Tween's

[rvrmom]

Maybe payback's are a bitch LOL I am over this new lippy bs. This is a whole new territory to me.:skull Love my kid but jeezus he is testing me.:thumbsdown:thumbsdown

 

[CampbellCarl]

Put a stop to the testing ASAP! Punch him in the face, kick him in the nuts, take his bedroom door off of the hinges, yank his I-phone....

Get his attention NOW or he'll test you out of your sanity...I know that I did....

C

 

[shintoooo]

A whooping works wonders

 

[nordictom]

Put a stop to the testing ASAP! Punch him in the face, kick him in the nuts, take his bedroom door off of the hinges, yank his I-phone....

Get his attention NOW or he'll test you out of your sanity...I know that I did....

C

I didn't need to do any of that, just put them in year round sports, by the time they get home, they're falling asleep doing homework.........LOL. good for me:thumbup:

 

[CampbellCarl]

Perhaps I should have reversed the order...yank the phone, then the door, then the nutz.......you know, a progressive discipline plan....

 

[dezertrider]

Nip it in the but quickly! The sooner the better. My daughter tested me a few weeks ago and that didn't work out well for her. Now she back to being normal

 

[JB in so cal]

Can't you just put 'em down and make more?:headscratch:

 

[was thatguy]

I threw the boy in the pool at 13 YO or so.....

May not sound like much but consider it was February and about 40* outside.......

It worked.

 

[ROC]

Put a stop to the testing ASAP! Punch him in the face, kick him in the nuts, take his bedroom door off of the hinges, yank his I-phone....

Get his attention NOW or he'll test you out of your sanity...I know that I did....

C

Teenagers can be a handful

It ain't easy raising one. Been there done that and still doing that. Tough love momma.

 

[was thatguy]

Teenagers can be a handful

It ain't easy raising one. Been there done that and still doing that. Tough love momma.

It ain't easy, thats for sure.

You don't want to break that spirit, but they gotta be saddled...

 

[RiverDave]

God I'm not looking forward to those years.. At 2 years old the "no no" and temper tantrums when we turn off the TV are enough to drive you batshit crazy..

RD

 

[rvrmom]

A whooping works wonders

Me and the wooden spoon were on a first hand basis

 

[Sun burners]

Did the door thing, Drove to the bad boys home, Then signed the boy up in the Junior Marines!

 

[rvrmom]

God I'm not looking forward to those years.. At 2 years old the "no no" and temper tantrums when we turn off the TV are enough to drive you batshit crazy..

RD[/QUOT

Yea your screwed LOL. This shit came out of now where. And I have raised a nice kid and you have too. Here was then ending of the conversation.. You wanna say that again... No.... that's what I thought LOL

 

[Ziggy]

Did the door thing a few times but my daughter just stapled her bedspread to the wall....lmao
My son was easier:headscratch:.............. or maybe I was younger and had more energy to fight it
.
It's gonna run its course and all you can do is remind him of the "proper way".....your patience will be on high demand.

 

[was thatguy]

Just wear one of these shirts?

Or...

 

[TPC]

keep them busy.

 

[milkmoney]

Me and the wooden spoon were on a first hand basis

Lol poor Ryan. He is such a god kid.

But on the other hand - I will come over for that wooden spoon. Sounds like a goodtime to me.

 

[shintoooo]

Lol poor Ryan. He is such a god kid.

But on the other hand - I will come over for that wooden spoon. Sounds like a goodtime to me.

You asking to get spanked by Rvrmom? :eek

 

[TPC]

If you don't stop it the unappreciative attitude and disrespect grows and expands and your life will suck.

