Reality Bites - Plus Shameless Plug

[ChiliPepperGarage]

When I retired a few years ago I had all these grandiose plans and bucket list items. Now I seem to be moving a lot of these things from the bucket list to the fuck it list. .

Perhaps I'm going through a midlife crisis (I'm almost 67 so more like and end of life crisis) but I have come to the realization that I just can't do the things I used to do.

I wanted to ride a motorcycle around the country. With arthritis in both hands now I can't ride long distances. I really don't care for extreme heat or cold. I don't enjoy riding in the rain. That one is now on the fuck it list.

I wanted to drive the Dalton Highway to Prudhoe Bay. Now thinking about the bugs, the bears, the toll it would take on my truck, the cost of fuel, food and lodging, plus dealing with Canada and vax BS, I don't think it is worth the hassle. Another fuck it list item.

I wanted to be a Long Hauler on the Hot Rod Power Tour. Too many cars and traffic, too many people, to expensive. Fuck it list it goes.

I want to get my Red card so I can go fight big wildland fires. That is something I might still try to do but again, at my age I'm not going to be on the front lines. I could backfill other stations or maybe do structure protection though.

I have an issue with the macula in my eyes and they are deteriorating. My dad had macular degeneration and was almost blind by the time he passed so I have that to look (sort of ) forward to.

Now for the shameless plug. I wanted to run my new boat down in Havasu, Mead, runs to Catalina, and the Delta and maybe tow to LOTO or even Florida. I'm never going to do any of that. Maybe Havasu once and the Delta once but not multiple times. Boating on Lake Tahoe has become such a pain that I know several people locally that are selling their boats or down sizing for the smaller local lakes. I just listed the boat for sale here. I also don't have any boating friends around here and solo boating is kind of a pain. I know it is going to be heart braking when it sells but I have to accept reality for what it is.

I've sold a couple of my Harley's and will be keeping just one for short local rides. I just sold my beautiful, like new 33K miles C5 Z06 because I wasn't using it much. I've sold off a couple project cars that I knew I'd never get done and will be selling a couple more.

I want to get down to just a handful of toys that I know I will use and enjoy. I also had this delusion that I might meet a nice woman that I could share some of my stuff with and do stuff together but I also realize that living in a very remote and rural area, that ain't going to happen. Not many woman here and ones from other areas don't want to live in the boonies. So I have to reprioritize my goals and plans. I have to realize I'm no longer young, and listen to what Clint said, "A man has to know his limitations". Now I know he also said, "Don't let the old man in" but I'll bet he can't do the things he used to do.

Like I said, maybe this is some sort of crisis I'm going through but I don't think so. I've been thinking about this kind of stuff for some time now. I think it really hit me a couple weeks ago when I almost bought a new Harley. While talking it over with the sales guy I thought to myself, why am I going to spend $30K on a new bike when I hardly ever ride the ones I have now? Then I thought about all the other stuff I have but hardly ever use. This of course lead me to all the plans I have that I'll never do.

I know we got some older guys on here. Have you gone through this phase of your life? How did you handle it? I have my plans of selling stuff off but it is a bit painful to see them go and sad realizing that I will never accomplish things that I wanted to do. Sometimes it makes me want to wander into the woods and get eaten by a bear. That would be a very painful way to go but would make for a killer (no pun intended) story of how I died!

 

[TBulger]

Geez, I’m 82 and still do it all, including the woman thing; my wife is 20 years younger than me and keeps me tuned up. I follow your posts and you pretty much have everything and have done so much. It’s to soon for you to bail out on us from a do nothing stand point, I think a young wife might just solve your problem and there are plenty out there that would be happy to live in the boonies and ride with you on the Harley.
Enjoyed this post and wish you the best, now get at it; there is so much left for you to accomplish, but I do understand the lack of motivation, we all have it from time to time.

 

[sonicss31]

You dreams can just stay dreams and there is nothing wrong with that in the least. As we get older adjustments have to be made in most aspects of our lives. I’m 67 too btw. From reading your post it sounds to me like you are a touch lonely and that feeling can often be overcome by just some interaction with people or kids even, maybe look in the volunteering somewhere. Good luck moving forward and don’t forget to keep posting on Corvette forums.

