People that are this stupid offend me just by existing

[rrrr]

Once again, the concept of normalcy and basic social skills in a suburban restaurant setting has left customers in utter confusion. The owner of the Nepalese Chef, a restaurant on the south side of Gloucester in the UK, told a local reporter he was simply asking those with small children to use basic common sense while accompanied with small children when dining in the facility. The request was apparently too complex for some to comply with.

A Nepalese restaurant in the UK has left a bad taste in one family’s mouth after handing out a card informing parents to keep their children quiet while dining.

The restaurant, Nepalese Chef, in Gloucester, has issued the laminated "polite notice" several times to families with small children, and claims no one else has been upset.

“We decided to hand it to anyone that turns up with young children to remind them that they have to be seated and children should not run in the restaurant due to hot food,” the restaurant owner Kashi Sharma said to SWNS, adding that most people were “absolutely fine with it.”

The notice was created after the restaurant experienced some issues with small children running around. It reads: “We request any customers dining-in with young children to keep noise at a reasonable level and to not let children run around the restaurant. It is dangerous as our staff are often walking around with hot food. Additionally, it is inconsiderate to the other diners.”

However, Sandeep Amin, who was visiting the restaurant to celebrate his birthday with his wife and seven-year-old daughter, was “shocked” and “horrified” by the notice.

“Once we got seated within two minutes our waiter turned up with this white laminated sheet on which it was written people with children should ask their children to be quiet and not disturb other guests,” he said to SWNS. “I was shocked as my daughter is seven years old. She has no habit of creating chaos anywhere in public places.”

Amin added that he was “greatly offended” by the notice.

“I felt so embarrassed so I decided that it was going to be a bad birthday celebration and suggested to my wife that we would be better off leaving such a rude place,” Amin told SWNS.

Amin said he and his family left the restaurant because of the “rude” note, but Sharma insists the notice is not meant to be taken that way.

“When Sandeep and his family were given the notice with the menu they said it was rude and walked out. We said sorry and this a polite rule we give to everyone,” he explained to SWNS. “Children are always welcome in the restaurant and we even give them lollipops.”

 

[DrunkenSailor]

People look at me in restaurants funny because I ride my kids about being quiet and staying seated. I was at the aquarium the other day and my wife got mad at me for yelling at the kids for walking in the 4” wall separating the walk way and the glass. She said all the kids are doing it. I said maybe but my kids aren’t.

I often feel like I am the only one holding my kids up to a higher standard. This parenting shit is hard. I really wish I would get a notification of good job or shitty move on my phone after every word out of my mouth. At least I would know if I’m getting it right.

 

[Flying_Lavey]

People look at me in restaurants funny because I ride my kids about being quiet and staying seated. I was at the aquarium the other day and my wife got mad at me for yelling at the kids for walking in the 4” wall separating the walk way and the glass. She said all the kids are doing it. I said maybe but my kids aren’t.

I often feel like I am the only one holding my kids up to a higher standard. This parenting shit is hard. I really wish I would get a notification of good job or shitty move on my phone after every word out of my mouth. At least I would know if I’m getting it right.

I get the same thing. I feel I get the thank you looks though when I immediately take the girls outside if they start crying or throwing a fit. I feel the only people that should have to deal with my kids acting up are myself and my wife.

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[pronstar]

How does one deal with real life, when the mere presentation of a cars makes you “shocked and horrified”?

Welcome to the pussification of life.


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[HydroSkreamin]

People look at me in restaurants funny because I ride my kids about being quiet and staying seated. I was at the aquarium the other day and my wife got mad at me for yelling at the kids for walking in the 4” wall separating the walk way and the glass. She said all the kids are doing it. I said maybe but my kids aren’t.

I often feel like I am the only one holding my kids up to a higher standard. This parenting shit is hard. I really wish I would get a notification of good job or shitty move on my phone after every word out of my mouth. At least I would know if I’m getting it right.

Yeah, they don’t come with a manual, do they?

I’m here to tell you you’re doing it right.

I’ve got 21, 18, and 15, and that parenting stuff pays off. Except part of parenting is preparing them to be adults and support themselves and make good decisions. Hovering isn’t parenting, it’s controlling.

