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Get back on the horse Dave and throw the second half of that pack away. You can do it.
I’m going to schedule another appt with the hypnosis ASAP, and try again.
I think that’s why ultimatums work for me. In all honesty I was never ready to quit. Even right now I’d love to crack open a beer, hit the bong, and put up Christmas lights. Like I’ve said though I don’t live my life for me anymore. It’s like little guys fighting in the room next door. That’s why I don’t like people saying well it was a bad time. There’s no better time than right now. So I wasn’t ready to quit it was give that up or else basically. Easy to poke fun at it, but which results do you wantPoint blank...you weren’t ready to quit...when you are honestly ready within yourself it will happen. Good luck RD.
I think that’s why ultimatums work for me. In all honesty I was never ready to quit. Even right now I’d love to crack open a beer, hit the bong, and put up Christmas lights. Like I’ve said though I don’t live my life for me anymore. It’s like little guys fighting in the room next door. That’s why I don’t like people saying well it was a bad time. There’s no better time than right now. So I wasn’t ready to quit it was give that up or else basically. Easy to poke fun at it, but which results do you want
Haha with all the Rah Rah You Can do it Bullshit.. You are a weak minded pussy. You have no self control. Accept that fact. Keep smoking. See how that works out for you
I think that's the new gansta tough love I've read about. hahaNow that's a call out. Fuck me
I think that's the new gansta tough love I've read about. haha
call it a hunch, but I think floatin may get cut from daves christmas card list this year. lol
He looked pretty chill at hanger 24 sat afternoon in his red t shirt and all. Still appeared to have all his fingers, nails etc, the wife and kids looked UN-abused so all appeared to be well.
Thinking about it even my doctor gives me ultimatums. I have a permanent script for norcos. Bad knees, shoulders, crohns, etc... once a year I have to drug test. If there is any alcohol or any other narcotic in my system he will pull the script. That’s an ultimatum to not drink or do drugs or I won’t get my script. Just thought about that because I just got an email to swing by the lab Monday after work.
I think that’s why ultimatums work for me. In all honesty I was never ready to quit. Even right now I’d love to crack open a beer, hit the bong, and put up Christmas lights. Like I’ve said though I don’t live my life for me anymore. It’s like little guys fighting in the room next door. That’s why I don’t like people saying well it was a bad time. There’s no better time than right now. So I wasn’t ready to quit it was give that up or else basically. Easy to poke fun at it, but which results do you want
For me it’s the consequences. If there no consequences I really don’t give a fuck. The consequences are what make me think twiceI'm not poking fun Vic, I'm just saying maybe different people think differently.. If that's what works for you then more power to ya! I can tell you flat that kind of thought process isn't gonna work for me.
RD
For me it’s the consequences. If there no consequences I really don’t give a fuck. The consequences are what make me think twice
That’s pretty much the same for everyone.
Your consequences just have to be life changing and dramatic for you to think twice.
Haha with all the Rah Rah You Can do it Bullshit.. You are a weak minded pussy. You have no self control. Accept that fact. Keep smoking. See how that works out for you
Honestly Dave...I have held back from responding...I'm an ex smoker now for about 12 years. I quit many many many times..and each time I told the world in hopes it would help me keep the strength it took to make it...but when I did quit, it was very personal to me...Private I guess is what I'm saying. In fact after disappointing my loved ones time and time again..they were sick of my battle. They were sick of my LOSING. I made my decision one night on the way home from work..Parked the truck in the garage and DESTROYED my pack of coffin nails and never looked back...but I didn't tell a soul that I did it. Took two weeks for the wife to figure it out (did'nt smoke in front of her)...and by then I was well on my way. I kept MYSELF accountable...you might want to be less public with it..JM thoughts..
Honestly Dave...I have held back from responding...I'm an ex smoker now for about 12 years. I quit many many many times..and each time I told the world in hopes it would help me keep the strength it took to make it...but when I did quit, it was very personal to me...Private I guess is what I'm saying. In fact after disappointing my loved ones time and time again..they were sick of my battle. They were sick of my LOSING. I made my decision one night on the way home from work..Parked the truck in the garage and DESTROYED my pack of coffin nails and never looked back...but I didn't tell a soul that I did it. Took two weeks for the wife to figure it out (did'nt smoke in front of her)...and by then I was well on my way. I kept MYSELF accountable...you might want to be less public with it..JM thoughts..