 

[HNL2LHC]

Nice start to your for sale thread. Did you take 2FF’s “Selling on RDP” course or buy his “Selling For Dummies” book?













j/k Best of luck getting all that you want done on your bucket list. You can do it!!!!!!

 

[dread Pirate]

A couple years ago I had the f it talk with myself. Had several project cars, boats an other things. What could I actually finish and what do I need to finish for myself. I chose 3. My Daytona, 93 F350 that built my place and my 63 VW Notch. My son stepped in and said he wants the Crusader tunnel so it's still here.

 

[Gramps]

How long ago did you have your red card? where? I'm 72, just gave mine up a couple of years ago. I still have some toys but don't use them as often as I want to. The boat, RZR and guns still come out to play every so often but not like I planned years ago.

 

[pronstar]

Because I waited until I was 50 to start having kids, I no longer have a bucket list of my own.

I’ll be lucky to see a grandkid before I die

 

[Ziggy]

Guess you could say we all realize our mortality at some point, that's when the sorting begins. Keep, sell, donate all fall in line with what we believe we have time/capability for.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Geez, I’m 82 and still do it all, including the woman thing; my wife is 20 years younger than me and keeps me tuned up. I follow your posts and you pretty much have everything and have done so much. It’s to soon for you to bail out on us from a do nothing stand point, I think a young wife might just solve your problem and there are plenty out there that would be happy to live in the boonies and ride with you on the Harley.
Enjoyed this post and wish you the best, now get at it; there is so much left for you to accomplish, but I do understand the lack of motivation, we all have it from time to time.

Sounds like you're still killing it at 82. Good for you!

I do think a good woman would help my situation but they are pretty hard to find around here. They are either shaped like a potato or have a ton of baggage. And I ain't exactly a George Clooney looking MF'er.

I'm still pretty active and have a ton pf projects on my property that I'm working on. maybe I should start a project thread here.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

You dreams can just stay dreams and there is nothing wrong with that in the least. As we get older adjustments have to be made in most aspects of our lives. I’m 67 too btw. From reading your post it sounds to me like you are a touch lonely and that feeling can often be overcome by just some interaction with people or kids even, maybe look in the volunteering somewhere. Good luck moving forward and don’t forget to keep posting on Corvette forums.

I'm actually already a volunteer fire fighter / EMT and also a county sheriff office auxiliary officer. It does get me out in the public often but also can have its down side. As an EMT you see a lot of stuff. Some of it is kind of difficult to deal with. I don't think it affects me much but maybe it does and I'm not realizing it.

I think it is more that I'm not (or no long think I am) 10 feet tall and bullet proof. I just need a mental reset.

I'm keeping my C3 Corvette too so I'll continue to be over there on the CF.

 

[OC Mike]

Bucket list to F... it list..

I have a few of those.
Don't really have anything to comment other than, I get it.

Carry on.....

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

How long ago did you have your red card? where? I'm 72, just gave mine up a couple of years ago. I still have some toys but don't use them as often as I want to. The boat, RZR and guns still come out to play every so often but not like I planned years ago.

I'm in northern NV right near the CA border. We have a new (to us) type 3 that we want to contract out with a crew. I'd like to be on that deployed out to inevitable wildland fires we'll have this year. With all this moisture we've had this winter there is going to be a lot of fuel out there.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Guess you could say we all realize our mortality at some point, that's when the sorting begins. Keep, sell, donate all fall in line with what we believe we have time/capability for.

You ever read a really good book and then suddenly realize that there are only a few pages left and you know it is going to end soon?

I'm doing what your second sentence says. I also know that things change and I may end up getting back some of the stuff I'm selling off now. You can't keep everything though or at least you shouldn't.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Nice start to your for sale thread. Did you take 2FF’s “Selling on RDP” course or buy his Selling For Dummies” book?













j/k Best of luck getting all that you want done on your bucket list. You can do it!!!!!!

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Oh, and to add to this, I'm actually thinking about replacing my Fastech with a pontoon boat!

I always considered pontoons to be the marine equivalent of sitting in a rocking chair on your front porch (which I am also doing). I guess now a days I can just hang a couple big whackers on one though and still go pretty fast.

