So I walk into a bar….

[Flatsix66]

I’m on business travel in Boca Raton Florida, walk into the Capital grill bar tonight to grab a good steak. Sitting at the bar that was pretty full, with one seat open next to me, ordered my food and enjoyed my beverage. A 50s year old lady walks in and sits next to me. I have my bone in rib eye and wine and chowing down when her weasel boyfriend walks in and orders and starts drinking in the gap between seats at the bar between us. No worries…. They start arguing, something about him being a dick, locking the door when she showed up at his place, then she came to the bar to run away from the situation. Then he shows up to save it. Anyway, I just want to watch the laker game and enjoy my steak. Again, this weasel is standing in the spot between us and begging his case, she tells him to leave many times but doesn’t. I’m trying not to hear this, but…. I was getting fired up, couldn’t help myself. Not sure why exactly.

I’ve worked behind the bar before in a place like this, back then the dude would have been tossed, but they don’t do that now I guess. The bar tenders now are pussies or in the case entitled lesbos.

I’ve been the guy begging my case before to a girl I made mad in public, so I get that too. You do dumb shit in public that everyone else does not want to see or hear

And the girl/lady, well she was kind of the problem too. She was half egging the dweeb on but also telling him m to repeatedly leave and that she is done with his shit.

Well, I couldn’t take it, got loud, said stuff I wish I wouldn’t have. The guy left, the girl left after paying, the bartender was pissed at me for saying something, the manger comp,d me a glass of wine. Other east coast regulars at the bar were pissed at me, at least that was their “skippy and Buffy” look at me.

Weird situation. At my point in life I just want to avoid situations like this, losing my job, going to jail, getting sued…. Just want to get to retirement soon.

What would you do?

 

[lbhsbz]

What would you do?

Depends...how many drinks have I had?

 

[Sleek-Jet]

Was the cougar hot?

 

[monkeyswrench]

Well, loss of a job never worried me, but never had a career. Jail wasn't much of a threat when I was young, but now have a family dependent on me, so that's out.
I don't know where Boca Raton really is, but are there gators near by? May open some options...

Up here, at Whiskey Row, still pretty old school. Bar backs and bouncers. Everyone has everyone's phone number. Booted from one, kept out of the others as well. A couple of the bartenders did MMA stuff, some others were steer roping cowboy types. stuff stays pretty calm.

 

[regor]

Was the cougar hot?

That is critical to the OP’s question.

 

[Gramps]

moral of the story......don't go to a bar to watch the lakers

 

[DILLIGAF]

moral of the story......don't go to a bar to watch the lakers

Especially when they lose by 40+. Lol

 

[stephenkatsea]

I wouldn’t do what you did. You made their F’d Up situation yours.

 

[Spitfire]

I’m an east coast guy. If I didn’t say it first, I would’ve bought you a wine. Screw that when I’m trying to enjoy a nice meal.

 

[angiebaby]

Well, I know I wouldn't appreciate their bullshit drama while I'm just trying to enjoy my steak with a cocktail while watching the game. Hard to say what I'd do though. Once in a while, less often as I age, but once in a while, the inner Italian comes out. Chances increase based on the amount of bourbons I've had.

 

[arch stanton]

I don’t regret after opening my mouth and giving my opinion but by the time I do somebody’s made their business my business, just like they did for you.
You may bring them back together over them both hating you.
My experience is let the women cool down before pleading your case and public displays are not appropriated by women unless they are into that kind of thing

 

[Dog]

Hard to say without being in the actual situation. In my head I would have asked them if they would move their drama somewhere else. Or at least ask them if I needed to move to enjoy my meal, in a passive aggressive way, and go from there. I have never been known as the most rational and level headed person though.

 

[TrollerDave]

I’m on business travel in Boca Raton Florida, walk into the Capital grill bar tonight to grab a good steak. Sitting at the bar that was pretty full, with one seat open next to me, ordered my food and enjoyed my beverage. A 50s year old lady walks in and sits next to me. I have my bone in rib eye and wine and chowing down when her weasel boyfriend walks in and orders and starts drinking in the gap between seats at the bar between us. No worries…. They start arguing, something about him being a dick, locking the door when she showed up at his place, then she came to the bar to run away from the situation. Then he shows up to save it. Anyway, I just want to watch the laker game and enjoy my steak. Again, this weasel is standing in the spot between us and begging his case, she tells him to leave many times but doesn’t. I’m trying not to hear this, but…. I was getting fired up, couldn’t help myself. Not sure why exactly.

I’ve worked behind the bar before in a place like this, back then the dude would have been tossed, but they don’t do that now I guess. The bar tenders now are pussies or in the case entitled lesbos.

I’ve been the guy begging my case before to a girl I made mad in public, so I get that too. You do dumb shit in public that everyone else does not want to see or hear

And the girl/lady, well she was kind of the problem too. She was half egging the dweeb on but also telling him m to repeatedly leave and that she is done with his shit.

