16 year old son

[guest hs]

I feel so bad for my Son he got his first girlfriend this year. Monday he comes home from school and she breaks up with him. She tells him that her grades are suffering. The girl was really nice they when on double and triple dates with friends they just went to homecoming together then boom this. I sure hope she is not lying about the reason. My son is devastated. My wife called me at work and told me and that was the last thing I ever expected to here, it put tears in my eyes. I had him stay home from school yesterday I took him to lunch and we talked a bit about it. He seams better today. He is an only child as well as myself and wife and I don't have much experience in this. Anybody run into this and how did you handle it? I love this kid soooooo much I cant stand to see him hurting!

 

[wsuwrhr]

That is a tough one sir.

 

[Dirtbag]

Tell him there aint nothing like the next one! It wont be the last time a girl dumps him. Get back to school get right back into the thick of things. Flirt with some new girls including the ex's friends. Have fun in high school brother. Dont get tied down to one girl. You got your whole life for that!

 

[UHHH SUCKA]

It sucks but it's a part of life that will eventually make you a stronger person. Hopefully its for the reason she says and she'll eventually come back around if its meant to be.

 

[Advantage 1]

Ahhhhh, poor guy.

What always helped me was getting out on my boat Best medicine for me when going through my divorce.

 

[Tank0088]

Man I remember breaking up with my first girl friend. I felt the same way your son does. My dad did the same thing you did and I was also looking for a truck so we went truck shopping. He didn't buy me a truck but just spending time with him was nice. He will get over it. Just tell him at least he doesn't have to buy her a Christmas gift.

 

[JD D05]

This was the most likely outcome at that age, and will continue to be. It is also a promise he will find someone better for him, since this didn't work out. I would try and explain that life and he will change so much over the next 10 years and to keep an open find on meeting someone new.

 

[Flying_Lavey]

That was my life all throughout life until I was 28. My advice, do not take him out of school. Do not allow him change what he does cause a high school girlfriend broke up with him. He should be sad and probably quiet heart broken but allowing him to alter his life for a bump in the road does not teach him how to properly deal with and overcome obstacles in the future.

Instead do things with him or encourage him to go do healthy things with his close friends. Take him to the river or offloading or anything HE enjoys. One of the most important lessons to learn from a break up early on in life (took me a while to learn this) is a significant other does not define you. Being yourself, doing what you enjoy and learning to be happy without a significant other is the most important.

I could go on and on but those are truly the most important I thnk.

 

[McRib]

That sucks.

Tell him nice guys finish last and assholes get all the pussy. Lol

Her true colors will come out real fast at school. If she stays single then she told the truth. If she starts runnin around with some asshole jock then he just needs to put her memory in a shit can and chalk up the loss as a learning experience.

Make sure he remembers he is 16. He shouldn't be looking for his future wife. Lol. Good luck to him

 

[YoPengo]

Buckel up buttercup. It's just the beginning... As a father of two daughters... I've done the broken hearts... ex-boyfriends... marry assholes... divorce and the list goes on and on.

It's tough seeing your kids emotionally hurt. Unfortunately, it's part of life. :cool

I did get a really cool grandson out of the deal.

 

[Wadernation]

i remember the first one being one of the toughest on me. My mom would always say "dont worry, there will be other girls" but I didn't want to believe it. Boy was she right..i turned into a little man whore from that point on and made an effort not to get my heart broken again. Heart ache is a apart of life and emotions. Without it we wouldnt know what love and joy feels like in a relationship. Just be the same Dad you are to him and let time do it's thing.

 

[HBCraig]

Its tough for him to see now at his young age, but he will look back on all this and laugh. He obviously isnt now, but he will. There are literally thousands of other potential girls for him. Plus, he needs a few fun nights out with his boys to get his spirits back. Watching your kids suffer is once of THE worst things.

 

[RiverDave]

he got to stay home from school? i realize he's heartbroken but that woulda never been an option in my family

 

[Sandlord]

get him a project;
a broke dirt bike, boat, truck, etc.
Find out what he likes (other than girls) and get him something to work on. and work on it with him

 

[BHC Vic]

I was always in long term relationships. It's my personality I guess. I remember my first break up and it was rough. So we're the rest of them. Best thing is to just keep his mind off of it. It would drive me crazy not calling and making a fool of myself. Girls don't like that

 

[bocco]

Tell him there aint nothing like the next one! It wont be the last time a girl dumps him. Get back to school get right back into the thick of things. Flirt with some new girls including the ex's friends. Have fun in high school brother. Dont get tied down to one girl. You got your whole life for that!