Restaurant is spot on and probably just being consistent delivering the notice to everyone.

 

[Ouderkirk]

I get the same thing. I feel I get the thank you looks though when I immediately take the girls outside if they start crying or throwing a fit. I feel the only people that should have to deal with my kids acting up are myself and my wife.

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I am relentless with my kids on good behavior and what it means to be polite in civil society. Some parents look at me like I am some sort of ogre when I am correcting my sons. Hold your fork/spoon properly, sit up and both cheeks on the chair, don't touch things, pay attention to others while walking.

I had to expalin to one woman who made a comment that "their just kids" that if I don't teach/correct them who will?

Now, my kids are 10 and 12, they know how to behave in public and I don't have to correct them as frequently. I am often complimented on how polite, gracious, and well mannered my kids are. I earned that because that is what was expected of us from my parents.

 

[Chili Palmer]

My boys are 20 and 24 and raising them when they were younger my wife and I got into arguments that I was being too hard on the boys and should let them be kids. They can be kids outside and where being kids is appropriate, but in a restaurant or store they will tow the line. We were complimented often during their pre teen years of their respect and very mature behavior. And it has been even noticed by them - they say that their cousins when they were growing up were little brats and acted up at restaurants and now that the cousins are grown up they say that they are all assholes, no respect, they act all entitled. I tell them that I raised them as a parent, not as their friend - you guys thought I was a mean asshole, but look at the mature, respectful, self sufficient individuals you've become. You guys are a reflection of your parents and that makes us look like we did our job correctly and you guys will reap the benefits.

 

[Meaney77]

Interesting read, My wife and I are Nazi's with our 3 kids when we go out to eat. Eating out is a special time for them and they need to use their manners and behave. We have friends and family that we occasionally go out with and it is pure chaos around the dinner table. People give our table the stink eye often times (and rightfully so it is embarrassing) Kids are bouncing off the walls, screaming, running around the table, etc.. I look over at my 3 and their asses are firmly planted in their seats behaving, and coloring. After dinner is over and we are on our way home in the car my kids even realize how crazy some of their friends and family were acting and make comments. I take great pride in my kids acting right and especially when we are out to dinner.

 

[mash on it]

A parents job is to instill the fear of God in them.

Dan'l

 

[tostark]

My son was a good kid, but got into that teenage habit of little lies. When he was a freshman, he was caught in yet another lie. I lost it. Had a buddy come over and took everything out of his room and door off the hinges. left his clothes, a blanket and a pillow. Told him my responsibility was to provide a roof over his head and feed him, everything else he gets is based on trust. After about two weeks, he earned getting stuff back. Guess it made an impression, because at this high school graduation all his friends were reminiscing and brought that up.

probably could have prevented all that by handling the little things when they are little. Ignore them they add up and lead to bigger things. Parenting is a tiring job.

 

[JDKRXW]

Something tells me that the waiter or waitress that seats families with children can tell which ones are going to be a problem by the time the menus are being handed out.
Maybe this is why this family received 'the card' .

 

[JD D05]

People look at me in restaurants funny because I ride my kids about being quiet and staying seated. I was at the aquarium the other day and my wife got mad at me for yelling at the kids for walking in the 4” wall separating the walk way and the glass. She said all the kids are doing it. I said maybe but my kids aren’t.

I often feel like I am the only one holding my kids up to a higher standard. This parenting shit is hard. I really wish I would get a notification of good job or shitty move on my phone after every word out of my mouth. At least I would know if I’m getting it right.

I am the exact same way. For years some of our friends with kids etc would give me crap about how tough I was on my kids.

 

[JD D05]

Interesting read, My wife and I are Nazi's with our 3 kids when we go out to eat. Eating out is a special time for them and they need to use their manners and behave. We have friends and family that we occasionally go out with and it is pure chaos around the dinner table. People give our table the stink eye often times (and rightfully so it is embarrassing) Kids are bouncing off the walls, screaming, running around the table, etc.. I look over at my 3 and their asses are firmly planted in their seats behaving, and coloring. After dinner is over and we are on our way home in the car my kids even realize how crazy some of their friends and family were acting and make comments. I take great pride in my kids acting right and especially when we are out to dinner.

