16 year old son

[JD D05]

The cure is too start banging her friends....even better to bang her sister.



Always made me feel better... well at least til about 21.

I actually did that once. Drove up to Montana to see my GF and caught her with another guy, drove home and banged her sister.

 

[Dirtbag]

"Hey Dad wanna meet my new boyfriend.....No and your not getting in his car EVER. That's my blanket comment.

Stealing this...my daughter is 13.....im fucked for sure...all the bad things i did are about to catch up to me i know it

 

[JD D05]

Stealing this...my daughter is 13.....im fucked for sure...all the bad things i did are about to catch up to me i know it

Same bote here

 

[TCHB]

I have two daughters that were two years apart and would see the same thing. I think the best advice is to keep going to school and things will pass. These kind of things make you stronger in the long run. Good luck with teenagers.

 

[Meaney77]

Stealing this...my daughter is 13.....im fucked for sure...all the bad things i did are about to catch up to me i know it

Same bote here

How do you think I feel, I have 3 girls... FML!

 

[Deja_Vu]

How do you think I feel, I have 3 girls... FML!

Me too, but I made it past the teenage years. Just 2 weddings to go!

 

[rush1]

Thats a great lesson in life , remember a women Fucked Up the Garden of Eden :skull

 

[Go-Fly]

I actually did that once. Drove up to Montana to see my GF and caught her with another guy, drove home and banged her sister.

Poster boy for RDP.

 

[OCMerrill]

Kids need to grow up with accomplishments they earned and earned with sacrifice (meaning hard work, perseverance, missed outings with friends).

This way its easier to show them how awesome they really are when they actually are, at the right time. :thumbsup

OP - This is the time to remind your son of just this.

 

[Ziggy]

Sure thought I was. Married her at 20.....and that was the biggest fucking disaster in my life to current.

Ditto. Except for my kids that I got out of it.

Ditto x2
I even have Grandkids from that disaster that are super awesome.

 

[milkmoney]

There was only two reasons to miss school in my house , when I was growing up.

1- work to be done ( which never happened, it was there when I got home from school )

2- your dead. , I am still here

I believe in the on/off switch. [emoji202]

 

[Mandelon]

Maybe Ratso can provide some mentoring. :skull

 

[Yellowboat]

Maybe Ratso can provide some mentoring. :skull

do you want him to knock up half the female population of his high school? :eek

 

[rvrrat350]

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[BHC Vic]

I wouldn't worry about defending your decision. I have known many very successful strong adults that couldn't get out of bed for a few days after a break up.

I didn't want to say it but that was me. I was pretty tore up. I'd get up go skate w friends and as soon as I was by myself that feeling came back and back into a ball I went. The break up was my fault. I don't look back and laugh but I look back and think about what happened. That break up did something inside me that made me want to be better. I went and got a job and did everything I could that I thought would impress her. Unfortunately she left w a coast guard guy and got married a week later. That was rough. I dated her from 15-18 I believe. I had also met my wife during that time so it's kind of strange the way life works. After that break up I refused to make another girl my girlfriend. That also worked against me because I lost some good girls just being a heart broken ass. I finally got with my wife at 23 we dated a while bought a house got married and here we are today [emoji4]

 

[BHC Vic]

Damn Skippy....at 16 you aren't with your life mate.

The friends I know w the strongest marriages have been together since 15/16. Looks like Shintoooo has a great marriage and they are high school sweethearts right? I don't know what age is right or wrong. I've always been a big believer in starting life early. I've gotten bashed on here for it before. Imo the sooner you get married buy a house and have kids the better. By the time I'm in my 50's I'm hoping to be done. House paid, kids in college or working, and me retired to enjoy my wife and grandkids. [emoji4]

 

[cicchetti_24]

I see people commenting about taking him out of school for the day, saying they would never do that. I have a different take on it myself. I think what you did was the right thing, nobody here on this board knows your family dynamic, or if there are any issues with your son emotionally etc... I think that doing what you did you showed support, compassion and helped him through a tough life lesson. What if he slipped into a depression over it, and his grades suffered. What if he withdrew from the social scene? What if he was already dealing with self esteem issues and contemplating suicide and you helped prevent that.