 

[Gramps]

I'm in northern NV right near the CA border. We have a new (to us) type 3 that we want to contract out with a crew. I'd like to be on that deployed out to inevitable wildland fires we'll have this year. With all this moisture we've had this winter there is going to be a lot of fuel out there.

I'm still with a wildland operation just not red carded anymore. I sent a crew to southern California this morning!!!!! My bucket list ...... run a top fuel car again and go tuna long rang fishing again.

 

[Mcob25rg]

CPG, I’m right with you in age ( 66,6 months) and attitude - all the rides I was going to take aren’t happening ( bike sits for weeks/months at a time ). I had the exact same New Harley experience this spring - went from Ohio to Fla and back, stopped at 6 different dealers, but kept saying “ why? I hardly ride the one I have now, and it runs great!”. Buddy just got a new boat last year when we both retired - it’s great going during the week, but I hate when it’s “too hot or too cold”, so we go maybe once every 2 weeks. I got a 22 A class DP to travel the country - haven’t been west of Tenn because I keep thinking how much work/money/time it’s going to take.
You are definitely not alone - I’m still glad I retired and didn’t work until I died, but young plans don’t work at old age. I’m in great shape, people tell me I look way younger than I am, but I’m tired internally. I don’t bounce back from a big day of physical work like 10 years ago, so doing big projects isn’t as fun as it was when I didn’t have the time/$ to do it. I think less is more, and enjoying time / life is more important than stuff. I hope I helped you realize you’re DEFINITELY NOT THE ONLY ONE.

 

[Gonefishin5555]

You need to take a vacation to Thailand or the Philippines.

 

[Aces & Eights]

I’m about 6-8 months away from retirement, I’ll be 58. For years the first thing I’ve had on my bucket list is to hike the PCT. I always thought it would be a challenge, a reward and an opportunity to reset my entire being from the grind my professional life has put me through mentally and physically.

Now as it gets closer I’m not so certain. Hiking everyday about 20 miles a day carrying all I can manage, near death experiences due to extreme heat and freezing cold, starving, sleeping on the ground, pooping in a hole in the ground for about 5 and a half months straight and never ending exhaustion, loneliness, aches and pains sounds like the best thing in the world on paper…in reality it might be too much to put myself through. I wish I would’ve done it 20 years ago but I never had the time or opportunity to pull that off.

Fuck it.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

CPG, I’m right with you in age ( 66,6 months) and attitude - all the rides I was going to take aren’t happening ( bike sits for weeks/months at a time ). I had the exact same New Harley experience this spring - went from Ohio to Fla and back, stopped at 6 different dealers, but kept saying “ why? I hardly ride the one I have now, and it runs great!”. Buddy just got a new boat last year when we both retired - it’s great going during the week, but I hate when it’s “too hot or too cold”, so we go maybe once every 2 weeks. I got a 22 A class DP to travel the country - haven’t been west of Tenn because I keep thinking how much work/money/time it’s going to take.
You are definitely not alone - I’m still glad I retired and didn’t work until I died, but young plans don’t work at old age. I’m in great shape, people tell me I look way younger than I am, but I’m tired internally. I don’t bounce back from a big day of physical work like 10 years ago, so doing big projects isn’t as fun as it was when I didn’t have the time/$ to do it. I think less is more, and enjoying time / life is more important than stuff. I hope I helped you realize you’re DEFINITELY NOT THE ONLY ONE.

Thanks. Yeah, maybe I need some "misery loves company" posts.

I used to be able to roll 1,000 miles in a day. Now I'm beat after 500.

Working on projects is tough especially in the summer heat. I now say I feel like 30 at 7AM, 50 by noon and 80 by 5PM.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

I’m about 6-8 months away from retirement, I’ll be 58. For years the first thing I’ve had on my bucket list is to hike the PCT. I always thought it would be a challenge, a reward and an opportunity to reset my entire being from the grind my professional life has put me through mentally and physically.

Now as it gets closer I’m not so certain. Hiking everyday about 20 miles a day carrying all I can manage, near death experiences due to extreme heat and freezing cold, starving, sleeping on the ground, pooping in a hole in the ground for about 5 and a half months straight and never ending exhaustion, loneliness, aches and pains sounds like the best thing in the world on paper…in reality it might be too much to put myself through. I wish I would’ve done it 20 years ago but I never had the time or opportunity to pull that off.

