The most awful thing has invaded the lives of friends

[rrrr]

I just found out Aaron, the son of my wife's best friend, committed suicide this morning in the parking lot of Sam's Club. He was 27.

Tears are streaking my face. It cannot be undone. My heart is breaking for his parents. Fonda often took care of him in the early years, when his mom went back to work. I'm remembering Aaron sleeping in a baby carrier next to our couch, just a few months old.

I'm carried back to 2017, when my 16 year old nephew Andrew killed himself. You cannot imagine the crushing pain the act has on family members. I'm posting here because this forum is filled with friends I haven't met, that provided comfort in those dark days. Today is another one of those days.

Please send prayers the grief doesn't overwhelm Aaron's family. They are going to need them.

 

[Zach bash]

Prayers sent. That is there.

 

[X Hoser]

So Sad! Prayers for the Family. I can’t imagine that pain.

 

[DILLIGAF]

Horrible. Condolences to all he left behind. I would be crushed and empty

 

[rivermobster]

Fuck!!!

 

[attitude]

May Aaron Rest In Peace, prayers sent to his family and friends.

 

[Willie B]

… Such a horrible thing to have happened… Went through this with one of the guys that I grew up with… Nothing but good thoughts and prayers for the young mans’s soul and his entire family…

 

[NicPaus]

My Condolences.

The first funeral I attended when I was around 20 was for a Friend that committed suicide. My other good Friend found Him. And the demons in his head eventually took him out also. He was never the same after.

 

[jetboatperformance]

I Never will understand what drives someone to do this RIP

 

[JFMFG]

I’m so sorry to read this. May god be with Aaron and his family.

 

[rickym20]

Really tough thing to go through with all the unanswered questions. Sadness , frustration and anger all at the same time. Sometimes really hard to tell what someone is going through. I’m really Sorry for your loss . May he Rest in peace.

 

[QC22]

I ache for the families involved. I hope all of them and you can find some peace. Prayers up. Horrible.

 

[FreeBird236]

I can't imagine, Prayers for your friends.

 

[Looking Glass]

I Never will understand what drives someone to do this RIP

My Best Friend in this World did the same thing, and in Bits and Pieces, I could feel something "Coming." ⠀ He came from a family of Doctors and other Medical Professionals, and the Pressure of assuming that he would follow in the same manner was All-Consuming. He "Loved" Dirt Bikes and High-Performance Cars and could repair anything without any manual or video assistance, BUT had no interest Or Intention of following into the Medical Field.

As he would "Hint" once in a while "I Have No Options" and am as Sad and Scared as I am Sick To my Stomach.

He could not bear to "Disappoint" his Father, so as in this case he "DID IT" in the most violent way, and put a gun in his Mouth.

I honestly think of him daily and wish and wonder.

I will never criticize anyone who "Commits It" They are Tortured Humans who Feel there is No Other Option Or Choice.

I watched a Doucmentary some years back about "Survivors" of Attempted Suicide and Every one of them said that the minute they "Jumped", Pulled The Trigger" Or Whatever, They had a "Flash" of "What Have I Done"

 

[Rajobigguy]

I'm not sure what to say. I pray that this young mans soul finds peace and that his family and friends can come to terms with this.

 

[Havasu blue label]

Rip

 

[RVR SWPR]

rrrr,your plate appears full much of the time at times. Sad Aaron made this decision.

 

[OLDRAAT]

Prayers sent to all affected by this tragedy.

 

[Lumpy]

Sorry to hear this rrrr…my sincere condolences to the family.

You never know what kind of darkness is going on in one's head…I wish these people would reach out. Unfortunately my house was struck with a suicide tragedy as
well this week…my son’s best friend and classmate 22 years old at Cal Poly did the same thing…son is devastated. I cant imagine what these families are going through.
If anyone is suspecting someone is in a bad place always try to talk with them…spending just a few minutes can sometimes make a huge difference in one’s life.

 

[RichL]

Very sorry to read of your loss. Condolences sent to friends and family.

 

[Gramps]

Prayers to his family

 

[Joe mama]

Prayers and condolences to the family. I can’t imagine the heart felt pain of losing a child this way.

 

[Mandelon]

Just tragic. My friend's father and our neighbor took this route. His wife was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer. He left a note saying he couldn't bear to watch her waste away. So he beat her to the punch and took his own life in the living room with a revolver.

Its not fair to do this to those who love you. Ya gotta stick it out like the rest of us, dammit.

 

[rrrr]

I thank everyone for their support, prayers, and energy. It helps.

Aaron had terrible demons. He was horrendously overweight, over the years went through a series of dead end retail jobs, and never had a meaningful relationship with a woman.

His parents divorced years ago. His dad is an odious person. He thought nothing of belittling Aaron and his 24 year old sister as they grew up. She is also sadly obese, and while she has a wonderful attitude, has friends, and is engaged socially, she too suffers from the abuse her father dispensed. She has been sharing an apartment with Aaron for the last 18 months, and the immense tragedy of this event will surely cause terrible repercussions in her life.

There is so much pain and sadness that will blanket the lives of Aaron's family and friends. I'm weeping again, because the same questions I had seven years ago have returned.

Didn't he know he was loved? That his life, although imperfect, was valuable and appreciated?

People comment about the selfishness of suicide. But they don't know the depths of despair that drive a person to this terrible act. My nephew was outwardly happy, loving, intelligent, and carefree. But his mom discovered his body, destroyed by the shotgun blast that took his life. She is still in therapy. God, the pain washes over me when I think of this. I still struggle.

It hurts so much to know what Aaron's mother is going through tonight. Everyone in his family is consumed with grief, but hers is sharp and unrelenting.

