So what comes next?

[whiteworks]

She wanted a wedding, we had one
She wanted a baby, we had one
She wanted a nice home, we have one.

Guess what its my turn, what to do with this fine life?

 

[RiverDave]

She wanted a wedding, we had one
She wanted a baby, we had one
She wanted a nice home, we have one.

Guess what its my turn, what to do with this fine life?

I would start with collecting toys and tools..

RD

 

[whiteworks]

I would start with collecting toys and tools..

RD

I'm kinda over the toy thing right now, besides the shit I want is way out of my income bracket and requires a support staff to make it happen. As far as tools go, I'll always collect tools, you know for business n shit. That stuffs all superficial for the most part compared to the hers wish list. The wedding and the house eh, but the kid is badass :thumbsup

 

[rivermobster]

She wanted a wedding, we had one
She wanted a baby, we had one
She wanted a nice home, we have one.

Guess what its my turn, what to do with this fine life?

Guns. Really big guns...

 

[Vmjtc3]

Invest it, you may be rich as a business owner but you will become truly wealthy when your investments mean you can survive indefinitely with out having to work................

 

[whiteworks]

If you're like most, it's DIVORCE. :rotflmao:

Funny and sadly true. We have what I like to call a feet first marrige, only way out is feet first.

 

[Lavey5150]

You could get her/you a girlfriend?

 

[C-2]

She wanted a wedding, we had one
She wanted a baby, we had one
She wanted a nice home, we have one.

Guess what its my turn, what to do with this fine life?

Hold on Slim Shady; You're just getting started:

She'll want to renew the vows
She'll want another baby
She want a bigger home for the new baby

Sorry

 

[whiteworks]

You could get her/you a girlfriend?

One chick is enough BS to deal with, why anyone would want 2 is beyond me.

 

[Tom Brown]

I see you've lost your way. Maybe some advice from Ratso will help you find the path?

 

[whiteworks]

Hold on Slim Shady; You're just getting started:

She'll want to renew the vows
She'll want another baby
She want a bigger home for the new baby

Sorry

Denied
Denied
Denied

 

[JBS]

You could get her/you a girlfriend?

Hey take that shit over to RC:rotflmao:

 

[Yellowboat]

Denied
Denied
Denied

guess who is going to get denied...

 

[whiteworks]

I see you've lost your way. Maybe some advice from Ratso will help you find the path?

Actually not so much, were in an odd spot in life. Both of our parents are around and we have this sweet little girl that keeps us on our toes. Kinda looking both directions at this point and relizing we are up to bat in life (so to speak)

 

[whiteworks]

guess who is going to get denied...

:bang:

 

[Flyinbowtie]

You know what?
Take some time and make some memories with your daughter, get ready for camping, boating, Disneyland, all the fun things you can think of to do with her that you can get done before she is in school full time. Take lots of pics of the trips to show her later on.
Once she hits 3rd-4th grade ya gotta get her serious about squeezing all she can out of her education. Then, all you have with her is time on weekends and summers, until she gets into a sport or other activity(s) that keep you and Momma using up squares on the calendar.
The only "toys' that matter for awhile are the ones you can share as a family. A camp trailer or a family boat or whatever direction you want to take her, get set to do it. I know you have dreams of showing her the world as you know it, the river, the mountains, etc.
Don't think too long, tho, Dylan. Time begins speeding up when she is around 10 and the next thing you know she will be after a drivers license and then college and the time you have with her will become a rare and precious thing.
You are coming into some of the best years of your life. Live them for all they are worth.

 

[Fltplan]

nicely put.....

 

[PVHCA]

One chick is enough BS to deal with, why anyone would want 2 is beyond me.

I seem to handle it quite well, LOL!!

 

[Outlaw]

Have another child or two:thumbsup if you think one is great
Three is beyond words:thumbsup

 

[rivermobster]

You know what?
Take some time and make some memories with your daughter, get ready for camping, boating, Disneyland, all the fun things you can think of to do with her that you can get done before she is in school full time. Take lots of pics of the trips to show her later on.
Once she hits 3rd-4th grade ya gotta get her serious about squeezing all she can out of her education. Then, all you have with her is time on weekends and summers, until she gets into a sport or other activity(s) that keep you and Momma using up squares on the calendar.
The only "toys' that matter for awhile are the ones you can share as a family. A camp trailer or a family boat or whatever direction you want to take her, get set to do it. I know you have dreams of showing her the world as you know it, the river, the mountains, etc.
Don't think too long, tho, Dylan. Time begins speeding up when she is around 10 and the next thing you know she will be after a drivers license and then college and the time you have with her will become a rare and precious thing.
You are coming into some of the best years of your life. Live them for all they are worth.

enjoy the moment. nice. :thumbsup

 

[Tom Brown]

Have another child or two:thumbsup

Yes. Have several children. You can't have too many. :thumbsup

I believe the children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they possess inside. Go ahead and give them a sense of pride.

I can't have children on account of a skill saw accident but I can live vicariously through people like you, Dylan.

