so...Most everything I do is somehow tied to my family.
At least she doesn’t give him any stupid ultimatums... seems to really be working well
How did the labs and stress test turn out? Those are some scary symptoms you described.
Before I went cold turkey I tried to have my first chew 1 hour later every single day. After a few days I had my first one at 6 pm. I was so proud of myself I started back on early morning chew the very next day.
When I quit cold turkey I bought massive amounts of sunflower seeds. I'm still finding seeds all over the backyard, my truck, tool bags. I must have chewed seeds twice as much as tobacco. And then one day my girlfriend noticed I didn't have any seeds the entire day. It was like when forest gump was done running....I was just done and walked away.
Quit being an excuse maker and just do it. When you're busy with work you think it's ok to keep doing. When you're stressed there is no work you think it's ok to keep doing. Weekend is coming up, friends are coming over, family is coming to town, holidays.....All kinds of excuses can be made.
New years resolutions are for the weak who think they're doing things in a group effort only to watch other group members dropping out before you even get to start. If you do things like everyone else you will lose like everyone else. I don't care what the resolution is, if you need a resolution that means something else won. YOU LOST! If you have spoken the words that you want to quit....YOU LOSE EVERY TIME YOU HAVE A SMOKE/CHEW.
There isn't a good day or time to quit....EVER.
Quitting a habit you know is drilling tiny holes into your lifespan is the best gift you can give yourself.
Interesting that you bring up work, because that is a legit problem.. Most the business meetings I have with people they want to have at a bar after hours. LOL LHC is kind of a throw back to the 80's so there is a ton of smokers out here, more so than anywhere else I go.
RD
Dave,Good post and very accurate. The first sentence is extremely accurate.. I'd always set some goal and go so far and then have a smoke to celebrate the victory.. Every morning you wake up and say "That was my last cigarette.... RIGHT AFTER THIS ONE!"
I'm truly excited about what tuesday holds, and I'm hoping it is as the lady says it is.
RD
Dave,
You have to want it. A hypnotherapist can't get you to do what you are not willing to do. I traded PM's with you a long time ago on this subject about my quitting
Dave,
I traded PM's with you about 9 years ago on this subject. At that time I was 4 years into quitting, and now 13 years have passed and haven't smoked a single cig since. I don't even think about it. I was really worried about drinking and smoking, the hypnotherapist provided mental tools to deal with it. I BBQ'ed and had cocktails that afternoon without smoking - and I had smoked for almost 30 years. You MUST be ready and willing to quit, in your own mind. A hypnotherapist cannot convince you to do something that you do not want to do. The best $500 I ever spent.
This approach is a good one - no drugs, and immediate results - AS LONG AS YOU ARE READY TO QUIT. THEY CAN'T CONVINCE YOU TO QUIT IF YOU STILL WANT TO DO IT.
Go to bed at 4am wake up at noon. Drink and smoke all day. Never changed a diaper. Yea sounds real adult to me lolI am almost to the point where we are going to have the "What it's like to be an actual adult" conversation.. LOL It basically starts with Ultimatums are what you give your kids, and other kids give to each other. Adults have conversations and goes up from there..
RD
Was it as bad as taking a swig of beer from a can on the coffee table that was used as an ashtray?Dave,
I wish you the best! I suggest you try and do anything to quit. The symptoms you state you are having are not good at all.
My only advice is every time you want a smoke or just a drag - go lick a dirty ash tray completely clean!! I was told that by a therapist one time and since then - no smokes. Only licked an ash tray clean one time and that taste changed my life forever for the better when it comes to cigarettes.
Dan
LOL...been there, done that.Was it as bad as taking a swig of beer from a can on the coffee table that was used as an ashtray?
Was it as bad as taking a swig of beer from a can on the coffee table that was used as an ashtray?
Changes anybody from a swallower to a spitter in a heartbeat.Ironically I was in Preston’s backyard not that long ago and I did that. Lol.
Done that but the worst was taking a swig off the beer can my buddy was spitting his chew into...still haunts me to this day...pukeWas it as bad as taking a swig of beer from a can on the coffee table that was used as an ashtray?
Fuck...... I have done that tooDone that but the worst was taking a swig off the beer can my buddy was spitting his chew into...still haunts me to this day...puke
Was it as bad as taking a swig of beer from a can on the coffee table that was used as an ashtray?