I have been there and it is really uncomfortable.

 

[ilmormark]

In the day when i grew up when kids got out of hand Moms took them outside so as not to disturb others and of course to teach them that this isnt a place to misbehave. This morning my wife told me i was being mean to my boys 30 and 32 i told her the reason they both are successful and responsible was because of the way i was "MEAN" to them thye both work for me and our company has grown every year because of them and because of the way they were raised.

 

[rvrrun]

People look at me in restaurants funny because I ride my kids about being quiet and staying seated. I was at the aquarium the other day and my wife got mad at me for yelling at the kids for walking in the 4” wall separating the walk way and the glass. She said all the kids are doing it. I said maybe but my kids aren’t.

I often feel like I am the only one holding my kids up to a higher standard. This parenting shit is hard. I really wish I would get a notification of good job or shitty move on my phone after every word out of my mouth. At least I would know if I’m getting it right.

And there is the crux of it in one sentence. "This parenting shit is hard", anything worthwhile doing is difficult and takes time and diligence. It's easier to let kids make their own rules than it is to actually "parent".

 

[wsuwrhr]

Yooooore getting it right counselor.

People look at me in restaurants funny because I ride my kids about being quiet and staying seated. I was at the aquarium the other day and my wife got mad at me for yelling at the kids for walking in the 4” wall separating the walk way and the glass. She said all the kids are doing it. I said maybe but my kids aren’t.

I often feel like I am the only one holding my kids up to a higher standard. This parenting shit is hard. I really wish I would get a notification of good job or shitty move on my phone after every word out of my mouth. At least I would know if I’m getting it right.

 

[milkmoney]

I love stupid people. They make great stupid stories , that make me laugh [emoji202]

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[Go-Fly]

But children should be free to explore their inner self. You have to set limits for people in the me only, me first world. They truly don't understand what the problem is.

 

[SBMech]

I just want to say to you all, the parents on RDP give the rest of us hope that the world will not turn to shit.

Thank you for making dining out an enjoyable experience when we share a restaurant, not the nightmare that it can be sometimes.

 

[JD D05]

But children should be free to explore their inner self. You have to set limits for people in the me only, me first world. They truly don't understand what the problem is.

My wife's brother had a kid, his wife is a psychiatrist and they had a little girl a few years ago. That kid is damn cute but holy shit zero discipline like zero. She went into this whole big bullshit spill about it one night. They completely missed thanksgiving dinner because they had to go reason with her for 2 hours straight while she had a complete meltdown. I said you put her in the shower dressed and hit her with cold water she will stop that, they looked at me like I was satin.

 

[Jonas Grumby]

Glad to see others on this board are stern parents like I was, my kiddos are grown up, we would not even take our kids to a restaurant until about 5-6 years old, then it was a constant, no,shhhh,stop that, sit still. I hardly every see parenting these days. My son has his masters, my daughter has her doctrine, both in education, good jobs for life. I chalk it up to strick parenting. But here is the bad part, my daughter has 2 sons, 1 and 3. And they run wild, they don’t believe in saying no. My daughter leers at me when I tell her that the reason she is successful is due to her upbringing, she says we where too strict, and she will raise her kids her way. It’s really irritating. I assume all her educators are informing students that, born free and be wild, is how it should be, because I sure see more unruly kids than well behaved. It seems to be the exception when children are disaplined. I applaud you parents doing your job, it’s not easy,

 

[was thatguy]

The fact that the proprietor feels the need to remind parents to control their kids speaks to the problem.

It’s funny that this idiot was “horrified” simply by the reminder.

As kids, if we acted up We didn’t get any warning or threat or time out when on a rare trip out to eat.
We just got walloped.

Then again, back then there were no dogs in restaurants, no man buns, no social media, and with my dad, “parenting” was not a reactionary endeavor.
I see parents today ruled by their brats.
Hell, ANY of my parents friends had full authority to correct me at any time as well.

 

[was thatguy]

This is a good example.
Cam and Claire are having a disagreement about Cam refusing to tell Lilly “no”.

 

[Yellowboat]

I was way too afraid of what would happen too me when I got home too act out in public.

