RDP - Winter PSA

[RiverDave]

It would seem that some people like to take their life’s aggressions out on members of this forum. To be clear I am not singling anyone out with that, I got a list of this guy vs that guy and so forth..

RDP isn’t your little therapy board to get your aggressions out with your life.. problems with the wife? Too bad.. problems with the kid? Too bad.

Go kick the dog or something, smack your kid if ya gotta but leave that shit off of here..

That skinny tire thread went so far off the rails.. along with the speed car thread.. and hell for that matter a few of them historically.

I’m gonna tell you a story after this post but before I do..

Let me show you something real quick..

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Here is someone that cracked a joke.. here is a member that took offense to said joke. Note how the problem is immediately squashed?

Be like these two..

Grow the fuck up.. not every little thing needs to turn into some crazy argument. Point in fact I gots me a little list, and most of that shit is gonna stop either through maturity, or we can be immature and have time outs. I don’t like treating grown ass adults like children.. don’t act like one.

RD

 

[BIGRED9158]

@RiverDave For sure not my proudest moment on here but I quickly realized my mistake and when someone took offense to that said comment I owned up to it and i apologized with out even thinking about it

 

[rivermobster]

 

[WTR&PWR]

Cheers to more boats and less bait.

 

[4Waters]

@RiverDave For sure not my proudest moment on here but I quickly realized my mistake and when someone took offense to that said comment I owned up to it and i apologized with out even thinking about it

I recently did the same thing on here too

 

[BIGRED9158]

I recently did the same thing on here too

Lol must have not been as bad mine I made the front page news

 

[RiverDave]

Here’s my little story.. god knows I’m not perfect and I am head strong in my beliefs so pretty resistant to change.. that would sometimes mean that I too occasionally get into the light hearted disagreements..

There is a member here named Steve (formerly nganga now skinny tire ah).

Since I was a kid if someone was of a certain special needs we would refer to that person as a retard..

I am not going to lie, when I was a kid I used it to be mean.. hell joking around with my friends it’s often said “that’s retarded” etc..

Steve mentioned it bothered him and it wasn’t the most pc thing to say in modern times.. I instantly come in and defend my positions “wasThatguy” (don’t take offense to that Tommy I actually enjoy your thought process to debates) style with “look man this was the medical term for it not that long ago” and yada yada yada..

I’m not gonna change my life for this guy.. why would they say I love offend him?? Right?


Well ya know what months went by and I couldn’t stop thinking about it.

I don’t know Steve.. I’ve never met Steve.. I know we don’t share a ton in common outside of boats.. I do enjoy his worldly adventures though and I find him fascinating as a human..

None the less he ain’t my buddy and this is my playground so technically I can do whatever the fuck I want right?

Then why is it bothering me? Why months later did I privately send him a pm saying “you know what I’ve given this a lot of thought and I’m sorry. I in no way want to hurt you or your son, and if changing my vocabulary a little puts that behind us than consider it done”

Steve didn’t ask me to do that nor was Steve expecting me to do that..

Wanna know why I did that? Because while I’m hard headed and resistant to change one thing I am not is an ASSHOLE..

I was feeling pretty good about all that then you duckers started with the skinny tire suit and now he’s gone.. Fuckin awesome.

My point is if I can do it.. believe me anyone can.

It honestly takes less effort to be nice than it does to be a dick.. give it a try.

RD

 

[RiverDave]

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Or there’s the other way. Lol

 

[WTR&PWR]

I don’t know what your guys situation is but I quit FB and IG (only ones I had) because the negativity left me more frustrated leaving those sites than when I got there. I joined this site after lurking for awhile because it seemed geared towards people that enjoy a lot of the same things I do.

If you consistently come on here to pick a fight it says a lot more about you than it does your point. Some of you can have great points but it’s lost by the constant smart ass remarks.

Cmon. Talk boats, cool projects and good times you don’t always have to be the smartest in the room. Don’t let a good thing get ruined.

Cheers to more good time forums.

 

[RiverDave]

Lol must have not been as bad mine I made the front page news

In case you missed it I was using you as the good example of what to do

 

[LHC Kirby]

You can still use the retard word, if desired you can use the N word….. it’s all about the audience.

The audience here is far and wide and it’s a public forum.