See, I see so many people trying to interject their beliefs on others, and it just boggles my mind. We are all different we handle things differently. I don't have kids, but what I would tell your son that this is only the beginning and to just focus on himself and enjoy the ride. Tell him he needs to lean on his friends as well. Such a crucial stage in life.

Good luck

 

[cicchetti_24]

We didn't send him to school for 2 reasons that being one and the second he had a problem with his two big toes and he would have had to leave school early anyways to go se the Podiatrist.

Don't explain yourself, you don't owe anyone an explanation on why you did what you did.

 

[jetboatperformance]

Of relationships .... An Old guy once told me when I was in mourning over a breakup "Marriages (Girls) are like Corvettes you need one to wreck and one to drive" ... probably not applicable regarding a highschool romance but sure was for my first marriage (lasted a year, second Marriage 42 years and counting

 

[guest hs]

My boy had a pretty good day yesterday. He sat with his friends at lunch his ex did not leave the set next to her open like usual so he just sat next to his best friend instead. The 2 of them did not say a word to each other all day. When I got home he wanted me to take him to get a hair cut and some manly supplys over at Target. The girl that sat in his usual seat next to his ex is now on his radar. So I told him to go for it he had a smile on his face. Im pretty happy how he has handled this situation.

 

[Old Texan]

My boy had a pretty good day yesterday. He sat with his friends at lunch his ex did not leave the set next to her open like usual so he just sat next to his best friend instead. The 2 of them did not say a word to each other all day. When I got home he wanted me to take him to get a hair cut and some manly supplys over at Target. The girl that sat in his usual seat next to his ex is now on his radar. So I told him to go for it he had a smile on his face. Im pretty happy how he has handled this situation.

Sounds like he's getting things straight upstairs.......No matter who this happens to, it effects a person, whether they admit it or not. The ability to rationalize the situation will make things easier to deal with, and it sounds like he's on that path.:thumbsup

 

[Mandelon]

At OUR age we know that high school breakups are not a big thing. Life will have plenty of ups and downs. But at HIS age it is serious as anything can be.

Try to make that sentiment make sense to him.

Remind him of a time when he was little and he lost a toy or his teddy bear's arm fell off and how he thought that was the end of the world....and it wasn't. Even while right now he feels awful....in a few weeks it will be better, and a month or two it will be ancient history.

 

[Dirtbag]

My boy had a pretty good day yesterday. He sat with his friends at lunch his ex did not leave the set next to her open like usual so he just sat next to his best friend instead. The 2 of them did not say a word to each other all day. When I got home he wanted me to take him to get a hair cut and some manly supplys over at Target. The girl that sat in his usual seat next to his ex is now on his radar. So I told him to go for it he had a smile on his face. Im pretty happy how he has handled this situation.

Attababy right back on the bike. I bet hes gonna drive that ex nuts. shes gonna want him back and hes gonna say nah im good! Tell him to get a couple more on his radar. High School is a target rich environment!

 

[oldschool]

The best way to forget old pussy is with new pussy.

 

[Ouderkirk]

I appreciate how he feels.

Your first girlfriend is...well, your first.

You should explain a few rules about dating though.

RULE 1 : If things don't work out, Do not ever go back....ever! (If it didn't work the first time, it's not going to work the second or third)

RULE 2 : Do not date more than one woman at a time. It teaches bad habits that people are disposable.

RULE 3 : Look into the future, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years. Is this person capable of being where you want to go?

I know he's young and this was the inevitable outcome of their relationship. I know a couple who have been together since they were 12 (7th grade) and are now in their mid 50's. An extremely rare exception to be sure.