 

[welldigger00]

My wife and I have a 13 year old boy and 11 year old girl. My brother and his skankimeanwife has 6 year old twins. My wife and I did not subscribe to the "time out theory". We believe in the "corporal punishment "theory. Since my kids were young(terrible 2's) they learned about cause and effect. We haven't needed to spank either one since about seven years old, as they fully understand consequence, and that we will carry out the punishment. My brother and his (you know) would say things like "we don't beat our kids" or "we operate in a form of currency that they understand, like take away their binky"
Now that their kids have grown up a little, they are complete animals. They ruin furniture and appliances at will, throw temper tantrums at the drop of the hat, until they get paid off with bribes, because of the " operate in common currency" mentality. They believe that they have ADHD, or learning disabilities, or whatever thing they can come up with, to not recognize the problem is solely theirs in the making.
Now I'm not saying that either one is wrong or right, I'm just saying my kids have grown up to be respectful, and accountable, even though they are still just starting teenage years. I know I've got a lot coming our way yet, but like I said, they know that a punishment will be carried out that fits the offense.

 

[rvrmom]

Put a stop to the testing ASAP! Punch him in the face, kick him in the nuts, take his bedroom door off of the hinges, yank his I-phone....

Get his attention NOW or he'll test you out of your sanity...I know that I did....

C

Here is the problem with that... a big problem. I am divorced and dealing with a lippy kid and PITA ex husband. Last time I took the phone away the cops were involved :thumbsdown. I took the phone away and he freaked the hell out... big time. Emailed his Dad to come get him because Mommy was being mean. Dad comes over with the police to try and 'get' him. That didn't work out so well LOL. The cops apologized to me for bothering me. See his Dad claims that if I take the phone and computer away I am cutting off communication and that Ryan's phone is not mine to take away. It's not my property.

Hey Dave I'll spank you if you want LOL. Because Ryan didn't get a spanking.

I'm in between a rock and hard spot because I have someone working against me and not with me from a parenting standpoint. I'm laying down the law and the other one just wants to be the Disneyland Dad good guy. I'm getting played is what's happening.

I'm thinking a little come to Jesus meeting with my Dad is in order.

 

[whiteworks]

Here is the problem with that... a big problem. I am divorced and dealing with a lippy kid and PITA ex husband. Last time I took the phone away the cops were involved :thumbsdown. I took the phone away and he freaked the hell out... big time. Emailed his Dad to come get him because Mommy was being mean. Dad comes over with the police to try and 'get' him. That didn't work out so well LOL. The cops apologized to me for bothering me. See his Dad claims that if I take the phone and computer away I am cutting off communication and that Ryan's phone is not mine to take away. It's not my property.

Hey Dave I'll spank you if you want LOL. Because Ryan didn't get a spanking.

I'm in between a rock and hard spot because I have someone working against me and not with me from a parenting standpoint. I'm laying down the law and the other one just wants to be the Disneyland Dad good guy. I'm getting played is what's happening.

I'm thinking a little come to Jesus meeting with my Dad is in order.

I'd be happy to pass along church got Ronnie's contact information, he's always looking for some souls to save

 

[Buoy]

Here is the problem with that... a big problem. I am divorced and dealing with a lippy kid and PITA ex husband. Last time I took the phone away the cops were involved :thumbsdown. I took the phone away and he freaked the hell out... big time. Emailed his Dad to come get him because Mommy was being mean. Dad comes over with the police to try and 'get' him. That didn't work out so well LOL. The cops apologized to me for bothering me. See his Dad claims that if I take the phone and computer away I am cutting off communication and that Ryan's phone is not mine to take away. It's not my property.

I went through that with the phone and "calling mom".
She got her phone taken away, but could "call mom" then the phone went back on the kitchen counter.
Next thing you know, she wants to "call mom" every hour...:rolleyes Check phone history, and, well, you know...
Email, Facebook... NOPE

The thing is, I'm tough on her, and don't put up with shit - and she knows it.
Her mother lets her walk all over her. The attitude is night and day from when she is with me, or with her mom.

I'm a firm believer that you should never have an argument with your kid, you're always right (even when you're wrong).

