So I swear to much....Basically an ultimatum

[JD D05]

I think the reaction you have had to a simple request that went through your dad is unreasonable. It's actually childish.

Your attitude is so shitty your brother didn't want to talk to you about it, and went through your dad. Instead of considering the wishes of your brother, his wife, and your dad, you're bowing your back...to prove what? That you're an alpha male?

Your dad is obviously repulsed by your immature behavior. And you talk like that around your mom? You're in your parent's house, and disrespect them to their face?

How tall are you? You are acting like someone with short guy syndrome. What are you trying to prove by bullying your family members? You claim family is important to you, but you can't be bothered to moderate your language.

You must be the best at story time.

You just made about 5 completely off base assumptions. Who told you my mom doesnt swear?He talked to my dad first because he swears, and my dad talked to me to make me aware. My bro talked to me directly last night whenwe went night riding. I am 6'4 and not going to address anymore of your bullshit you can fuck off now HA.

Thanks for the laugh this morning it helped me wake up at 5AM.

 

[JD D05]

Not sure if this will work but apparently I need to watch my swearing as well, this is my 7 year old.[emoji23][emoji23]
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Hahaha that's hilarious

 

[JD D05]

I was gonna say is she an LDS going to Utah to find a sister wife. ( I’m down w sister wife but Michelle won’t agree )
I cuss wayyyy to much. Actually when I called you on the last trip, I thought fuckin A did I cuss to much. Good to know I didn’t offend you. Lmao

My sons cuss 19 and 26 but not at me.
My daughters do not cuss in front of dad 17 and 22 , not sure why but that’s ok.

First I’d punch one of my brothers and call him a pussy for even telling me.
Second I would probably at least attempt to refrain around the Kunty SIL.
It sucks for adult couples to move in with parents. Sucks for parents, sucks for adult couples, etc
Everyone can say it’s fine. Even if everyone gets along great.
How ever to many personalities all trying to get along. Trying to be quite having the sexy time, not cussing, not watching what you want to watch, shower bathroom times, who’s eating what, farting burping etc.

Only 2 days in from Tennessee, to Utah weather, lmao.

She’ll be cussing soon enough about how fucking cold it is, and how she can’t get a break from you assholes.

I actually thought hey this guy swears I like him and trust him lol. I am going to try and refrain it is the best approach. Last night me and my bro got home from a night ride on the sleds that was incredibly cold by the way and I was talking to everyone. I said the F word and thought FUCK to myself and turned around and went to bed.

It is challenging to live together but it has not been bad.

 

[Mike K]

Like it or not people judge us by our behavior and our language is a huge part of that. We may say ... hey too bad if someone doesn’t like the way I speak ... we may be ok with that ... but most peeps have been raised to have respect for themselves and their family ... so cussing kinda turns on us big time. Our wives and kids can quickly lose respect for their Dad that doesn’t respect themself ... something I learned in the Marine Corps. When people hear others cuss all the time ... some may think ... geez that guy hasn’t had to work in a professional environment and probably doesn’t make very much ... yeah I know that’s not true ... but cussing immediately gets you classified as “less”. I hear ya ... it’s all weird ... but the main thing is ... your kids are told not to cuss especially at school ... but somehow Dad didn’t get the message. I always heard “act like a champion and people will respect you “ ... anyway ... no judging here ... just saying my opinion.

 

[JD D05]

Like it or not people judge us by our behavior and our language is a huge part of that. We may say ... hey too bad if someone doesn’t like the way I speak ... we may be ok with that ... but most peeps have been raised to have respect for themselves and their family ... so cussing kinda turns on us big time. Our wives and kids can quickly lose respect for their Dad that doesn’t respect themself ... something I learned in the Marine Corps. When people hear others cuss all the time ... some may think ... geez that guy hasn’t had to work in a professional environment and probably doesn’t make very much ... yeah I know that’s not true ... but cussing immediately gets you classified as “less”. I hear ya ... it’s all weird ... but the main thing is ... your kids are told not to cuss especially at school ... but somehow Dad didn’t get the message. I always heard “act like a champion and people will respect you “ ... anyway ... no judging here ... just saying my opinion.

I agree. But with that said not all but some of the best people I know swear a lot. People that have proven and given me reason after reason to trust them. The kids thing I agree with 100%, when I grew up a lot of things were hidden from me as a child and when I started to see them I viewed them as really bad, especially when I started to learn my parents did some of them. I made a decision I was not going to do that to my kids, still bad habits are bad habits and I don't want to make excuses etc. But I have always leaned to the side of my kids will know exactly who I am the good and the bad.

