Wife Making Boating Awkward

[941Punk]

I got a buddy who comes on my boat, at first everyone got along, then my wife didn't mesh with his wife and friends wives that they would bring. So this now puts me in a weird situation because if buddy and his wife or the other folks wives come on the boat, my wife will not go on the boat. I have no problem with anyone, just want to go to the sandbar and chill out.

So she has to mesh with everyone or she ain't going..

Anyone have to deal with this?

 

[82daytona]

I got a buddy who comes on my boat, at first everyone got along, then my wife didn't mesh with his wife and friends wives that they would bring. So this now puts me in a weird situation because if buddy and his wife or the other folks wives come on the boat, my wife will not go on the boat. I have no problem with anyone, just want to go to the sandbar and chill out.

So she has to mesh with everyone or she ain't going..

Anyone have to deal with this?

No. Wife comes first.

 

[Ziggy]

So I suppose she wants you to take of it for her and you don't really want to.[emoji19]

 

[BHC Vic]

No. Wife comes first.

Yup... Usually just invite her friends. I'll take mine out on guys trips

 

[cicchetti_24]

My ex-wife had some issues like that

When I get a new one she won't

Problem solved


Good though, and as said above the wife has to come first, is she really judgey and shit? Why didn't they mesh?

 

[LargeOrangeFont]

Clarify - So the friends wife that does not mesh invites other friends who do not mesh?

This is looking bad for you. Does alcohol help or hurt? Can you invite another couple that she does mesh with, maybe that will help?

We try to vet people thoroughly before we invite them to the river with us. 100% success rate so far.

We have had a non mesh experience before, but they had their own boat and own place to stay, so that was easy to escape from.

 

[941Punk]

No. Wife comes first.

Completely.

That was the foundation of the post. I like everyone's company but if it means she won't go, then I got to figure out how to tell them to pound sand. Something I really don't want to do.

 

[She's Mine]

I got a buddy who comes on my boat, at first everyone got along, then my wife didn't mesh with his wife and friends wives that they would bring. So this now puts me in a weird situation because if buddy and his wife or the other folks wives come on the boat, my wife will not go on the boat. I have no problem with anyone, just want to go to the sandbar and chill out.

So she has to mesh with everyone or she ain't going..

Anyone have to deal with this?

My ex was like that, but come to find out after our divorce non of my friends liked her. They all tolerated her because she was my wife. With that said, I always put the wife first. Remember she is your partner. Try to find out what happened. Maybe one of the ladies said something or was too flirtatious, etc?

I took my current fiance' to the river once and the girls were hanging out and the guys were hanging out. Seemed like we were all having a good time until the trip home when she told me the most in-depth conversation the girls had was, which brand suntan lotion smells best. I cracked up laughing and just asked, which one is her favorite? lol

 

[941Punk]

Clarify - So the friends wife that does not mesh invites other friends who do not mesh?

This is looking bad for you. Does alcohol help or hurt?

We vet people before we invite them to the river with us. 100% success rate so far.

It's people that we have met a few times so it was cool. I don't want the wife to have to get buzzed to be able to hang with people. There is an age gap since we are in our 40s and these folks are older. it is SW Florida and all.

 

[Outdrive1]

Ditch the friend.

 

[HaulsBalls]

Unfortunately you need to side with your wife on this one. I've been there and the bitching doesn't end once you get off the water from the day! I'm sure your buddy will understand, guys get it for the most part.

 

[941Punk]

Ditch the friend.

She's cool with the friend but not his wife. lol

I think all women hate each other.

 

[DaveH]

while I agree the wife needs to come first and you have her back....this needs to be a two way street, meaning she should have tolerance and understanding for your wishes too.

with that said...what are her actual complaints.....beyond "doesn't mesh"....and can you see them as valid?

I am guessing that your wife's firm stance against these people...not willing to go boating also spills over to other things in life she is uncomfortable with. kind of a recipe for disaster IMO.

 

[JD D05]

Not much you can do other than move on, that is a super shitty position to be in. Boating tension sucks.

 

[boatnam2]

So do you all hang out when not on the boat?

 

[YoPengo]

I got a buddy who comes on my boat, at first everyone got along, then my wife didn't mesh with his wife and friends wives that they would bring. So this now puts me in a weird situation because if buddy and his wife or the other folks wives come on the boat, my wife will not go on the boat. I have no problem with anyone, just want to go to the sandbar and chill out.

So she has to mesh with everyone or she ain't going..

Anyone have to deal with this?

Story of my life... My wife is a stubborn Irish lady. She does not hide her emotions well and has scary womanly intuition... If she doesn't like you... you know it and it becomes uncomfortable for everyone.

Now I can hate your guts and you'd never know it.

 

[SBMech]

Women are hard on each other.