 

[Yldboyz]

Now you tell me

 

[rvrmom]

I went through that with the phone and "calling mom".
She got her phone taken away, but could "call mom" then the phone went back on the kitchen counter.
Next thing you know, she wants to "call mom" every hour...:rolleyes Check phone history, and, well, you know...
Email, Facebook... NOPE

The thing is, I'm tough on her, and don't put up with shit - and she knows it.
Her mother lets her walk all over her. The attitude is night and day from when she is with me, or with her mom.

I'm a firm believer that you should never have an argument with your kid, you're always right (even when you're wrong).

I want to punt this phone :skull Here is the kicker...I get a text last night.... Give Ryan his phone back. I've called 5 times and he is not answering..

Ryan.. Daddy is texting me I have your phone. Where is it? My backpack :rolleyes

 

[shintoooo]

Hate to tell you this but the problem here is not Ryan. The problem here is you and dad, the two adults. You need to put aside your differences and get together and act like parents. I hope for Ryan's sake that you guys can work this out like two responsible adults. Good luck to you rvrmom.

 

[rvrmom]

Hate to tell you this but the problem here is not Ryan. The problem here is you and dad, the two adults. You need to put aside your differences and get together and act like parents. I hope for Ryan's sake that you guys can work this out like two responsible adults. Good luck to you rvrmom.

I agree with you 110%

 

[rivermobster]

Hate to tell you this but the problem here is not Ryan. The problem here is you and dad, the two adults. You need to put aside your differences and get together and act like parents. I hope for Ryan's sake that you guys can work this out like two responsible adults. Good luck to you rvrmom.

I dunno...

I've met all of these people. And I have a sneeky feeling, the kid is playing them both!

Parent meeting for sure. I think I know who's gonna loose...

 

[h2o225]

When the neighbors divorced their daughter turned into a manipulating bitch at 12 yr old. We stayed out of it til one day she involved us. I went to her dad who is off his rocker at times and told him. If you want your daughter to be a big pain in the ass just keep doing what you are doing. He would bad mouth his ex all the time the daughter. He would do just the opposite of what his ex was doing parenting wise. Then I went to the ex told her the same thing. Then I told the daughter to quit using her parents against each other. They are both still mom and dad and you need to respect them and stop using them to your perspective advantage because it will get bad..

Flash forward 2 years dad is being a dick to ex tells her it her fault that daughter does not respect him. Daughter lives with dad. Short time later the daughter gets in big trouble at school and instead of calling dad she calls mom to help her get out of trouble. Mom calls ex and tells him they are both going to the school. When they both walked in the daughter nearly shit. According to both of them. From that day on both parents now get together once a month to discuss issues good or bad. Both mom and dad still dont get along, but have figured out they still have to raise THEIR daughter.

The daughter still come over to the house and is always respectable to us. We still talk to her mom who lives across from us. Dad is still in town and we talk every once in a while.

My kids it was let the beatings begin. Except my daughter you could spank her and her look was is that all you got.

 

[Buoy]

I want to punt this phone :skull Here is the kicker...I get a text last night.... Give Ryan his phone back. I've called 5 times and he is not answering..

Ryan.. Daddy is texting me I have your phone. Where is it? My backpack :rolleyes

HaHa! Yeah, more than once I got a call from the ex-wife "Tell Lex if she doesn't return my phone calls I'll stop paying for her phone".

Lex would also make sure the ringer on her phone was on silent all the time.

I grounded her from Facebook, she's down in her room, and my wife is on Facebook and sees Lex online. WTF, she has an old flip phone with no internet. Find out she's talking to a friend who is logged into her account and posting for her. When I confronted her, she went with the "I thought it was OK" defense:rolleyes

The thing is, she gets away with this shit with her mother, because she is smarter than her mother.
I don't tolerate it.

 

[PVHCA]

My son is spoiled yet very respectful, he only needed one "come to Jesus" talk!!