 

[rivermobster]

Where's the ultimatum? He was asked to tone down his language by his dad. There's no mention of "or else I'm going to throw you out of the house". That's an ultimatum. Being asked to be considerate is a request.

I have just been told that I basically need to stop swearing because it offends his fiance. Like he/you can't be around my future kids etc.

The real problem is...

She is an idiot for thinking that her kids are never going to hear people swearing. When those perfect angels of hers get to school, they are going to see and hear things mom will have zero control over. Unless of course she home schools them, but that opens up a whole different world of issues. You simply cannot raise kids in a bubble!

The real issue is not JD's language, it's a woman who thinks she can and Should control what goes on in a house that's not hers.

Good on her for having high morals. Bad on her for not knowing where her place in the big picture is.

IF she had some tact, this situation could have played out completely differently, and not put everyone in the house in an uncomfortable situation.

Fucking snowflakes...

 

[JD D05]

I have just been told that I basically need to stop swearing because it offends his fiance. Like he/you can't be around my future kids etc.

The real problem is...

She is an idiot for thinking that her kids are never going to hear people swearing. When those perfect angels of hers get to school, they are going to see and hear things mom will have zero control over. Unless of course she home schools them, but that opens up a whole different world of issues. You simply cannot raise kids in a bubble!

The real issue is not JD's language, it's a woman who thinks she can and Should control what goes on in a house that's not hers.

Good on her for having high morals. Bad on her for not knowing where her place in the big picture is.

IF she had some tact, this situation could have played out completely differently, and not put everyone in the house in an uncomfortable situation.

Fucking snowflakes...

To be fair my brother discussed this with me a couple months ago, he said hey FYI so and so does not like swearing etc can you help me out and I said ya no problem. But I honestly forgot all about it.

2 days ago the night before my dad called me and told me all this we were all talking and he called me out in front of everyone about it out of the blue and at the time I didn't put it together. My dad is a great great man but his timing with this stuff and his approach is usually way off hahaha. Even when he called me to discuss it according to my brother he framed it all wrong and my bro last not apologized for that. He also said his fiance had nothing to do with this and it was all him trying to get ahead of a potential issue. Maybe protecting her but it doesn't matter.

I like her and I like that my bro is happy and family deals with shit sometimes. I have already tried to calm it down and slipped up last night. I talk for a living and have to adjust and frame conversations everyday.

 

[SkyDirtWaterguy]

You can always use this as an educational tool....?

 

[JD D05]

I will say I put this on RDP because this place has a great way of making sure someone sees every single side and that is what I wanted. Agree or not I appreciate everyone's input.

 

[BHC Vic]

There’s a time and a place. When I started speaking in front of a lot of people I had to figure it out pretty quick. I run a lot of big meetings and dropping f bombs isn’t acceptable. If there’s women or children in the meeting you keep it professional and respectful. If I’m in my class with the fellas we can lighten up a little

 

[Dan Lorenze]

I've made it a point to never cuss in front of kids. Not sure why people have to. Save the F bombs for your drinking buddies when you're hanging out with them. Just my opinion, since you asked.

 

[JD D05]

I've made it a point to never cuss in front of kids. Not sure why people have to. Save the F bombs for your drinking buddies when you're hanging out with them. Just my opinion, since you asked.

thanks

 

[rivermobster]

To be fair my brother discussed this with me a couple months ago, he said hey FYI so and so does not like swearing etc can you help me out and I said ya no problem. But I honestly forgot all about it.

2 days ago the night before my dad called me and told me all this we were all talking and he called me out in front of everyone about it out of the blue and at the time I didn't put it together. My dad is a great great man but his timing with this stuff and his approach is usually way off hahaha. Even when he called me to discuss it according to my brother he framed it all wrong and my bro last not apologized for that. He also said his fiance had nothing to do with this and it was all him trying to get ahead of a potential issue. Maybe protecting her but it doesn't matter.

I like her and I like that my bro is happy and family deals with shit sometimes. I have already tried to calm it down and slipped up last night. I talk for a living and have to adjust and frame conversations everyday.

You're a good man Charlie Brown. Sounds like everyone involved will survive.