Dirtbag is dead right. Look forward to the next one. And a day out boating can't hurt either.

 

[Classic Daycruiser]

Good thing he didn't marry her, or he would be splitting everything he owns in half. Now he can focus on getting good grades too.

 

[Deja_Vu]

I wouldn't doubt that the girlfriends parents might have had a hand in this.

I would tell him, they can be like busses. You get dumped on the curb and another one will be around the corner in no time.

 

[Cole Trickle]

That's why you always have a side piece when you're young...lol[emoji106][emoji41][emoji12]

 

[GRADS]

I think a trip to the Bunny Ranch is in order.:thumbsup:boobeyes:

 

[rvrrun]

he got to stay home from school? i realize he's heartbroken but that woulda never been an option in my family

Agreed. Getting on with life is part of the lesson and the character building.

That being said, the first breakup is the worst and no fun to go through.

 

[SoCalDave]

Sometimes it seems tougher for the parents than it is for the child.

An old family friend of mine told me 45+ years ago "Women are like street cars, don't chase after them as there will be another one come along any minute".
Was the best advise for me at the time.

 

[Riverbound]

Women are like parking spots....they are all liars and whores.

Best way to get over one is to get under another.

he needs to go out and get with one of her friends ASAP.

Those are prime Billdo-isms that if he lives by he will do just fine with the ladies:thumbup:

 

[JBS]

Makes me think of this song

[video=youtube;Il4qOQGUGbo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Il4qOQGUGbo[/video]

 

[JD D05]

I hope my daughters never meet most of your son's if you have any. And there is no God damn way I will raise my son to think like that..

 

[Flying_Lavey]

he got to stay home from school? i realize he's heartbroken but that woulda never been an option in my family

Same here. My dad would a just looked at me and said "Fuck no! You're going to school!" Then again, we didn't talk about girls. That's was known to never be an option though.

 

[Cole Trickle]

I hope my daughters never meet most of your son's if you have any. And there is no God damn way I will raise my son to think like that..

Pretty sure most of us are joking....lol

Maybe not Riverbound

Who really cares anyways.... Getting kids through High school and College with a clean record and no kids should be every parents priority. Kids shouldn't be looking for there life partner at age 16 or 22 anyways unless there looking for an early divorce. thumbup:

My son is being raised to be respectful and treat women properly but he isn't going to be a sissy mamas boy.....Guys and girls should want and expect alot out of there partner and I don't know a single guy/girl that's a pushover that has a successful marriage.

 

[guest hs]

We didn't send him to school for 2 reasons that being one and the second he had a problem with his two big toes and he would have had to leave school early anyways to go se the Podiatrist.

 

[JD D05]

We didn't send him to school for 2 reasons that being one and the second he had a problem with his two big toes and he would have had to leave school early anyways to go se the Podiatrist.

I wouldn't worry about defending your decision. I have known many very successful strong adults that couldn't get out of bed for a few days after a break up.

 

[Deja_Vu]

Last big breakup I had I hocked a diamond ring for a .357 pistol and bought a new motorcycle. It took a little fun to get my mind off of things.

 

[Ziggy]

I wouldn't doubt that the girlfriends parents might have had a hand in this.

I would tell him, they can be like busses. You get dumped on the curb and another one will be around the corner in no time.

First thing that crossed my mind too. If she has good parents they most certainly had a say in it.
That's life, suck it up and move forward. The first one is always the toughest....next time, and there will be a next time, he'll handle it differently.

 

[Ziggy]

Last big breakup I had I hocked a diamond ring for a .357 pistol and bought a new motorcycle. It took a little fun to get my mind off of things.

I remember shooting that gun at Senator Wash. 🔫

 

[JD D05]

Pretty sure most of us are joking....lol

Maybe not Riverbound

Who really cares anyways.... Getting kids through High school and College with a clean record and no kids should be every parents priority. Kids shouldn't be looking for there life partner at age 16 or 22 anyways unless there looking for an early divorce. thumbup:

My son is being raised to be respectful and treat women properly but he isn't going to be a sissy mamas boy.....Guys and girls should want and expect alot out of there partner and I don't know a single guy/girl that's a pushover that has a successful marriage.

I did come off a bit strong. I understand the joking, I use to do some of it myself. Having daughters has made me a little more aware of it and sensitive to it I suppose.

 

[Cole Trickle]

I did come off a bit strong. I understand the joking, I use to do some of it myself. Having daughters has made me a little more aware of it and sensitive to it I suppose.