 

[milkmoney]

On another note. Hell ya Rvrmom I will glady let u spank me over a few cocktails.

On a good note: I really hope this gets worked out.

 

[Yellowboat]

I didn't need to do any of that, just put them in year round sports, by the time they get home, they're falling asleep doing homework.........LOL. good for me:thumbup:

yep. my parents did this too me, that and the fear of a good ass kicking when i got home,



btw some times you can't get their phone with out a fight, so grab the charger and kill the service. or like me, take a hammer to the phone, only thing that actually worked. you have the phone becuase i want to know where you are, who are you with and what time you will be home. if i can't get ahold of you right away, you don't need 'your' phone.

 

[Ziggy]

I'm thinking a little come to Jesus meeting with my Dad is in order.

You need to have that meeting with your ex and make sure he fully understands that Ryan is #1 priority for you both. As ugly as my divorce was 27 years ago the one thing my ex and I did was try to keep our son out of our struggles and fights.

Hate to tell you this but the problem here is not Ryan. The problem here is you and dad, the two adults. You need to put aside your differences and get together and act like parents. I hope for Ryan's sake that you guys can work this out like two responsible adults. Good luck to you rvrmom.

:thumbsup:thumbsup

 

[was thatguy]

My wife and I have a 13 year old boy and 11 year old girl. My brother and his skankimeanwife has 6 year old twins. My wife and I did not subscribe to the "time out theory". We believe in the "corporal punishment "theory. Since my kids were young(terrible 2's) they learned about cause and effect. We haven't needed to spank either one since about seven years old, as they fully understand consequence, and that we will carry out the punishment. My brother and his (you know) would say things like "we don't beat our kids" or "we operate in a form of currency that they understand, like take away their binky"
Now that their kids have grown up a little, they are complete animals. They ruin furniture and appliances at will, throw temper tantrums at the drop of the hat, until they get paid off with bribes, because of the " operate in common currency" mentality. They believe that they have ADHD, or learning disabilities, or whatever thing they can come up with, to not recognize the problem is solely theirs in the making.
Now I'm not saying that either one is wrong or right, I'm just saying my kids have grown up to be respectful, and accountable, even though they are still just starting teenage years. I know I've got a lot coming our way yet, but like I said, they know that a punishment will be carried out that fits the offense.

You should meet my BIL and his .....I don't even know what to call her.

They have a nest of tweens and teens, maybe 5 or so total, AND 2 live in boyfriends (Adolpho and Jorge) of the older teens who already have babies.
The 2 older sluts are like 19/ 20 YO and will NEVER leave..they now force the parents to raise the babies while they lock themselves in the room smoking pot and making more babies.

BIG TIME preachers of passive child raising techniques.
It's a fricken disaster.

Each kid has a court appointed attorney contact, and a court ordered cell phone to make those contacts.
None of the kids are "theirs", and the exes live for raining trouble on my BIL and his wench...for good reason.

They will call a parent at work and demand a new phone, and if the dad or mom says no for ANY reason the attorney gets a call.
I have seen them drop everything and I mean everything to run a kid somewhere or to the phone store for a new phone.
They lose them in a week and demand another.

It's mostly the wife who runs the show, my BIL will be a tower shooter almost for certain one day.
Last time I saw him he had a cast on his arm for breaking it when he put his fist through a wall and hit a stud....

We NEVER go there...and it sucks because away from the chaos, my BIL is an OK guy.

He comes down and sees us now and then (under STRICT orders to bring NONE of the hellions) and we try and try to get him to change his approach but it ain't happening.

Destroy Furniture??? They burned down a whole fucking house once!
Court ordered them to move into another house on assistance, after the brats filed a suit for non compliance with court ordered level of housing.
Those kids know how to work the system better than ANY inner city welfare recipient.

They have social service contacts on speed dial, and constantly force the parents to move to different houses, provide all the gadgets, etc.