Fuck it.

I wanted to the the PCT too but no longer. Same with the TAT on a dirt bike. I still might do that one in my Jeep though. I have a little off road camp trailer that I'd bring. I don't like sleeping on the ground any more.

 

[rrrr]

That's me in the OP. The boats are long gone. I haven't been in big league racing since 2011. My 1966 F-100 hasn't run for eight years. The Excursion has a bad battery and needs a new A/C compressor. My shop looks like it belongs to a hoarder. I've gone fishing four times in the last five years. My tractor doesn't run, but I've had the new carburetor for six months.

But the absolute worst has happened. I have hired someone to do stuff around my property and home. I'm the guy that could do everything. But no more. I even let my electrical license lapse.

I've become a caricature of an old man. The only things I'm missing are hearing aids and Depends.

 

[mjc]

I am not doing to bad for 67. I just got a new to me dirt bike, enjoy the pontoon and am getting work done on the project chevelle everyday. And the wife wants to rv more than we do now.

 

[rivermobster]

When I retired a few years ago I had all these grandiose plans and bucket list items. Now I seem to be moving a lot of these things from the bucket list to the fuck it list. .

Perhaps I'm going through a midlife crisis (I'm almost 67 so more like and end of life crisis) but I have come to the realization that I just can't do the things I used to do.

I wanted to ride a motorcycle around the country. With arthritis in both hands now I can't ride long distances. I really don't care for extreme heat or cold. I don't enjoy riding in the rain. That one is now on the fuck it list.

I wanted to drive the Dalton Highway to Prudhoe Bay. Now thinking about the bugs, the bears, the toll it would take on my truck, the cost of fuel, food and lodging, plus dealing with Canada and vax BS, I don't think it is worth the hassle. Another fuck it list item.

I wanted to be a Long Hauler on the Hot Rod Power Tour. Too many cars and traffic, too many people, to expensive. Fuck it list it goes.

I want to get my Red card so I can go fight big wildland fires. That is something I might still try to do but again, at my age I'm not going to be on the front lines. I could backfill other stations or maybe do structure protection though.

I have an issue with the macula in my eyes and they are deteriorating. My dad had macular degeneration and was almost blind by the time he passed so I have that to look (sort of ) forward to.

Now for the shameless plug. I wanted to run my new boat down in Havasu, Mead, runs to Catalina, and the Delta and maybe tow to LOTO or even Florida. I'm never going to do any of that. Maybe Havasu once and the Delta once but not multiple times. Boating on Lake Tahoe has become such a pain that I know several people locally that are selling their boats or down sizing for the smaller local lakes. I just listed the boat for sale here. I also don't have any boating friends around here and solo boating is kind of a pain. I know it is going to be heart braking when it sells but I have to accept reality for what it is.

I've sold a couple of my Harley's and will be keeping just one for short local rides. I just sold my beautiful, like new 33K miles C5 Z06 because I wasn't using it much. I've sold off a couple project cars that I knew I'd never get done and will be selling a couple more.

I want to get down to just a handful of toys that I know I will use and enjoy. I also had this delusion that I might meet a nice woman that I could share some of my stuff with and do stuff together but I also realize that living in a very remote and rural area, that ain't going to happen. Not many woman here and ones from other areas don't want to live in the boonies. So I have to reprioritize my goals and plans. I have to realize I'm no longer young, and listen to what Clint said, "A man has to know his limitations". Now I know he also said, "Don't let the old man in" but I'll bet he can't do the things he used to do.

Like I said, maybe this is some sort of crisis I'm going through but I don't think so. I've been thinking about this kind of stuff for some time now. I think it really hit me a couple weeks ago when I almost bought a new Harley. While talking it over with the sales guy I thought to myself, why am I going to spend $30K on a new bike when I hardly ever ride the ones I have now? Then I thought about all the other stuff I have but hardly ever use. This of course lead me to all the plans I have that I'll never do.

I know we got some older guys on here. Have you gone through this phase of your life? How did you handle it? I have my plans of selling stuff off but it is a bit painful to see them go and sad realizing that I will never accomplish things that I wanted to do. Sometimes it makes me want to wander into the woods and get eaten by a bear. That would be a very painful way to go but would make for a killer (no pun intended) story of how I died!

