Decisions no human should ever have to make

[monkeyswrench]

Nothing can take hurt away...we cannot do it for our kids, our families or our friends. We can share it though, if only a tiny bit.

I know you said Summer would never leave that room. She did, she just moved on past "us". Stay strong for your family, and don't forget to breath at times. Reach out to people if you feel the urge to, don't lock down.

 

[Boat 405]

Ewf..... That hits hard. I have no words, my eyes are leaking after reading this. RIP little one.

 

[gqchris]

I selfishly was not going to re-open this thread because I did not want to “feel” those feelings again. But Im like “how selfish am I as our fellow inmate is going thru a nightmare that he is not waking up from and for me to not stand beside him. “

RIP little one. You have impacted so many of us.

 

[Baja 252]

I'm so sorry, thought and prayers to you and your whole family. Please know you are not alone. I made that same decision 23 years ago for my 39 year old wife who had extensive brain and organ damage due to a blood clot that traveled to her heart.
I know it was the right thing to do in my case, but you are correct, no one should ever have to make a decision like that.

 

[Romans9]

If this offends anyone please just ignore it and don’t comment about it.

As to the OP I am sorry in advance if you are offended, this was never my intent.

I have unfortunately had to help in this type of situation more than once.

It sounds as though you made the best decision for everyone involved. I commend you for sharing such a personal and emotional event. It really does help many people.

There is a story in the Bible about David and a child that he had fathered. The details of the story do not coincide with your situation but there is a part that may bring you some comfort.

While his child was sick David was in mourning and crying but once he was told of the death of his child he got up and carried on. The people close to him were astonished and asked why did he mourn while the child lived but after the child died he went back to his routine.

His reply was in effect that while the baby lived he was hoping for a miracle but since the child had past and this was no longer an option. He said “can I bring the baby back to life? No. Someday I will go to him, but he cannot come back to me.”

All the best to you and your family. Give your wife all of the love and affection you can muster.


Edited to add one thing I was going to leave out.

I held my first granddaughter yesterday evening in the NICU in Kansas City. She went home after the birth but had to go to the NICU due to a few issues.
Looks like she is doing well as of about an hour ago.

 

[ltbaney1]

My heart breaks for you and your family. Your are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Long Way Home]

I’m so sorry......sometimes there are just no words, I’m sending you my condolences.

 

[SoCalDave]

RIP little one...heart breaking.
Stay strong for your family.

 

[Dan Lorenze]

I'm so sorry.. Prayers to you and your family.

 

[rrrr]

I was truly blown away by everyone that posted and reached out on this thread.

We had a few days for family and friends to meet/say good-bye to Summer. We decided after much thought that we wanted our 3 year old to meet her sister, in typical sibling fashion our three year threw a fit the whole time and wanted all the attention on her.

After medical support was removed Summer made it about 20 hours and passed without a peep which is what we wanted. This time was so special as she had no hoses, lines, etc. It was just like time spent with a normal new-born. The hardest part for me was when we went into the "transition room" and I realized she would never leave that room.

As my wife says we are "ok in a not ok space." We both have times where sadness comes over us and I expect this will continue for a long time/the rest of our lives. We both said the hardest part is that we've basically reverted back to our life pre-Summer and we both are sad at times when we realize we were supposed to have a new normal.

It's so sad to see that little blue hand. God bless you and your wife, and I reach out with a heavy heart to convey my condolences.

 

[MeCasa16]

I can’t imagine what you and your family are going through. There are no words that could help ease your loss. My deepest sympathies and condolences. May your sweet little angel finally be free of her suffering.

 

[RiverDave]

I am so sorry to read this.. . I hadn’t opened the thread until this morning. You are in our thoughts and prayers. RIP little one

 

[mbrown2]

I missed this thread earlier... like is not fair sometimes, we likely use that phrase alot but it is events like this that truly call for it. I wish you and wife the utmost strength to get through this.

 

[ridebig]

Godspeed little one. My heart break's for your family.