Decisions no human should ever have to make

[rivermobster]

The title of this thread says it all...

You are brave beyond words.

Peace

 

[poncho]

The title of this thread says it all...

You are brave beyond words.

Peace

Amen

 

[JDKRXW]

May your wife's and your decision bring baby Summer peace.
God Bless your family.

 

[hallett21]

I’m so sorry

 

[RitcheyRch]

Breaks my heart. My thoughts and prayers for your entire family. I cannot imagine the grief you are all going through.

 

[OldSchoolBoats]

I am so very sorry and can't imagine what you are going through. God has a plan and we will pray for her and you guys. RIP Angel

 

[stephenkatsea]

Prayers sent.

 

[lbhsbz]

no words

 

[dezrtracer]

Justin I'm so sorry to hear this heart breaking news . Wish you and the family all the best in this tough time .

 

[Willie B]

…Oh my…So very sad… Summers time to physically transition will come… but her spirit will carry on forever……

 

[Backlash]

Nothing could ever possibly prepare a parent for something like this. Damn, I'm sorry.

 

[Tamalewagon]

I'm so very sorry that you and your wife are going through this. Godspeed to you both.

 

[HPBoats83]

So sorry you have to go through this!

 

[C-2]

So sorry to read this. Godspeed little one. Hang in there farmo and family.

 

[One2go]

No Words, Just read this. Prayers for her and your family

 

[beertruck]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife.

 

[SoCalDave]

I'm at a loss of words, I couldn't even imagine what your family is going through. My heart goes out to little Summer, You and Your Family.

 

[RogerThat99]

I don't even know what to say, other than I am so sorry you have to go through this.

 

[RadMan]

I am so sorry. May she rest in peace.
Prayers to you and her.

 

[havasu5150]

Like so many others.....I have no words. May God be with you and little Summer as you go through this ordeal.

 

[Joe mama]

So sorry, payers sent to you and your family. This has to be one of the hardest things in life period. I feel the big man upstairs will guide you and take the reins on little summers destiny.

 

[HBCraig]

RIP angel

 

[CLdrinker]

I have no words. I’m am so sorry.

 

[Jefftowz]

I have a lump in my throat......This should never be a position for a parent to be in... Devastating RIP little Summer....

 

[rrrr]

I'm sorry.

 

[YeahYeah01]

Heart breaking. So sorry.

 

[Blue Oval]

It took my 3 times to be able to read thru the post. So sorry, prayers to your family and daughter.

 

[monkeyswrench]

To appreciate both peace and love, I think at times we must feel chaos and pain. In Summer's brief time here, I'm sure she's felt no shortage of love, and she will know peace.

There are many here, guys who have thought of themselves as relatively strong individuals, that are reduced to tears in reading this. Children hold a special place in the hearts of man, as well as that of God. Sometimes the choices we are given, aren't really choices at all.

I'll pray for your family, as all of you are on this journey together

 

[drew_built]

Prayers to you and your family, I can’t imagine what you are going through

 

[buck35]

Unimaginable...so very sorry to read this,Godspeed .

 

[Keymyster]

Sorry to hear. Prayers going out to your family. Very sad to hear.

 

[RichL]

So very sorry to hear. Thoughts are with you.

 

[73beast]

So so sorry for what you are going ,through can't even fathom the pain,God bless you..

 

[fishfyter]

I'm so sorry, there are no words. God bless

 

[RVR2SNO]

 

[DaytonaBabe]

I am just so very, very sorry. So sorry. I wish there were better words, but please know that my heart hurts for y'all.

 

[WYRD]

My wife and I had to to make the same decision on 9/1/24 for our 23 old son. We know as parents what this journey is and the sadness that comes with that decision you are in my thoughts and prayers . Some days I just sit in silence View attachment 1468500

I am saddened by your loss. This is my biggest fear. As parents of a medically complex child my wife and I hope to never have to make that decision. I hope you and your wife find solace in knowing your son is no longer in pain.

 

[DMF]

I am so sorry!