IMHO RD I could see your tall tell on this goal your are trying to address in the lifestyle/inviroment that you live in...it’s gotta be tough to get through this but as stated prior we’re all pulling for you when the time comes for you to make up your mind. There is no other way...
THE POWER OF RDP!You know Dave, just bringing this up has me thinking of a new plan and they're has been plenty of great ideas in here. I trust you will find a way to stop and myself as well.
Good luck!
So there's that.. LOL
Honestly RCL, that was part of the reason I posted the thread was to add more accountability to it as well as share the experience with other people that are trying to do the same. If you read back in the first post I'm sure you can relate.. When you do break down and light one up, you get that overwhelming feeling of failure, which (not to sound too arrogant) isn't something I experience a whole lot in my life and I dislike it. The stories in the thread both successful / unsuccesful etc.. have given me a lot to think about with regard to different methods, and thought processes behind them. I was hoping that I'd walk in and walk out and be one of those little miracles you always hear about..
I can say for a couple of days there I honestly thought "this is it! I'm finally free of these fuckers!!" On day 3 I woke up and I could already tell.. I was staring at anything red I could find and it wasn't doing shit for it.. LOL By the afternoon when everyone was at the house for T-Day I was losing my mind and going down hill fast.. Add in a couple of smokers to that program (easy access at the house) and I folded like laundry.
On a more positive note the hypnotist called me this morning and asked how I was doing. I was honest with her and told her that as she called I was basically unwrapping a pack of cigarettes. She didn't skip a beat and said she was afraid of that, and we talked about the session a bit and subconscious etc and more to the point my session that I had already done. She is still confident that I'll be a non smoker after my next visit. Honestly my hopes are still very high in the process and if she can do the same thing she did before but make it last like 2 weeks I think I'd be good.
RD
I guess it could have been, it was a little dingy looking and had some brownish streak type stains on it. I just chalked it up to them having been off-roading.Are you sure that wasn’t just a nicotine stained white t shirt? [emoji848][emoji4]
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Total BULLSHIT.I'm with ya on there always being a reason.. Especially living out here and in this line of work.
RD
Total BULLSHIT.
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No such thing as a "reason"....its just a lame fucking excuse.
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Blaming your line of work is even lamer. Boating lifestyle is your passion.
Try working as a leo with some druggie pointing a pistol at you, that sounds like low stress compared to your current position.
Quit blaming your surroundings and look in the mirror for fault.
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I really have high hopes that you'll succeed. Go re-flash your harddrive(aka brain) and get rid of those glitches still living in your head.
Trust me, you'll be 1000 times more proud of yourself if you can painfully overcome an obstacle instead of giving in and having to start over.
And again, just do it and stop posting about it....let your loving wife and friends boast about your successes.
Sounds like an ultimatum to meI was told something a long time ago and it applies to so many situations in life and really is apropos here..."you can have results, or excuses, not both!"
So there's that.. LOL
Honestly RCL, that was part of the reason I posted the thread was to add more accountability to it as well as share the experience with other people that are trying to do the same. If you read back in the first post I'm sure you can relate.. When you do break down and light one up, you get that overwhelming feeling of failure, which (not to sound too arrogant) isn't something I experience a whole lot in my life and I dislike it. The stories in the thread both successful / unsuccesful etc.. have given me a lot to think about with regard to different methods, and thought processes behind them. I was hoping that I'd walk in and walk out and be one of those little miracles you always hear about..
I can say for a couple of days there I honestly thought "this is it! I'm finally free of these fuckers!!" On day 3 I woke up and I could already tell.. I was staring at anything red I could find and it wasn't doing shit for it.. LOL By the afternoon when everyone was at the house for T-Day I was losing my mind and going down hill fast.. Add in a couple of smokers to that program (easy access at the house) and I folded like laundry.
On a more positive note the hypnotist called me this morning and asked how I was doing. I was honest with her and told her that as she called I was basically unwrapping a pack of cigarettes. She didn't skip a beat and said she was afraid of that, and we talked about the session a bit and subconscious etc and more to the point my session that I had already done. She is still confident that I'll be a non smoker after my next visit. Honestly my hopes are still very high in the process and if she can do the same thing she did before but make it last like 2 weeks I think I'd be good.