As my dad always said (R.I.P. dad) “don’t ever write anything you don’t want your name attached to on the front page of RDP”…. Well he actually said the newspaper.

 

[Mr. C]

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I agree. But sometimes as hard as you try you can’t / won’t / don’t let things go. I will try to be better on my end is all I can say.

 

[RiverDave]

I don’t know what your guys situation is but I quit FB and IG (only ones I had) because the negativity left me more frustrated leaving those sites than when I got there. I joined this site after lurking for awhile because it seemed geared towards people that enjoy a lot of the same things I do.

If you consistently come on here to pick a fight it says a lot more about you than it does your point. Some of you can have great points but it’s lost by the constant smart ass remarks.

Cmon. Talk boats, cool projects and good times you don’t always have to be the smartest in the room. Don’t let a good thing get ruined.

Cheers to more good time forums.

You are 100% right..

I have to deal with the “association” of it all the time.. hotboat was a cesspool.. god damn good shit talkin time back in the day but all it was is arguing and negativity. A big part of the reason I started the subsequent forums and eventually rdp was to get away from that shit.

I hear from people all the time about the negativity.. if you think rdp is negative go on Facebook or IG.. the thing that is so bizarre about Fb is there it is with your whole
Life right there.. pic, name, city etc and people are absolute assholes and ruthless..

Even with the veil of protection of a screen name rdp is 100x better than fb or IG..

I was actually at adrenaline trailers a month or so ago and Wayne jr told me.. “at least on your fb group you are pretty on top of it.. if someone says something stupid you try and educate them and if they are assholes they are gone.”

Made me feel good that at least someone is noticing..

I do try to keep this place positive. I actually spend a lot more time doing shit most wouldn’t even know about to keep it that way.

In some cases it isn’t always positive but the overall vibe of the joint is pretty good I think

 

[4Waters]

Lol must have not been as bad mine I made the front page news

Mine was a couple months ago, and it was a comment to one of @Dan Lorenze posts, it bothered him and I apologized, my comment was out of line.

 

[dirtslinger2]

Funny, my daughter started working with special needs kids, and then my wife and I started working with the Special Olympics, I definitely changed my vocabulary to take out the "R" word. One of my daughters best friend is a gay kid, he actually came out to my family before his own, not sure how they didn't know. I actually found it sort of an honor that he trusted me and my family enough to do that, so I try and show him a little respect. So I now find the Fag word super offensive, at least to me.
At 52, I never thought I'd have a PC side, but I guess I do now.

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

Lighten up Frances...

 

[RiverDave]

Lighten up Frances...

Shut up fag.. lol

By the way we have several gay members in here (most nobody would know one way or the other).

The few I actually see for beers every now and again Just laugh it off because they are anything but flamboyant..

There’s a regular poster on here I know is gay.. if he ever said it bothered him I’d make it a point to tone it down.

I’m not trying to be a bleeding heart here, but I am trying to go out of my way to be nicer in my old age.. I hope others try as well.

 

[Mr. C]

. Sensitivity training for you. You know you just offended so many people with this comment. Joking or not. Lol.

 

[4Waters]

Shut up fag.. lol

By the way we have several gay members in here (most nobody would know one way or the other).

The few I actually see for beers every now and again Just laugh it off because they are anything but flamboyant..

There’s a regular poster on here I know is gay.. if he ever said it bothered him I’d make it a point to tone it down.

I’m not trying to be a bleeding heart here, but I am trying to go out of my way to be nicer in my old age.. I hope others try as well.

Hoots is gay?

 

[BIGRED9158]

Hoots is gay?

I thought he was talking about Ashley

 

[Jed-O]

@RiverDave For sure not my proudest moment on here but I quickly realized my mistake and when someone took offense to that said comment I owned up to it and i apologized with out even thinking about it

Most of us are guilty of doing the same thing buddy, you handled it right. Not everyone gets our sick and twisted notions hell, I can't count how many times I've had to eat crow and admit my fault.

 

[boatpi]

Respect of others will always make one rise above, and make you feel so much better in life. Not to mention life is so much simpler. Life at times is as difficult (or not) as you make it.

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

Shut up fag.. lol

By the way we have several gay members in here (most nobody would know one way or the other).

The few I actually see for beers every now and again Just laugh it off because they are anything but flamboyant..