Well, I couldn’t take it, got loud, said stuff I wish I wouldn’t have. The guy left, the girl left after paying, the bartender was pissed at me for saying something, the manger comp,d me a glass of wine. Other east coast regulars at the bar were pissed at me, at least that was their “skippy and Buffy” look at me.

Weird situation. At my point in life I just want to avoid situations like this, losing my job, going to jail, getting sued…. Just want to get to retirement soon.

What would you do?

I’d say you’re fine. You won’t see them again. If they’re going to bring their drama right next to people in a public place, being loud and stern was probably your only option. Just be glad it didn’t escalate and enjoy the rest of your trip.

 

[monkeyswrench]

We know about the entitled bar keep, others were interested in the cougar...

Damnit, how was the steak? Any sides?

 

[was thatguy]

It’s Boca…what else would you expect?

 

[Racer56]

I would have done the same as you. Had my wife been sitting next to them, she would have spent all night guiding the repair of their relationship.

 

[C_J_J_C]

Everyone has the right to be themselves and to have a bad day but no one has the right to make their bad day my bad day. Your rights do not trump mine.

I believe in being a magnifying mirror. If you are nice to me or my family I magnify it and give it back but..... if you bother me or my family, insult us, or are mean to us I magnify it and send it back too.

I am suprised you ignored it as long as you did.

 

[Dalton]

who knows, east coast is different, and FL is even different'er.

 

[Ziggy]

I would have done the same as you. Had my wife been sitting next to them, she would have spent all night guiding the repair of their relationship.

Lmao, I thought mine was the only one who has all the answers

 

[HST4ME]

I probably would have shit in his cooler

 

[Lunatic Fringe]

The problem with public spaces is the public are there as well.

 

[Willie B]

.., if she was standing …should’ve smacked her on on her butt cheeks…

 

[CarolynandBob]

I would have said. I am sure you want this conversation to be private, but I can hear everything you have been saying. Please take it somewhere else as i am trying to hear the game and enjoy my meal. if that didn't work I would get the manager.

Maybe it is Boca, but I do not think that would have happened in Sarasota. Possible especially depends on how many drinks they had.

 

[clarence]

Everyone has the right to be themselves and to have a bad day but no one has the right to make their bad day my bad day. Your rights do not trump mine.

Exactly. It's disrespectful.

Handle your personal stuff on your own time, not on mine.

Unless you're entertaining, of course.

 

[monkeyswrench]

The problem with public spaces is witnesses are there as well.

Fixed it...

 

[Yoshiro]

Hit him with a quick shot of M99

 

[Eliminator21vdrive]

Sometimes people need to hear the truth and sometimes I tell it to them

 

[81Sprint]

Maybe they were role playing....and you fucked it all up

They got home, were completely normal but defeated and the chick was turned off. The dude was like "that guy at the bar was such a dick!"

 

[Flatsix66]

RDP knowledge came to mind a few times tonight:

1. Crazy/Hot matrix. https://www.riverdavesplace.com/forums/threads/hot-crazy-matrix.118778/

That is critical to the OP’s question.

okay, good enough to make the crazy/hot matrix. An upgrade for the dweeb that was groveling for her.

 

[OLDRAAT]

Lmao, I thought mine was the only one who has all the answers

Mine too. I even sold my Britannica Encyclopedia's once we were together, didn't need those gems anymore.

 

[Wave Hi]

A simple sternly worded "STFU" I'm eating here, might not have changed things, but it would make me feel better.

 

[FROGMAN524]

Well, I know I wouldn't appreciate their bullshit drama while I'm just trying to enjoy my steak with a cocktail while watching the game. Hard to say what I'd do though. Once in a while, less often as I age, but once in a while, the inner Italian comes out. Chances increase based on the amount of bourbons I've had.

My grandmother in law is Sicilian. I know exactly what you mean!

 

[lbhsbz]

Just re-read your OP....

Several points....

1: you're not gonna have any authority with a glass of wine in front of you.....order a whiskey
2: If he was standing between you and the girl, elbow him while cutting your steak....every knife stroke
3: order another whiskey
4: when you say something, grab that glass of whiskey like it owes you money and stand up, then say something....rather than cradling a glass of merlot with your pinky sticking out....it will carry more weight. Maybe kick a bar stool over to help make your point.

 

[RadMan]

I don’t see the attraction to sitting at a bar eating, always someone seems to encroach, physically, vocally, temporarily to grab a drink, really is a peeve of mine. Unless it’s just not busy and then maybe. But if it’s the only seat, no way, I’ll move on somewhere else or wait for a table even if solo.

 

[angiebaby]

I don’t see the attraction to sitting at a bar eating, always someone seems to encroach, physically, vocally, temporarily to grab a drink, really is a peeve of mine. Unless it’s just not busy and then maybe. But if it’s the only seat, no way, I’ll move on somewhere else or wait for a table even if solo.

I enjoy talking with and meeting new people. The bar is a great place to do that. If I'm by myself, at least I can chat with the bartender. But I recognize not everyone is the social butterfly that I am.

Plus, I like the high top better than a low table.