 

[was thatguy]

My wife's brother had a kid, his wife is a psychiatrist and they had a little girl a few years ago. That kid is damn cute but holy shit zero discipline like zero. She went into this whole big bullshit spill about it one night. They completely missed thanksgiving dinner because they had to go reason with her for 2 hours straight while she had a complete meltdown. I said you put her in the shower dressed and hit her with cold water she will stop that, they looked at me like I was satin.

It’s funny you mention the shower.
When Deb and I first bought our property and moved in together her son Jeffrey was 12 or so.
He loved throwing fits. Like lay on the ground and beat the floor fits.
We got married shortly after moving in and one day Jeffery verbally went off on his mom. I snatched him off the floor and held him up. He yelled “that’s my mom, I’m allowed to yell at her!” I said “NO ONE talks to my wife that way”.
He yelled “I’ll call the cops”.
I said “you should have called them already”.
Now there was no way I was going to hit him, my dad did that (not abusive, don’t get me wrong) and I vowed never to hit my kids if I ever had any.
So in that split second I opened the back door and walked him out and tossed him in the pool. Shallow end, no midget toss, just a little dunk to get his attention, which it did being wintertime!
Suffice it to say that his childish fit throwing stopped that day.

 

[JD D05]

It’s funny you mention the shower.
When Deb and I first bought our property and moved in together her son Jeffrey was 12 or so.
He loved throwing fits. Like lay on the ground and beat the floor fits.
We got married shortly after moving in and one day Jeffery verbally went off in his mom. I snatched him off the floor and held him up. He yelled “that’s my mom, I’m allowed to yell at her!” I said “NO ONE talks to my wife that way”.
He yelled “I’ll call the cops”.
I said “you should have called them already”.
Now there was no way I was going to hit him, my dad did that (not abusive, don’t get me wrong) and I vowed never to hit my kids if I ever had any.
So in that split second I opened the back door and walked him out and tossed him in the pool. Shallow end, no midget toss, just a little dunk to get his attention, which it did being wintertime!
Suffice it to say that his childish fit throwing stopped that day.

Hahahahaha ! My mom was told about the shower deal from some child behavior specialist years ago and it really works well.

 

[Jonas Grumby]

My mom used a wooden spoon.

 

[Chili Palmer]

My mom used a wooden spoon.

The tried and trusted mom's tool for childhood upbringing since the medieval times:

 

[DrunkenSailor]

My dad had a small boat paddle over the fridge. I think he used it on me once. From then on out all he had to do was point at the thing.

 

[rivermobster]

My son was a good kid, but got into that teenage habit of little lies. When he was a freshman, he was caught in yet another lie. I lost it. Had a buddy come over and took everything out of his room and door off the hinges. left his clothes, a blanket and a pillow. Told him my responsibility was to provide a roof over his head and feed him, everything else he gets is based on trust. After about two weeks, he earned getting stuff back. Guess it made an impression, because at this high school graduation all his friends were reminiscing and brought that up.

probably could have prevented all that by handling the little things when they are little. Ignore them they add up and lead to bigger things. Parenting is a tiring job.

I did that door/room thing to my son ONE time. I can't even remember what it was about, but whatever it was, I know he never did it again!!! lol

 

[nameisbond]

I don't have kids. Don't want them! I hate spoiled brats. I pick restaurants that are likely kid free. Grocery shop at times kids likely not around. I don't want to hear them! Wish more restaurants would do this!

 

[coolchange]

When one of my daughters was about 28 she called my wife and thanked her for being so mean when she was growing up. She had to work with some people that we're obviously not parented as children.
when my older son was in high school he had some stuff that he needed to take care of and he wasn't doing it. I took the mattress out of his bedroom, cut it in three pieces and threw it in the trash. He came home and was like WTF. I said if I have to lay there awake at night wondering when you're going to get this done, you can lay there awake at night figuring out when you're going to get it done also.
grabbing video game CDs and snapping them half is also good way to get their attention.
WTG, grabbed my mouthy teenage son one day, put him against the wall, and told him if you ever talk to my wife that way again it'll be a long time before you're able to say anything to anybody. Changed his whole perspective on" his mom."