 

[Activated]

Just in case you get her name in the family Christmas gift exchange.

 

[monkeyswrench]

The post above about people judging you rings very true. Society has some book cover judging people. On bid walks I was always in clean blue jeans, my newest pair of workboots, etc. You had to be eloquent, but not overly intricate in explainations or questions. I'd have people I met with not a week before, not realize who I was. A wife beater, stained jeans, tattoos and sunglasses...all the difference in the world.

Here's one for you. My wife teaches kindergarten...cussed in front of my kids way more than myself. We actually talked about it, and figured out why. She had no outlet, schools aren't the place for it. She always had to watch her words. Home was a safe zone, our own free speech zone. I could cuss like a sailor, when not meeting with customers. So, maybe I ran out of cuss words before I got home?

 

[lebel409]

I was on my way to a church gig...carpooling with two trumpet players. As we approached the church they both exploded with filth, "Cocksucking mutherfucking sunofawhore cunt bitch"...etc. I asked them what the hell they were swearing about, they both said getting it out of their system before they got on church property?

Trumpet players...

 

[ka0tyk]

Before I had kids... swear away I dont really care. Now that I'm older and have two little ones, my $.02 theres no reason for it. I dont want them talking that way and children are little sponges and copy cats. I get if you're upset and it slips out, etc... but to include swear words into your common tongue just makes you look like an idiot. I dont think its unreasonable to ask you to chill with the language, especially around children. You might not agree with it, or think its a big deal but you should be accommodating of THEIR lifestyle and choices. The "ill do whatever I want..." attitude only goes so far. Clearly thats how you're acting if they feel like they cant even approach you about it and have to go around your back so to say.

I cant count how many times I've had to tell people to zip it when they're cussing at Disneyland surrounded by kids.

 

[JD D05]

Before I had kids... swear away I dont really care. Now that I'm older and have two little ones, my $.02 theres no reason for it. I dont want them talking that way and children are little sponges and copy cats. I get if you're upset and it slips out, etc... but to include swear words into your common tongue just makes you look like an idiot. I dont think its unreasonable to ask you to chill with the language, especially around children. You might not agree with it, or think its a big deal but you should be accommodating of THEIR lifestyle and choices. The "ill do whatever I want..." attitude only goes so far. Clearly thats how you're acting if they feel like they cant even approach you about it and have to go around your back so to say.

I cant count how many times I've had to tell people to zip it when they're cussing at Disneyland surrounded by kids.

Did I say I could not be approached? I think it is funny how people assume major details and than just run with it, or justify certain tactics to frame it into an opinion. When else do you suggest dealing with an issue by not going directly to the person you have it with?

 

[DaveC]

RDP got me thinking about this issue.

I gotta stop swearing in front of my kids so much

The other day my youngest said .....”that fucking Obama really is a useless lying sack of shit”

 

[DaveC]

You left out the most important part. Yore bro already talked to you.

That changes thing!!

I changed my mind. Clean up yore act and that potty mouth of yours

Hope yore bro kicks you in yore junk

To be fair my brother discussed this with me a couple months ago, he said hey FYI so and so does not like swearing etc can you help me out and I said ya no problem. But I honestly forgot all about it.

2 days ago the night before my dad called me and told me all this we were all talking and he called me out in front of everyone about it out of the blue and at the time I didn't put it together. My dad is a great great man but his timing with this stuff and his approach is usually way off hahaha. Even when he called me to discuss it according to my brother he framed it all wrong and my bro last not apologized for that. He also said his fiance had nothing to do with this and it was all him trying to get ahead of a potential issue. Maybe protecting her but it doesn't matter.

I like her and I like that my bro is happy and family deals with shit sometimes. I have already tried to calm it down and slipped up last night. I talk for a living and have to adjust and frame conversations everyday.

 

[JD D05]

You left out the most important part. Yore bro already talked to you.

That changes thing!!

I changed my mind. Clean up yore act and that potty mouth of yours

Hope yore bro kicks you in yore junk

To be exact he said over text please don't say GD...I did not understand how big of an issue it was etc. Sort of like my wife saying hey your kid needs to be picked up by 4 and completely forgetting to get them ya know.

 

[rivermobster]

To be exact he said over text please don't say GD...I did not understand how big of an issue it was etc. Sort of like my wife saying hey your kid needs to be picked up by 4 and completely forgetting to get them ya know.

I know Exactly how big of an issue That is...