 

[whiteworks]

I seem to handle it quite well, LOL!!

Yeah about that

Have another child or two:thumbsup if you think one is great
Three is beyond words:thumbsup

Were good but I can see your point:thumbsup

 

[Johnny_5]

She wanted a wedding, we had one
She wanted a baby, we had one
She wanted a nice home, we have one.

Guess what its my turn, what to do with this fine life?

I'd say keep up the good work. You're obviously committed to your wife, and child, now it's time to create memories, and enjoy these years.

When I decided to do these things in my life, I came to grips with the fact that I would probably never do anything substationally (out of the ordinary) for myself again. I was OK with this, and that's why I proceeded. I should mention that I did make it quite clear that throughout our life together, there are things that I would like to accomplish, so it's a good thing we were on the same page from jump street.

 

[Ziggy]

Build your memories for sure...my daughter is about to graduate HS then my nest will be empty. Seemed like yesterday she wasn't even able to reach the light switch.
Time flies.

 

[Tom Brown]

My experience may not be all that valid here, since I'm barren of offspring but I've got a few minutes to kill....

Until I got well into my 40s, I put quite a bit of energy into worrying about what I was going to be when I grew up. I always wanted to go to medical school and become a doctor. I admire what they do but I always knew I didn't have the drive to dedicate myself to that profession the way the people I admire do. I don't have the drive to dedicate myself to any profession for the rest of my life. The thought seems like a jail sentence.

These days, I'm not all that happy with my job. But then, I'm not unhappy with it, either. Mostly, I'm happy to have funding for my home renovation projects. It helps that I like the people I work with and I'm good at what I do.

It feels like I have a wider perspective now. It happened quite suddenly. Everything just sort of became clear.

I no longer care about being a 40 year master of any particular trade. I'm a bit of a savant. I've done quite a bit of different stuff and I've specialized in a couple of things but nothing I'm likely to be doing a few years from now. Maybe that's OK?

I've come to the realization I can support myself and do the things I want any number of ways. That was a revelation. While I can't stop working, I feel an inner strength and durability I never did before. I no longer worry about much of anything.

All that said, studies have shown men to have significant angst in their 20s and 30s. It would seem men typically become comfortable with themselves and happy sometime between the age of 40~43. Apparently, it's chemical. Certainly, I fit that profile.

Maybe you're feeling the hormone induced angst that men feel until they hit mid life? Maybe you won't be truly happy and content until you hit your 40s and you become a non stop emitter of urine. Don't be too scared of your 40s. You can slow the stream down to almost a complete stop.

You have a family. That's a big part of being happy. You have a ton of skills. That's a big part of productivity which goes a long way toward being happy.

Don't worry about what you're supposed to be doing. You'll figure it out.

Success is learning to live in the moment.

 

[rvrmom]

Diamonds BIG diamonds

All seriousness, plan a real cool trip. I'd always love to charter a boat down in the BVI's.

 

[fmo24]

I think you nailed it Tom. I really became comfortable with my life and self when I hit forty .

 

[whiteworks]

Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day
You fritter and waste the hours in an offhand way
Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town
Waiting for someone or something to show you the way

Tired of lying in the sunshine
Staying home to watch the rain
And you are young and life is long
And there is time to kill today
And then one day you find
Ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run
You missed the starting gun

And you run, and you run to catch up with the sun, but it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again
The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death

Every year is getting shorter
Never seem to find the time
Plans that either come to nought
Or half a page of scribbled lines
Hanging on in quiet desparation is the English way
The time is gone
The song is over
Thought I'd something more to say

Home, home again
I like to be here when I can
When I come home cold and tired
It's good to warm my bones beside the fire
Far away across the field
The tolling of the iron bell
Calls the faithful to their knees
To hear the softly spoken magic spells

[video=youtube;ntm1YfehK7U]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntm1YfehK7U[/video]

 

[jarrettolson]

Someone previously mentioned camping with the kid. I would second that. Some of the greatest childhood memories are of camping with my folks. Pick up a beater RV and go see america with the little one, there is too much cool stuff to see and experience.

Or just buy a bigger boat...

 

[RogerThat99]

You know what?
Take some time and make some memories with your daughter, get ready for camping, boating, Disneyland, all the fun things you can think of to do with her that you can get done before she is in school full time. Take lots of pics of the trips to show her later on.
Once she hits 3rd-4th grade ya gotta get her serious about squeezing all she can out of her education. Then, all you have with her is time on weekends and summers, until she gets into a sport or other activity(s) that keep you and Momma using up squares on the calendar.
The only "toys' that matter for awhile are the ones you can share as a family. A camp trailer or a family boat or whatever direction you want to take her, get set to do it. I know you have dreams of showing her the world as you know it, the river, the mountains, etc.
Don't think too long, tho, Dylan. Time begins speeding up when she is around 10 and the next thing you know she will be after a drivers license and then college and the time you have with her will become a rare and precious thing.
You are coming into some of the best years of your life. Live them for all they are worth.

Very well said...I may have to take that advice also. My girls are 11 & 8 and are growing up fast.