Oh and...

GLWTS!

 

[whiteworks]

I think it’s perfectly normal to shift priorities as you get older, some things just are not as important as you thought they would be. I think trip overseas to find a nice hot young wife might not be a bad deal, or at least go sample some flavors, a good chick will make ya or break ya

 

[callbob]

I can relate (although without all the toys lol). Wife and I both retired over 2 years ago with big plans. Bought a new F150 and 34' travel trailer with plans to travel and fish. Spend winters in Az and back to Colorado in summer between trips. Then cancer reared its ugly head with the wife. Sold the rv and bought a place in a 55+ community in Arizona to be close to the cancer center. Never thought we would be living around a bunch of "old" people. I'm 71 and she is 73. Now we have mostly a fuckit list.
Yes a F150 haters lol, and for the record it pulled the travel trailer like it wasn't there.

 

[satellitemike]

A lot of great sentiments in this thread!
Why is youth wasted on the young?

 

[Heylam]

Been there, and done that. Freeing yourself from a lot of items you really don’t need is actually liberating once accomplished, and you’ll find happiness and joy in what is really dear to you.
Congratulations finding more simple joy!

 

[rivermobster]

I think having a routine helps keep the boredom away.

Normally (being retired now) I have more crap to do than I can keep track of! It's nuts!!

But...

We are So conditioned to getting up and getting ready for work, it's kinna odd not having to do that! So?

Get up, read the BS on here, stretch, hit some weights, go for a 3 to 5 mile walk, coffee, breakfast and then do what needs to be done!

I love to cook. So planning, shopping, cooking and playing in the kitchen takes up a big part of every day.

This is why I have to exercise. Cause I Love to eat!

Dylan is right though...

Priorities change with age. Totally normal. Nobody wants to watch The Wiggles all day anymore, right?

I prefer Tom and Jerry these days.

 

[BabyRay]

I’m 69, retired 10 years. When I retired, I was living on a lake, and had a boat at the dock (yes, by then it was a pontoon). At an earlier age, I thought that was the dream. But, by the time I’d been retired a few years, hanging on the pontoon became boring. We not only sold the boat, but also the lake house, because what’s the point of living on a lake if you’re just going to sit on the deck.

Big travel plans? Nah, I traveled too much when I was working. Now, once or twice a year, for a week or two, is enough for me.

I did pull out my bicycle a few years ago, which led to buying several e-bikes, as I discovered getting up hills was a real bitch with sciatica. The good news is I love riding, and try to get out at least a couple of times per week, usually riding at least 15 miles, and more typically 25-30, with an occasional ride up to 45-50 miles. No throttle.

A year ago, I picked up a new pup, and have been spending a lot of time on both obedience and protection training. She also provides motivation to get out and hike some of the nearby trails, as it’s a great way for both of us to get some exercise and enjoy nature. Plus, it’s just fun to see how happy she is when we get out there together.

My latest thing is going back to the gym. I hadn’t darkened the door of a gym in almost 20 years, and have now been working out with a trainer for about 3-4 months. As a result, my joints hurt less, and I don’t look at those 45 lb. bags of dog food with fear.

This started out as a post about what I’m not doing, but kinda made me realize it’s not “what I’m not doing” that matters, but “what I’m doing now”. Things just change.

 

[Track Man]

I’m turning 67 next week. Your thread CGP sounds just like me. I have my place up here in Northern California just outside of Reno where it snows a lot. I have Snowmobile’s snow cat truck with tracks, off grid house all a lot of work. This year with all the snow, it kicked my ass. I love snowmobiling, but I only last 2 to 3 hours. I’m putting my snowmobile house up for sale this year. Downsizing to my smaller rental house in town. I’m really sad about that. I have my place in Havasu so I get away for two months in the spring and two months in the fall. I still love water skiing and like to do it at least three days a week. Problem is being retired It’s hard to find people to go play with. A lot of my friends my age can’t get off the goddamn couch. I also have lots of toys that create a lot of work. I have a couple cars right? 34 that’s done still takes a lot of work. I’m building a rat rod, but I haven’t touched it in three years. My plans are to travel my this year my wife decided to go live somewhere else with her sisters. She’s older than me and can’t handle all this work. So now I have more work. I’m busier than shit now. It kills me when guys retire and tell me they get bored so they go back to work. I don’t know how I ever had time to go to work. My goals in life are to just be happy and have fun.