They got THEMSELVES diagnosed with all manner of symptoms to justify their BS.

The latest is one of the boys got himself labeled: "Oppositional defiant disorder"....:rolleyes

I told Debbie: "I had that once...my Dad cured me the same day..."

You really have to see it to grasp what I am conveying here.

They live in a Lib stronghold just over the river from Portland, and have regular meetings with all their unemployed, assisted living genius friends about liberal political agendas and the latest child rearing challenges and obstacles....he even writes a demented blog about it....

I want to just slap every one of those know it all idiots. They gave Debbie an earful last time She visited her brother, on his 40th, for flying in a fuel burning jet and renting a non green car to visit him. (Mustang convertible)

They said: "What, are you so rich that you just jump on a plane and fly whenever you want"..She said "Are you so worthless that you can't visit your brother on his birthday?"

They made her cry and she flew back the next morning. I almost got on a plane to go there when she told me about it.
The best way to picture it is to watch the movie "Mad House" with Kirstie Ally and John Laroquette.

 

[welldigger00]

You should meet my BIL and his .....I don't even know what to call her.

They have a nest of tweens and teens, maybe 5 or so total, AND 2 live in boyfriends (Adolpho and Jorge) of the older teens who already have babies.
The 2 older sluts are like 19/ 20 YO and will NEVER leave..they now force the parents to raise the babies while they lock themselves in the room smoking pot and making more babies.

BIG TIME preachers of passive child raising techniques.
It's a fricken disaster.

Each kid has a court appointed attorney contact, and a court ordered cell phone to make those contacts.
None of the kids are "theirs", and the exes live for raining trouble on my BIL and his wench...for good reason.

They will call a parent at work and demand a new phone, and if the dad or mom says no for ANY reason the attorney gets a call.
I have seen them drop everything and I mean everything to run a kid somewhere or to the phone store for a new phone.
They lose them in a week and demand another.

It's mostly the wife who runs the show, my BIL will be a tower shooter almost for certain one day.
Last time I saw him he had a cast on his arm for breaking it when he put his fist through a wall and hit a stud....

We NEVER go there...and it sucks because away from the chaos, my BIL is an OK guy.

He comes down and sees us now and then (under STRICT orders to bring NONE of the hellions) and we try and try to get him to change his approach but it ain't happening.

Destroy Furniture??? They burned down a whole fucking house once!
Court ordered them to move into another house on assistance, after the brats filed a suit for non compliance with court ordered level of housing.
Those kids know how to work the system better than ANY inner city welfare recipient.

They have social service contacts on speed dial, and constantly force the parents to move to different houses, provide all the gadgets, etc.

They got THEMSELVES diagnosed with all manner of symptoms to justify their BS.

The latest is one of the boys got himself labeled: "Oppositional defiant disorder"....:rolleyes

I told Debbie: "I had that once...my Dad cured me the same day..."

You really have to see it to grasp what I am conveying here.

They live in a Lib stronghold just over the river from Portland, and have regular meetings with all their unemployed, assisted living genius friends about liberal political agendas and the latest child rearing challenges and obstacles....he even writes a demented blog about it....

I want to just slap every one of those know it all idiots. They gave Debbie an earful last time She visited her brother, on his 40th, for flying in a fuel burning jet and renting a non green car to visit him. (Mustang convertible)

They said: "What, are you so rich that you just jump on a plane and fly whenever you want"..She said "Are you so worthless that you can't visit your brother on his birthday?"

They made her cry and she flew back the next morning. I almost got on a plane to go there when she told me about it.
The best way to picture it is to watch the movie "Mad House" with Kirstie Ally and John Laroquette.

Holy shit. That is well beyond insane. How did he allow that to happen?

 

[was thatguy]

Holy shit. That is well beyond insane. How did he allow that to happen?

In Summary?

That's where you end up with "reactive-parenting" versus "pro-active" parenting.