 

[redone76]

When one of my daughters was about 28 she called my wife and thanked her for being so mean when she was growing up. She had to work with some people that we're obviously not parented as children.
when my older son was in high school he had some stuff that he needed to take care of and he wasn't doing it. I took the mattress out of his bedroom, cut it in three pieces and threw it in the trash. He came home and was like WTF. I said if I have to lay there awake at night wondering when you're going to get this done, you can lay there awake at night figuring out when you're going to get it done also.
grabbing video game CDs and snapping them half is also good way to get their attention.
WTG, grabbed my mouthy teenage son one day, put him against the wall, and told him if you ever talk to my wife that way again it'll be a long time before you're able to say anything to anybody. Changed his whole perspective on" his mom."

Man you're older than I thought! I'm 40 with a 5 year old and he listens pretty good. Problem I have is when he's around some of my more easier going friend's kids he tends to lose his shit and act like the animals they are. Super frustrating. I have a great mom story...17 years old and thought I was the big man...called my mom a bitch...dad came into the kitchen, promptly picked me up and threw me into the kitchen table and said no man gets to call my wife a bitch and walk away. He put the fear of god into me and taught me a very valuable lesson. One I hope to never teach my son.

 

[500bbc]

My wife's brother had a kid, his wife is a psychiatrist and they had a little girl a few years ago. That kid is damn cute but holy shit zero discipline like zero. She went into this whole big bullshit spill about it one night. They completely missed thanksgiving dinner because they had to go reason with her for 2 hours straight while she had a complete meltdown. I said you put her in the shower dressed and hit her with cold water she will stop that, they looked at me like I was satin.

Smooth?

 

[JD D05]

Smooth?

I don't follow...?

 

[was thatguy]

Some good posts here!

I also took the door off of Val’s room once. She got mad because I routinely “tossed” their rooms looking for contraband (and usually found something like empty beer cans or even pot sometimes...Debbie kept the pot for the record!)
She said I had no right to search their rooms, I disagreed and removed her door for a few days. We came to an understanding.
With Jeffrey, when he was like 15-16 I tossed his room and found The cigs he was stealing from us, a bong, and drawer fulls of dirty dishes that he was too fucking lazy to even carry to the kitchen.
I removed EVERYTHING from his room and put a camping air mattress in there while he was at school.

I also was forced to “issue” them one towel a week, as it seemed to me that 15 loads of laundry (slightly exaggerated) a day trying to keep up with the slob and the Duchess was excessive.
To be honest, they ran over their mom in a lot of ways while I was out of state working. So when I came home there was always a “readjustment” period.
Deb would stick up for those kids no matter what...even if she knew I was right.

 

[JD D05]

Some good posts here!

I also took the door off of Val’s room once. She got mad because I routinely “tossed” their rooms looking for contraband (and usually found something like empty beer cans or even pot sometimes...Debbie kept the pot for the record!)
She said I had no right to search their rooms, I disagreed and removed her door for a few days. We came to an understanding.
With Jeffrey, when he was like 15-16 I tossed his room and found The cigs he was stealing from us, a bong, and drawer fulls of dirty dishes that he was too fucking lazy to even carry to the kitchen.
I removed EVERYTHING from his room and put a camping air mattress in there while he was at school.

I also was forced to “issue” them one towel a week, as it seemed to me that 15 loads of laundry (slightly exaggerated) a day trying to keep up with the slob and the Duchess was excessive.
To be honest, they ran over their mom in a lot of ways while I was out of state working. So when I came home there was always a “readjustment” period.
Deb would stick up for those kids no matter what...even if she knew I was right.

Hahahaha that is awesome.

 

[500bbc]

I don't follow...?

"looked at me like I was satin"

 

[Moody]

"I'm not your friend. I'm your Father."

 

[WhatExit?]

The fact that this thread is now at 40 posts speaks volumes as to the state of our society.

If your kids can't behave correctly in a restaurant IT'S YOUR FAULT and you should be publicly bitch slapped, sent home and banned from the restaurant forever.