RD
I'm gonna say this,... over 30 years ago, I quit smoking, and drinking...and here's what happened..I had no tolerance for cig smoke at all...my sense of smell was off the hook....I couldn't be any where near where someone was smoking...horrible...we used to go to the santa fe casino to eat breakfast and i'd have to hold my breath to get through the smoking section to get to the restaurant... but I'm also gonna say this..I never ever got over the urge to light up...I think once you smoke, that never really goes away...So,.. I raised my sons and they moved out...started back drinking rum and coke now and then...which turned in to drinking a lot of rum and coke... which turned into hanging at bars and being around smokers.. which turned into smoking while I was drinking, which turned into smoking all the time again.... gotta say this... I enjoy it... cut out the rum and coke and went to moderate beer drinking... some days none,... some days a couple..I've drank till drunk a few times with beer... but most of the time I cut it short to not waist the next day....nothing gets done when you are hung over,... and the over buzz of drunk is not worth the hang over..so there I am... right back where I started..I used to be that guy...I could easy not drink the first beer,... but once I started... it was on... some times it was for days..drink till drunk, party like a rock star... then keep going … many of times I was late for work because I'd walk out the bar and the sun was up... vegas baby... it never stops..so what i'm gonna say... to quit smoking.... you have to quit drinking....quiting smoking takes will power,... and you loose that when you drink..one the the hardest things to change is how to have fun when you don't drink... fuc'n borring..but, when you get over that hump you find out that you remember what you did...life is a lot more fun that way.. nowing that you have the freedom to go do what ever you want and not get arrested for DUI...yeah, you get to be the one that hauls all the drunk fucs home,.. and get up in the morning to go get their car...
so where i'm at now,... even though I like smoking... there's no where to do it..not in the car, not in the house,not in the restaurant, not in the bar, in cal, not even out side.....so, if there's a will.... there's away....lol..in vegas..you can eat a steak and eggs breakfast, drink a beer,smoke a cig...and play video poker..lol… you guessed it..now add gambling to the pot...
so what I did.... I started the JUUL vape...pretty much you can smoke them anywhere...they don't do the cheech and chong big plume of smoke...but they do have nicotine..I found this, I don't drink as much,..I don't cough as much,.. and I don't gamble as much.. So is it good??? I would say not.... but it is a betterment
Im in the same boat, I quit drinking about a 6 weeks ago. Didnt need to, didnt have a drinking problem per se, just got tired of wasting precious days of life feeling like shit. What I am dealing with now is what you mentioned, I feel like I am no fun to hang around with now, everything my friends do involves some aspect of drinking, boating, off roading, hanging out, dinner, there is always alcohol involved. I am not sure why I stopped, just felt like I needed a challenge, but now that its been a few weeks Im now dealing with all of the side issues. Its like you just want to stay home an avoid the awkwardness of being the one guy at the group get together not drinking. Its bizarre stuff. Havasu is a very hard town to not drink in, being home and at work is fine, no issues there, spend a weekend in Havasu and everyone is fucked up.
Sounds like an ultimatum to me
Your hypnotist seems like she's a great salesman..... Best of luck to you.
Im in the same boat, I quit drinking about a 6 weeks ago. Didnt need to, didnt have a drinking problem per se, just got tired of wasting precious days of life feeling like shit. What I am dealing with now is what you mentioned, I feel like I am no fun to hang around with now, everything my friends do involves some aspect of drinking, boating, off roading, hanging out, dinner, there is always alcohol involved. I am not sure why I stopped, just felt like I needed a challenge, but now that its been a few weeks Im now dealing with all of the side issues. Its like you just want to stay home an avoid the awkwardness of being the one guy at the group get together not drinking. Its bizarre stuff. Havasu is a very hard town to not drink in, being home and at work is fine, no issues there, spend a weekend in Havasu and everyone is fucked up.
Then ya should learn how to read Vic.. it’s a tag line not an ultimatum. Lol. Where is the “or else?”
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In all seriousness. Do it for the KIDS!
I want to quit now. I started at eleven, older brother was a bad influence. Back in 1984 when I started smoking was everywhere and it was easy for a kid to get cigarettes. These days not many smokers around here. My main reason is having a kidney infection confirmed by cat scan. On the follow up with my doctor, he says they may have seen a spot on the right kidney. So yesterday I had an ultrasound looking for a potential tumor. This has me scared, as I don't want kidney cancer or cancer of any kind. Its easier to quit over doing ultrasounds with the worry they'll find something. Then the worry while waiting for the doctor to call with results. Id rather have nicotine withdrawals over worrying about cancer and dying! I'm going to vape again and then quit all together.