If you have more than 3 couples you both get along with, consider yourself lucky

Happy wife, Happy life. Ditch the friend and the backup bringing wife. It's your wifes boat too..right?

Give her the benefit of the doubt and just eliminate the problem.

 

[mash on it]

I got a buddy who comes on my boat, at first everyone got along, then my wife didn't mesh with his wife and friends wives that they would bring. So this now puts me in a weird situation because if buddy and his wife or the other folks wives come on the boat, my wife will not go on the boat. I have no problem with anyone, just want to go to the sandbar and chill out.

So she has to mesh with everyone or she ain't going..

Anyone have to deal with this?

If she doesn't go, who launches/retrieves the boat?

I have no problem not catering to other people when I go boating. They are on my time, which is river time.

With women, its always hens cackling.

Good luck.

Dan'l

 

[Andy01]

Ditch them all and use the boat to find a new wife with hot friends........ :drink J/k

That's a tough deal, does the other women know your wife doesn't like her? I'd say ditch the friends or if you really enjoy them then do some bar nights or a afternoon with them. There's a old saying "don't crew mix" and it's very true. Don't mix crews, and sometimes your own crew can't mesh with others. Move on................

 

[Ziggy]

So I suppose she wants you to take of it for her and you don't really want to.[emoji19]

Completely.

That was the foundation of the post. I like everyone's company but if it means she won't go, then I got to figure out how to tell them to pound sand. Something I really don't want to do.

I wasn't too far off the mark[emoji6]
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There are a few folks we simply stopped inviting along.[emoji41] Life in the home is less stressful that way.[emoji106]

 

[lebel409]

I don't know why, but some women (including mine LOL) will walk into a room and frost up...did you see how she looked at me? Instant defensive posturing, picking every nit, everyone to their corners.

Nothing to be done except stagger trips if you want to hang with your friend.

 

[Flying_Lavey]

while I agree the wife needs to come first and you have her back....this needs to be a two way street, meaning she should have tolerance and understanding for your wishes too.

with that said...what are her actual complaints.....beyond "doesn't mesh"....and can you see them as valid?

I am guessing that your wife's firm stance against these people...not willing to go boating also spills over to other things in life she is uncomfortable with. kind of a recipe for disaster IMO.

This is what I'd be leary of.

 

[941Punk]

If she doesn't go, who launches/retrieves the boat?

I have no problem not catering to other people when I go boating. They are on my time, which is river time.

With women, its always hens cackling.

Good luck.

Dan'l

I do it all since no one is a boater or even drives a truck.. or listens country music now that I think about it..

Holy hell, I miss my AZ / Cali friends.. I didn't have to deal with this there. lol

 

[boatdoc55]

I'm the luckiest guy in the world, my wife of 37 years gets along with everybody and there isn't anybody that doesn't like her. If there's a problem with anybody it's normally me getting pissed at some one. The wife comes first EVERY time.

 

[JD D05]

I do it all since no one is a boater or even drives a truck.. or listens country music now that I think about it..

Holy hell, I miss my AZ / Cali friends.. I didn't have to deal with this there. lol

you make sandwiches to?

 

[JD D05]

Not saying this is happening here but usually if the invites are hotter than we have a problem.

 

[mbrown2]

while I agree the wife needs to come first and you have her back....this needs to be a two way street, meaning she should have tolerance and understanding for your wishes too.

with that said...what are her actual complaints.....beyond "doesn't mesh"....and can you see them as valid?

I am guessing that your wife's firm stance against these people...not willing to go boating also spills over to other things in life she is uncomfortable with. kind of a recipe for disaster IMO.

Ditto...wife comes first but she needs to be flexible and participate even if she don't like the friends. I hang out with family and friends I question all the time but do so as it is a partnership.

 

[941Punk]

Not saying this is happening here but usually if the invites are hotter than we have a problem.

It's the other way around here. My wife is hot and the women in question seem to nick pick at my wife and she had enough of them.

One time one of the women mooned her big ass to a ferry boat that had kids on it, that was the last straw.

 

[djunkie]

My ex was like that, but come to find out after our divorce non of my friends liked her. They all tolerated her because she was my wife. With that said, I always put the wife first. Remember she is your partner. Try to find out what happened. Maybe one of the ladies said something or was too flirtatious, etc?

I took my current fiance' to the river once and the girls were hanging out and the guys were hanging out. Seemed like we were all having a good time until the trip home when she told me the most in-depth conversation the girls had was, which brand suntan lotion smells best. I cracked up laughing and just asked, which one is her favorite? lol

Amazing what you find out after you split up with someone. I learned all kinds of stuff about how my family and some friends thought of her after my wife and I separated. I had no idea.

