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Decisions no human should ever have to make

farmo83

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This past Thanksgiving my wife and I welcomed our second daughter. She was rushed to the NICU for breathing issues but rapidly stabilized. The doctors said as she was a scheduled c section and hadn't gone through labor she most likely had fluid on her lungs which would need a day or two to evacuate and we'd be on our way. The next day we were told she had no gag reflex or swallowing reflex. They ran a brain ultra sound which showed brain deformities and we transferred to a speciality childrens hospital for further analysis. At this point we prepared ourselves to have a special needs child and many rdp peeps reached out in support of which i am very thankful for.

Over December they stabilized her breathing, feeding, and ran a bunch of test, brain mri, jaw evaluation, sleep study, eeg, genetic testing, ent scopes, eye exam, chest exams, and I'm sure some more.

This past Wednesday we had our consultation and we're told shell need a trach, feeding tube, breathing machine, her brain is 100% deformed so shell most likely be in a near vegetative state, require 24 hr a day care, be highly prone to infections, and never know who we are. The doctors without any prompting from us heavily suggested comfort care for her and to allow her to pass on. We spoke with our family Chaplin who put it as

"Would you want to live her life?" To which both my wife and I said no and he brought up not.asking her to then.

As such we elected for comfort care and baby Summer will begin her transition late next week after family and friends have a chance to meet her and say goodbye.

I would not wish all of this on Adolf Hitler. Everyone with little ones hug them tight.

Thank you to all the inmates that reached out during the beginning, it helped more then I can describe.
 

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Singleton

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No word!
Thoughts with your family as you go through this process.

I know a few parents that had to make this decision. It is the hardest decision you will ever make!

RIP Summer
 

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Given the enormity of what you are going through, I’m sorry seems so trite but it’s all I have. I’m sorry.
 

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I am so sorry your family is struck with this painful situation. Prayers for your entire family.
 

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Oh my God, I am so sorry. I’m praying for you all 🙏
 

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I am so sorry.
You and your daughter will bee in my prayers.
Life is a very fragile gift.
 

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I’m terribly sorry…cant imagine what you and yours are going through. Prayers to your daughter and all of you.
 

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My thoughts and prayers 🙏🏻 are with you and your family and Summer.
 

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I am so sorry. No doubt, this was the most difficult decision anyone could have to make, but you had to do what is best for your child. Prayers for you and your family.
 

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That is heartbreaking.

I believe you and your wife have been given some good advice. Your right though, that’s a decision that no one should have to make. Your family is in my thoughts through this difficult time.
 
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I can't imagine what you and your wife are going through. My love to you and your family!
 

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God bless you, life just doesn’t seem fair sometimes.

Your daughter is beautiful.
 

fat rat

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Can’t imagine what you are going through, may God bless your family!😥
 

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Im over here balling my eyes out. For being such an ungrateful piece of shit for being irritated when my little girl is being “difficult”.

Im so sorry man. I cant fathom the pain, the confusion, the emotions. How does one keep it all together?

Baby Sunmer has touched my life and my thoughts are with you and family.
 

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I’m so sorry for you and your wife. Life seems easy for most and wasted on too many.

Hopefully, everyone who reads this realizes the gifts that we have and the life's that we live are truly blessed when everyone is healthy.
 

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Truly saddened and in tears. I am so sorry to hear the news. May peace be with your daughter and the rest of the family. 😭
 

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God bless you and your family. She will be waiting for you on the other side. In the Lord’s presence she will be perfected. The vail is very thin and she will know how much she is loved. She will always be there to listen to you, talk to her.
 

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My wife and I just hugged and said a prayer for you guys. I am so sorry.
 

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🥹🥹You, Summer and your family will be #1 on my mind this week I guarantee. Wishing you comfort and peace, I’m so sorry.
 

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I can't even imagine. It makes any problems I have seem so petty. Bless you and your family.
 

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May God rest her tiny soul and be by your family’s side during this unimaginable process.

I am so sorry…
 

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As so many have said, I can’t imagine the pain this brings. Best wishes going forward.
 

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Bless all of you, especially baby Summer. You all will be in our prayers this next week.
 

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Absolutely horrible, i have no words.... Stay strong, you are in all of our thoughts while you weather this storm 😞
 

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I cannot begin to tell you the sorry this brings. All I can offer is prayer for some sibilance of peace for your entire family during what is the most terrible of circumstances.
 

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So very sorry

Our good freinds RIP
First child
Did not make the right decision

The parents both passed away.
The burden and stress of taking care of the child for 20 years . Ended there life way before there time

Micheal is still a live
He is 40 years old
Both parents died. In There 50’s from the ordeal .

They did have two more wonderful healthy kids .

But still
 

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Wow, thats alot to share, my heart goes out to you and your family.
 

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My wife and I had to to make the same decision on 9/1/24 for our 23 old son. We know as parents what this journey is and the sadness that comes with that decision you are in my thoughts and prayers . Some days I just sit in silence 🥲
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My condolences......what devastating news to hear.

RIP little one
 

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OMG I’m in tears reading this.
Godspeed to your little girl and your family.
 

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I’m lacking anything intelligent to say other than my thoughts and prayers go out to you and family. So 😢
 

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So very sorry. I don’t even know what else to say.😢
 

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Very sad to read this. Prayers for the little one and for you and the wife. 🙏
Take one day at a time and know the RDP family is with you.
 

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Your title sums it up. Sometimes the best decisions are the toughest. Great advice from your Chaplin. My prayers for a peaceful transition.
RIP Summer.
 
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