There’s a regular poster on here I know is gay.. if he ever said it bothered him I’d make it a point to tone it down.

I’m not trying to be a bleeding heart here, but I am trying to go out of my way to be nicer in my old age.. I hope others try as

Shut up fag.. lol

By the way we have several gay members in here (most nobody would know one way or the other).

The few I actually see for beers every now and again Just laugh it off because they are anything but flamboyant..

There’s a regular poster on here I know is gay.. if he ever said it bothered him I’d make it a point to tone it down.

I’m not trying to be a bleeding heart here, but I am trying to go out of my way to be nicer in my old age.. I hope others try as well.

I think sometimes it's easy for things to get taken out of context through internet conversation. Sarcasm even often gets missed as well. Smilies or not. Some folks take things too seriously imo. I'd venture to say that most here just make wise cracks just to shit talk like most dudes chillin in the garage throwing back some coldies. All in good fun.

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

Hoots is gay?

Lol....are you flirting with me fucker?

 

[hallett21]

Idk why everyone takes the internet so personally.

Either you like what’s posted or you don’t. As an adult you can either engage or move on.

Don’t be a dick, and if someone’s being a dick ignore them

 

[Mr. C]

I think sometimes it's easy for things to get taken out of context through internet conversation. Sarcasm even often gets missed as well. Smilies or not. Some folks take things too seriously imo. I'd venture to say that most here just make wise cracks just to shit talk like most dudes chillin in the garage throwing back some coldies. All in good fun.

I also think if you have met or know the person. You can interpret the tone/ demeanor of comment so much better than your perceived persona of of the person texting. Most of my post are meant to be in jest or just poking fun. Obviously that said some are not.

 

[Mr. C]

Lol....are you flirting with me fucker?

Okay. Made me laugh out loud.

 

[n2otoofast4u]

I will say with honesty, the “retard” word is something I have made a real effort to remove from my vocabulary even in conversation with my buddies when we are trash talking. It started with Grads, as he mentioned it’s something that can/is tough for some to hear and he explained that I believe his nephew as some sort of syndrome. Next was Steve. Like Dave, I have never met Steve, but he a bit more vocally than Grads made his opinion of the word known, and I respected that, and understood it even more. Lastly, we moved into this new house, there’s a church next door. The church has a basketball hoop that daily, rain or shine a guy plays basketball. That guy is Trever. Trever is 22, lives with his parents, and is very much behind compared to his age, but is VERY nice, always smiling and happy, and is excited to play with the dogs when they are out, tell me about his day when he volunteers at the Humane Society, or very thankful when I take a few minutes to shoot some hoops with him.

Overall, I’m an asshole, and I recognize that. I think the pussification of this country is stupid, but I realize that words to some people mean more than what they do to me.

Be kind. Be respectful. You don’t have to interject your opinion into ever conversation.

 

[LGETT]

In case you missed it I was using you as the good example of what to do

I might have read it differently but seemed like a light hearted laugh at his own recognized mistake with words..... could be wrong, happens often

 

[grumpy88]

Great . Now you empowered skinny tire assholes ! Lol . Lighten up Francis, I think RDP world is revolving just fine no need to panic .

 

[Flying_Lavey]

Hoots is gay?

Too flamboyant. lol

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

Too flamboyant. lol

Thettle down ya thilly boy..

 

[Flying_Lavey]

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Thettle down ya thilly boy..

I don't know..... I sure don't save pictures of other men.....

 

[wzuber]

Years ago I was channel surfing one day and came across a Dr. Wayne Dyer program and stopped on it for minute. He stated " too many people are just looking for something to be offended about....
We don't always have to be in reaction to others, we don't have to be offended to everything, all the time. We can choose to not react, we can choose not to be offended. That stuck with me (obviously) but it took quite a while for me to get it and apply it in my life...
My life feels much better when I'm not in reaction to others "shit" ( anger, attitudes, drug or alcohol induced problems etc., etc...) my days go much better. I have much less conflict in my life and it's way more enjoyable. It also helped me significantly to stop drinking and as a result feeling better physically as my body continues to deteriorate from R.A. & psoriatic arthritis. Like life, it's a process. Driving is probably the most difficult thing for me to not react to the idiots daily on the road....
I say " just let it go dude" to myself....a lot.
I hope Dr. Dyers words can reach somebody reading this some day.