 

[Sandlord]

I need to see pics of the wife, her girlfriends, and your buddy's wives/girlfriends before I can make a recommendation.

 

[HALLETT BOY]

Yea , I remember when I was young and had those issues , as you get older , you'll learn to just go with your wife or only invite a select few .

 

[Jefftowz]

You know the answer, Carrie is more important!

 

[jetboatperformance]

I'd Hire a Hot Boating Call girl for the boating day , someone told me theres a service like that in Havasu :cool

 

[Icky]

Get a girlfriend that likes your friends for times your wife can't go

 

[941Punk]

You know the answer, Carrie is more important!

Oh I know this...

 

[JD D05]

It's the other way around here. My wife is hot and the women in question seem to nick pick at my wife and she had enough of them.

One time one of the women mooned her big ass to a ferry boat that had kids on it, that was the last straw.

OK ya I don't blame your wife.

 

[Racey]

Amazing what you find out after you split up with someone. I learned all kinds of stuff about how my family and some friends thought of her after my wife and I separated. I had no idea.

Your friends are damned if they do, damned if they don't.....

Your buddy pulls you aside and says "Bro, your chick is a f*ckin c*nt, what the hell are you thinking?"

Now he's the asshole, wife/gf catches wind of it, absolutely hates you now, makes it super awkward to be around so your friendship starts naturally dissolving.


After you split up "Dude, if you saw it coming why didn't you say something?"




I bite my tongue... As Hulk Hogan said "Everyone cuts their own deal brother"

 

[djunkie]

Your friends are damned if they do, damned if they don't.....

Your buddy pulls you aside and says "Bro, your chick is a f*ckin c*nt, what the hell are you thinking?"

Now he's the asshole, wife/gf catches wind of it, absolutely hates you now, makes it super awkward to be around so your friendship starts naturally dissolving.


After you split up "Dude, if you saw it coming why didn't you say something?"




I bite my tongue... As Hulk Hogan said "Everyone cuts their own deal brother"

Pretty much. Most just said they didn't want to say anything about her. I was extremely shocked at some of the things my family revealed to me.

 

[Flying_Lavey]

It's the other way around here. My wife is hot and the women in question seem to nick pick at my wife and she had enough of them.

One time one of the women mooned her big ass to a ferry boat that had kids on it, that was the last straw.

Sounds like your wife probably has reason to feel that way. I found found girls (don't matter hold old they are, if they do that kind of shut, they're girls) that do that shit are not good ones to be around and it's usually pretty easy to spot them cause they go through "outside" friends like toilet paper.

 

[River Lynchmob]

I'm pretty lucky...my wife for the most part is pretty easy going and gets along with most people...if she doesn't then there's a pretty good chance they are the problem...me on the other hand...

 

[Racey]

me on the other hand...

:lmao

 

[Ziggy]

Pretty much. Most just said they didn't want to say anything about her. I was extremely shocked at some of the things my family revealed to me.

Lol, my son is getting the same thing now that he's divorced. Hanging out with friends he hadn't in years...friends that dropped him and wife years ago because they couldn't stand her.[emoji1]

 

[DaveC]

Maybe thats the problem.

You have a younger wife than them so maybe they are jealous.

But who knows?? Nobody understands women anyway

It's people that we have met a few times so it was cool. I don't want the wife to have to get buzzed to be able to hang with people. There is an age gap since we are in our 40s and these folks are older. it is SW Florida and all.

Besides you need younger friends anyway

 

[Jimmy]

My Misses works in HR so she makes money by judging people and she's good at holding a grudge too.
I just tell her to relax and/or ignore it, then I get a ear bashing all the way home and everytime said person comes up in conversation.

 

[Activated]

You and her should plan a day out on the boat alone...and then annoy the shit out of her all day. Get drunk, run around naked, pester her for some booty constantly...she will be glad for any other company she can get on the boat after that.

I only had to fuck the laundry up once to never have to do it again. :skull


Obviously your wife comes first, maybe mix in some "boys" trips so you can hang out with your buddy occasionally.

 

[DaveH]

I'm pretty lucky...my wife for the most part is pretty easy going and gets along with most people...if she doesn't then there's a pretty good chance they are the problem...me on the other hand...

just ask Dusty.:finger

 

[BigSteve]

I will take women as far as the houseboat and drop them off.
Then escape with the guys, in the boats.
Girls like comfort. Boys preference is performance
If the guys are gone the women don't have a audience to compete in.
Just saying

 

[River Lynchmob]

just ask Dusty.:finger

Dick

 

[Hullbilly]

I believe the Sugar Hill Gang have your answer.....

Ho-tel, mo-tel, Holiday Inn,
Say if your girl starts actin' up, then you take her friend.

 

[brgrcru]

i never invite any one. buy your own shit.:skull