Fate decrees, and we must obey.

 

[Looking Glass]

All Funerals are (?), "IF" you are not as Down as possible when entering the Service you certainly will be after. The "Blacks" have a "Celebration Of Life" and not the Opposite.

A Funeral for Suicide is beyond words, as every person attending the Service is asking themselves the same set of questions.

 

[Keymyster]

Sad. Prayers sent.

 

[24 Sleekenforcer]

Prayers all involved in this.

 

[DaytonaBabe]

Just awful. I'm sorry for your loss

 

[ChumpChange]

All Funerals are (?), "IF" you are not as Down as possible when entering the Service you certainly will be after. The "Blacks" have a "Celebration Of Life" and not the Opposite.

Celebrations of Life are not for “Blacks”. They are generally for Christians where we can celebrate their life knowing that they are now in Heaven with their Lord and Savior. This world is not the life end destination for Christians.

 

[SoCalDave]

RIP young man...
I took a pic of this guy t-shirt at a recent event...

 

[Looking Glass]

Celebrations of Life are not for “Blacks”. They are generally for Christians where we can celebrate their life knowing that they are now in Heaven with their Lord and Savior. This world is not the life end destination for Christians.

NOT THE ONES I HAVE "SUFFERED" THROUGH!!!

The "Black Funerals" are playing Great "Uplifting Music" and people are singing, Dancing and "Celebrating" and the "White" Funerals are "IF" you don't want to "SLASH" your Wrists before going in, You certainly will AFTER.

 

[Morehart]

I just found out Aaron, the son of my wife's best friend, committed suicide this morning in the parking lot of Sam's Club. He was 27.

Tears are streaking my face. It cannot be undone. My heart is breaking for his parents. Fonda often took care of him in the early years, when his mom went back to work. I'm remembering Aaron sleeping in a baby carrier next to our couch, just a few months old.

I'm carried back to 2017, when my 16 year old nephew Andrew killed himself. You cannot imagine the crushing pain the act has on family members. I'm posting here because this forum is filled with friends I haven't met, that provided comfort in those dark days. Today is another one of those days.

Please send prayers the grief doesn't overwhelm Aaron's family. They are going to need them.

Some things just don't have answers. I've been there. Lost my little brother to suicide when he was just 16 years old. I feel for you and family. I'll say a prayer. My condolences

 

[Bullet28]

May this young man Rest In Peace forever, God’s Blessings to his family who tonight I will say a prayer for.

 

[Ducksquasher]

God Bless their family and yours...

 

[rivergames]

Very sorry for the loss of your family friend

 

[dave29]

Horrible. The mind is a dangerous thing for some people. I lost my cousin to suicide a number of years ago.I loved him so much. He was so good to my brother and I and was a true member of our family. He had 2 kids and a wonderful wife. About 5 years ago his son committed suicide too. He was about 30. He was a bright star for his mother. Really a great kid. His mother tries to keep a positive outlook on life but you know that she is just hurting so much. Fortunately her daughter and grand kids are wonderful and are taking care of her now.

 

[C-2]

Prayers to the family and to you, too rrr.

It's strange, being a kid and starting the journey of life....You read about murders, about deadly car accidents, cancer, and you hear about suicide. Because of your young age you naively believe those stories happen to everybody else, but not to you, or within your family. You only read about them in the newspaper.

And then as you get older, those tragedies start to hit home. Each of them and sometimes repeatedly.

rrr - your comment "People comment about the selfishness of suicide. But they don't know the depths of despair that drive a person to this terrible act." is spot on. I have also lost an immediate family member, HS best friend, and several others to suicide. Like you, it pains me to think about the lonely, desperate and isolated world a victim endures before they end it all.

I've concluded the only thing you can do is take solace in knowing the pain is over for the victim. I don't cast judgment on them and I don't get angry with them. I simply count my blessings that I am not suffering through the same despair.

The aftermath is irreparable. No doubt. I tell my young daughter all the time the journey through life is a muther fucker; it's never easy, it's cruel, and things happen without explanation. Be prepared for it, and always, always, always show empathy and compassion to those who suffer such tragedies because one day - something similar will be bestowed into your journey, too.

At least, that's my take on it.

And that's a great shirt SoCal Dave saw, thanks for sharing.

Hang in there rrr.

 

[Uncle Dave]

Really sorry RRRR.
That's just awful news.
Sending positive recovery thoughts and vibes to all involved.

Dave

 

[Paradox]

I couldn’t even begin to imagine the pain this causes and will continue to cause for a life time. Prayers to the family.

 

[stephenkatsea]

Unbelievably Tragic. Prayers to you and the family.

 

[One2go]

Very sorry for all his family and friend. Rest In Peace young man

 

[PaPaG]

So sorry for your loss and prayers for everyone effected. I have had friends take their lives, I have had friends thinking about taking their lives and thank GOD they did not. There are so many folks out there with these thoughts, if there is only one thing I can say is that if ANYONE has these thoughts and needs to talk, vent, share, you have so many options just take a chance and talk with a friend, stranger, call center, suicide hotline even a boating Forum member, etc. THERE are so many willing to help and just listen if and when needed.

 

[LHC Kirby]

So sorry to hear, my condolences. Prayers headed your way.

 

[zhandfull]

RIP to the young man.

My grandsons friend did the same a few weeks ago. He had just graduated from high school last year.

Hard for me and many others to understand.

 

[Luvnlife]

Sorry for what everyone is going through

 

[HBCraig]

Sorry brother. Sad, heartbreaking, etc. All the words can describe this but it's devastating to the parents.
Godspeed