 

[Danger Dave]

I'd like to apologize for anything Regor posted that was offensive.

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

I don't know..... I sure don't save pictures of other men.....

Dude...I have the originals. I think I saved this from a repost sometime back. That night was epic.

 

[Ziggy]

Idk why everyone takes the internet so personally.

Because the internet & search engine results are treated as gospel.

 

[RiverDave]

I don't know..... I sure don't save pictures of other men.....

Weirdly I don’t either.. some of my friends literally have vaults of embarrassing pics that they save.. always makes me wonder why?

Future intentions or something? Lol. @Outdrive1

 

[Jed-O]

Funny, my daughter started working with special needs kids, and then my wife and I started working with the Special Olympics, I definitely changed my vocabulary to take out the "R" word. One of my daughters best friend is a gay kid, he actually came out to my family before his own, not sure how they didn't know. I actually found it sort of an honor that he trusted me and my family enough to do that, so I try and show him a little respect. So I now find the Fag word super offensive, at least to me.
At 52, I never thought I'd have a PC side, but I guess I do now.

Similar situation, when my wife and I started dating, (we met online) we got cut off by a handicap plate running motherfucker. I used the "retard plate" term and she went fuckin ballistic on me. For those of you who don't know, her sister, now in her mid thirties, is developmentally disabled and is basically only 18 months old.
After I explained myself that growing up on the mountain and seeing telltale signs of dogshit drivers (Dodgers stickers, Big Bear paws, and handicap plates to name a few) she settled down and explained her situation as a sister and a major caregiver. Definitely an eye opener for me and I promised to try to be better. But I also reminded her that I I stated that I was also an asshole and will definitely fuck up over and over again. Then she became a mountain driver...
She understands now

 

[Jed-O]

Weirdly I don’t either.. some of my friends literally have vaults of embarrassing pics that they save.. always makes me wonder why?

Future intentions or something? Lol. @Outdrive1

Waiting for the perfect moment buddy...

 

[Vlads]

Great boating content in this thread!

 

[Dan Lorenze]

Mine was a couple months ago, and it was a comment to one of @Dan Lorenze posts, it bothered him and I apologized, my comment was out of line.

I knew you felt bad over that... It didn't bother me.. I know you're a good guy and wasn't offended. I appreciate you reaching out..

 

[Flying_Lavey]

Dude...I have the originals. I think I saved this from a repost sometime back. That night was epic.

You were there? All I remember is @River Lynchmob and fucking @Riverbound . And the last words I remember saying is "Fuck you Bill! It bubbled!!"

 

[Icky]

I think I logged into the wrong site

 

[Jed-O]

Great boating content in this thread!

This should help...

PS, I hear it only works in the channel

 

[RiverDave]

Great boating content in this thread!

You wanted to come back so bad.. well you are here. Lol.

Better get it off your chest because that weekend pass ain’t gonna last forever

Maybe if you impacted some people in a positive way? Might help for further visitation rights

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

You were there? All I remember is @River Lynchmob and fucking @Riverbound . And the last words I remember saying is "Fuck you Bill! It bubbled!!"

I believe it was my wife that took all the pics. Back before the cell phone pic days. Was proly from My 35mm Canon that I burned to CD or maybe even a digital cam. Just remember flippin through them and tripping on all your "action" shots. It hurts my feelings that you don't remember me there, but then again, I'm surprised you remember anything. Jack Daniels is not your friend.

 

[JB in so cal]

@riverroyal is still a homo

 

[HOOTER SLED-]

Great boating content in this thread!

Funny that gay and retarded are mentioned in a thread and you chime in.

 

[RiverDave]

I believe it was my wife that took all the pics. Back before the cell phone pic days. Was proly fro. My 35mm Canon that I burned to CD or maybe even a digital cam. Just remember flippin through them and tripping on all your "action" shots. It hurts my feelings that you don't remember me there, but then again, I'm surprised you remember anything. Jack Daniels is not your friend.

I was there too if it’s the night he was in the flower pots.. lol

He has come a long ways since then.. had kids a wife a life and responsibility etc..

Honestly one of the more impressive stories on rdp

Vicious13 aka BHCVic is another 1