If you raise strong smart girls that hate the Kardashians and love cars/boats/guns/beer you won't have any issues...lol:thumbsup:cool

 

[Old Texan]

Breakups are definitely tough. At 16 they shouldn't have a lingering effect though. Build the kid's confidence back up and tell him there's a whole world full of young ladies to ease the pain and better......

If she was special, time will tell and she could return for round 2. But damned sure don't dwell on it. Way too much of life ahead for a 16 year old to allow 1 person to get into his head.

 

[Riverbound]

Pretty sure most of us are joking....lol

Maybe not Riverbound

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Damn Skippy....at 16 you aren't with your life mate.

 

[Ziggy]

Breakups are definitely tough. At 16 they shouldn't have a lingering effect though..

Unless you feed the sorrow with too much sympathy. It's akin to handing out participation trophies.

 

[BajaT]

You got two options....
[video=youtube;S5Y8tFQ01OY]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5Y8tFQ01OY[/video]

[video=youtube;xUDf3wRJiAM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUDf3wRJiAM[/video]

 

[Chili Palmer]

First thing that crossed my mind too. If she has good parents they most certainly had a say in it.
That's life, suck it up and move forward. The first one is always the toughest....next time, and there will be a next time, he'll handle it differently.

^^^This^^^

 

[Yellowboat]

The cure is too start banging her friends....even better to bang her sister.



Always made me feel better... well at least til about 21.

 

[BUSTI]

All I can say is just let him know there is plenty of time to be a one woman guy. He should date them all.

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

Words of advice.......don't trip over this one to get to the next one.

 

[MOUZER]

AHHHH MAN,,I JUST PICKED MY 18 YR OLD SON UP FROM ONTARIO AIRPORT THIS MORN,,HE WENT TO S COROLINA WHERE HIS GIRLFRIEND MOVED WITH FAMILY TO HAVE THANKSGIVING....HE WORKS AND GOES TO SCHOOL HERE FULL TIME.....HE WONT EAT HE IS SO DEPRESSED HE SAID DAD I DONT KNOW WHEN I WILL SEE HER AGAIN MAYBE SUMMER..YES FIRST GIRLFRIEND...HE ALSO IS STSAYING HOME TODAY SO WE CAN TALK.........I FEEL SO BAD FOR HIM.....SUCKS HE SAYS TO BE AWAY FROM HER...

 

[OCMerrill]

Fatherly advice....for parents of teens

Rule 1 - DO NOT GET CLOSE to the girl/boy and their respected families at this age.
Rule 2 - TIME is the only real thing that heals. So spend the time with other chicks or friends and stay busy. He will be fine.
Rule 3 - 3 word pep talk comments only - let them sort it, it's what makes them adults. RESIST the everybody gets a trophy mentality. Life's a bitch.

They don't need to stay away, they don't need to stay friends so don't push anything.


Now if the boy calls your daughter a cunt then you can borrow my truck to run the fucker over with but you clean it up afterwards.

My Daughter has caused a few of these and vice versa. I just shake my head. "Hey Dad wanna meet my new boyfriend.....No and your not getting in his car EVER. That's my blanket comment.

Damn Skippy....at 16 you aren't with your life mate.

Sure thought I was. Married her at 20.....and that was the biggest fucking disaster in my life to current.

 

[OCMerrill]

Unless you feed the sorrow with too much sympathy. It's akin to handing out participation trophies.

I missed this. Perfect.

 

[elcajones]

Tell him to ask out her best friend........

 

[Riverbound]

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Sure thought I was. Married her at 20.....and that was the biggest fucking disaster in my life to current.

Ditto. Except for my kids that I got out of it.

 

[ColdSteel]

 

[guest hs]

AHHHH MAN,,I JUST PICKED MY 18 YR OLD SON UP FROM ONTARIO AIRPORT THIS MORN,,HE WENT TO S COROLINA WHERE HIS GIRLFRIEND MOVED WITH FAMILY TO HAVE THANKSGIVING....HE WORKS AND GOES TO SCHOOL HERE FULL TIME.....HE WONT EAT HE IS SO DEPRESSED HE SAID DAD I DONT KNOW WHEN I WILL SEE HER AGAIN MAYBE SUMMER..YES FIRST GIRLFRIEND...HE ALSO IS STSAYING HOME TODAY SO WE CAN TALK.........I FEEL SO BAD FOR HIM.....SUCKS HE SAYS TO BE AWAY FROM HER...

Thank you Mouzer. I know you are a good Dad anyone that will sell his prize possession Hydro to pay for his Daughters wedding is A OK in my book!

 

[Dirtbag]

Damn Skippy....at 16 you aren't with your life mate.

I actually was and still am