 

[jeteater1]

This past Thanksgiving my wife and I welcomed our second daughter. She was rushed to the NICU for breathing issues but rapidly stabilized. The doctors said as she was a scheduled c section and hadn't gone through labor she most likely had fluid on her lungs which would need a day or two to evacuate and we'd be on our way. The next day we were told she had no gag reflex or swallowing reflex. They ran a brain ultra sound which showed brain deformities and we transferred to a speciality childrens hospital for further analysis. At this point we prepared ourselves to have a special needs child and many rdp peeps reached out in support of which i am very thankful for.

Over December they stabilized her breathing, feeding, and ran a bunch of test, brain mri, jaw evaluation, sleep study, eeg, genetic testing, ent scopes, eye exam, chest exams, and I'm sure some more.

This past Wednesday we had our consultation and we're told shell need a trach, feeding tube, breathing machine, her brain is 100% deformed so shell most likely be in a near vegetative state, require 24 hr a day care, be highly prone to infections, and never know who we are. The doctors without any prompting from us heavily suggested comfort care for her and to allow her to pass on. We spoke with our family Chaplin who put it as

"Would you want to live her life?" To which both my wife and I said no and he brought up not.asking her to then.

As such we elected for comfort care and baby Summer will begin her transition late next week after family and friends have a chance to meet her and say goodbye.

I would not wish all of this on Adolf Hitler. Everyone with little ones hug them tight.

Thank you to all the inmates that reached out during the beginning, it helped more then I can describe.

That's a hard one my friend. I was tasked with those words a year ago. But mine was to end the life of my wife of 30 years and mother of my two children.

 

[rivrrts429]

I’m so sorry @farmo83

RIP Summer. You’re an angel.

 

[GaryC]

I'm so sorry, you and your wife are in my prayers. My wife and I were in a very similar place with our daughter 33 years ago. I still think of her....

 

[Eliminator21vdrive]

So sorry.

She will know love.

 

[4Waters]

I opened this thread 4 more times yesterday, every time with tears... I'm crying right now . I was hoping words would come to mind, nothing....

You have a big extended family here with support, this is absolutely heartbreaking. RIP Summer

 

[sprintcvx]

I'm sorry. Rest in peace little one.

 

[sixdays]

Tragic. Your title sums it up, and I can’t imagine anything worse than this.

 

[clarence]

Just came across this essay.

Hope it helps in some way.

The Men Who Lost Their Babies

‘It’s not my body. I understand that, but it’s part of me.’

www.thefp.com

 

[RVRKID]

Not sure how I missed this thread but I am so sorry. RIP Summer!

 

[4Waters]

I was thinking about this last week but couldn't remember who the poster was to find the thread. Apparently I'm not the only one that was thinking about them.

@farmo83 I hope you and the family are doing well.

 

[farmo83]

I was truly blown away by everyone that posted and reached out on this thread.

We had a few days for family and friends to meet/say good-bye to Summer. We decided after much thought that we wanted our 3 year old to meet her sister, in typical sibling fashion our three year threw a fit the whole time and wanted all the attention on her.

After medical support was removed Summer made it about 20 hours and passed without a peep which is what we wanted. This time was so special as she had no hoses, lines, etc. It was just like time spent with a normal new-born. The hardest part for me was when we went into the "transition room" and I realized she would never leave that room.

As my wife says we are "ok in a not ok space." We both have times where sadness comes over us and I expect this will continue for a long time/the rest of our lives. We both said the hardest part is that we've basically reverted back to our life pre-Summer and we both are sad at times when we realize we were supposed to have a new normal.

 

[rivermobster]

I was truly blown away by everyone that posted and reached out on this thread.

We had a few days for family and friends to meet/say good-bye to Summer. We decided after much thought that we wanted our 3 year old to meet her sister, in typical sibling fashion our three year threw a fit the whole time and wanted all the attention on her.

After medical support was removed Summer made it about 20 hours and passed without a peep which is what we wanted. This time was so special as she had no hoses, lines, etc. It was just like time spent with a normal new-born. The hardest part for me was when we went into the "transition room" and I realized she would never leave that room.

As my wife says we are "ok in a not ok space." We both have times where sadness comes over us and I expect this will continue for a long time/the rest of our lives. We both said the hardest part is that we've basically reverted back to our life pre-Summer and we both are sad at times when we realize we were supposed to have a new normal.

Gawd dammit. So not fair.

But do what Summer would want you to do...

Stay united. Stay strong.