 

[rrrr]

It’s funny you mention the shower.
When Deb and I first bought our property and moved in together her son Jeffrey was 12 or so.
He loved throwing fits. Like lay on the ground and beat the floor fits.
We got married shortly after moving in and one day Jeffery verbally went off on his mom. I snatched him off the floor and held him up. He yelled “that’s my mom, I’m allowed to yell at her!” I said “NO ONE talks to my wife that way”.
He yelled “I’ll call the cops”.
I said “you should have called them already”.
Now there was no way I was going to hit him, my dad did that (not abusive, don’t get me wrong) and I vowed never to hit my kids if I ever had any.
So in that split second I opened the back door and walked him out and tossed him in the pool. Shallow end, no midget toss, just a little dunk to get his attention, which it did being wintertime!
Suffice it to say that his childish fit throwing stopped that day.

When my wife's 15 year old nephew pulls that shit, his parents and my mother-in-law are terrified to say anything to him because he'll get even worse. He spins around on the floor and screams.

A couple of summers ago they were all over here swimming, and the kid was playing his parents like a cheap harmonica. He came inside while I was in the kitchen, and I blocked his path as he walked by.

I said something along the lines of "You might get away with that shit with your parents, but now you're in my house."

"If you don't knock it off, there's gonna be a time when you and I are alone, and I'm going to beat your ass until it's bloody and you will think you're going to pass out from the pain. Just try me and we'll see how it turns out."

Now, every time he comes over, I catch his attention when no one is looking, and give him the Look of Death. He behaves in our house, I don't give a shit what he does elsewhere.

His parents have fucked him up for life. While he is extremely intelligent, he has zero social skills. He goes to a special school, and gets even more pandering there.

I don't think he'll ever be able to live on his own.

 

[was thatguy]

When my wife's 15 year old nephew pulls that shit, his parents and my mother-in-law are terrified to say anything to him because he'll get even worse. He spins around on the floor and screams.

A couple of summers ago they were all over here swimming, and the kid was playing his parents like a cheap harmonica. He came inside while I was in the kitchen, and I blocked his path as he walked by.

I said something along the lines of "You might get away with that shit with your parents, but now you're in my house."

"If you don't knock it off, there's gonna be a time when you and I are alone, and I'm going to beat your ass until it's bloody and you will think you're going to pass out from the pain. Just try me and we'll see how it turns out."

Now, every time he comes over, I catch his attention when no one is looking, and give him the Look of Death. He behaves in our house, I don't give a shit what he does elsewhere.

His parents have fucked him up for life. While he is extremely intelligent, he has zero social skills. He goes to a special school, and gets even more pandering there.

I don't think he'll ever be able to live on his own.

It’s sad to see how modern society instills in kids the idea that they are exempt from controlling their own behavior because they suffer from some diagnosed condition.

While there are truly troubled kids, ANY kid that acts out is labeled with something.
I have a nephew that is diagnosed with...wait for it...”compulsive defiance disorder”...I shit you not.
Interestingly enough it only seems to manifest itself with his parents.

Like your nephew, he NEVER displayed this at my house.

I told him, and his parents, that I actually suffered from that as a teenager. I had it for one day. My dad cured me with what I think was a right hook...not sure since I never saw it coming. All I know is I woke up and I was cured.

 

[rrrr]

Yep. In this case it's "Autism Spectrum Disorder". Being diagnosed with such an issue does not mean a complete abandonment of discipline should follow. This kid has weaponized his minor affliction, using it to get what he wants when he wants it.

 

[Havasu Surfer]

Great post and Replies. I would add to it but you guys/gals pretty much covered the spectrum. We have a saying in our family that we take a "Time Out" to address the situation and if they act/speak up again we take another "Time Out" to beat your ass. There seems to be a common thread among the boating crowd that we carry the responsibility of discipline on the water, with our toys and expect it from our family members as well.

 

[wsuwrhr]

My youngest has had an attitude the past 6 months or so, you ask her to do something she doesn't want to do and she pouts, and is generally uncooperative, I give her one or two chances, meaning I give her a chance to change her attitude, and she usually doesn't, "Well then up to your room you go. Now!" She used to protest, and that got her a spanking, and then to her room.

It has been a battle.

"I don't know what games are played when I am not home, but Dad doesn't play games. I ask you something, I mean it"

"I am not your friend, I am your father."