 

[Jay Dub]

When I retired a few years ago I had all these grandiose plans and bucket list items. Now I seem to be moving a lot of these things from the bucket list to the fuck it list. .

Perhaps I'm going through a midlife crisis (I'm almost 67 so more like and end of life crisis) but I have come to the realization that I just can't do the things I used to do.

I wanted to ride a motorcycle around the country. With arthritis in both hands now I can't ride long distances. I really don't care for extreme heat or cold. I don't enjoy riding in the rain. That one is now on the fuck it list.

I wanted to drive the Dalton Highway to Prudhoe Bay. Now thinking about the bugs, the bears, the toll it would take on my truck, the cost of fuel, food and lodging, plus dealing with Canada and vax BS, I don't think it is worth the hassle. Another fuck it list item.

I wanted to be a Long Hauler on the Hot Rod Power Tour. Too many cars and traffic, too many people, to expensive. Fuck it list it goes.

I want to get my Red card so I can go fight big wildland fires. That is something I might still try to do but again, at my age I'm not going to be on the front lines. I could backfill other stations or maybe do structure protection though.

I have an issue with the macula in my eyes and they are deteriorating. My dad had macular degeneration and was almost blind by the time he passed so I have that to look (sort of ) forward to.

Now for the shameless plug. I wanted to run my new boat down in Havasu, Mead, runs to Catalina, and the Delta and maybe tow to LOTO or even Florida. I'm never going to do any of that. Maybe Havasu once and the Delta once but not multiple times. Boating on Lake Tahoe has become such a pain that I know several people locally that are selling their boats or down sizing for the smaller local lakes. I just listed the boat for sale here. I also don't have any boating friends around here and solo boating is kind of a pain. I know it is going to be heart braking when it sells but I have to accept reality for what it is.

I've sold a couple of my Harley's and will be keeping just one for short local rides. I just sold my beautiful, like new 33K miles C5 Z06 because I wasn't using it much. I've sold off a couple project cars that I knew I'd never get done and will be selling a couple more.

I want to get down to just a handful of toys that I know I will use and enjoy. I also had this delusion that I might meet a nice woman that I could share some of my stuff with and do stuff together but I also realize that living in a very remote and rural area, that ain't going to happen. Not many woman here and ones from other areas don't want to live in the boonies. So I have to reprioritize my goals and plans. I have to realize I'm no longer young, and listen to what Clint said, "A man has to know his limitations". Now I know he also said, "Don't let the old man in" but I'll bet he can't do the things he used to do.

Like I said, maybe this is some sort of crisis I'm going through but I don't think so. I've been thinking about this kind of stuff for some time now. I think it really hit me a couple weeks ago when I almost bought a new Harley. While talking it over with the sales guy I thought to myself, why am I going to spend $30K on a new bike when I hardly ever ride the ones I have now? Then I thought about all the other stuff I have but hardly ever use. This of course lead me to all the plans I have that I'll never do.

I know we got some older guys on here. Have you gone through this phase of your life? How did you handle it? I have my plans of selling stuff off but it is a bit painful to see them go and sad realizing that I will never accomplish things that I wanted to do. Sometimes it makes me want to wander into the woods and get eaten by a bear. That would be a very painful way to go but would make for a killer (no pun intended) story of how I died!

A nice female companion could really help the situation. Im sure there are women who would would love to go boating and ride on the Harley.

 

[gqchris]

Because I waited until I was 50 to start having kids, I no longer have a bucket list of my own.

I’ll be lucky to see a grandkid before I die

Im with ya Brother. I just want to make it to see my lil one Graduate.

I sold EVERYTHING 1 month before my wife was due. There is no way in hell I could keep track of all the toys and take care of this little one. It got too much of a headache for me.

 

[SBMech]

Sounds like you need to Import a new friend to share your life with....

I have a few friends who have "imported" or "purchased" (because yea, it costs money) a young wife from outside the states.

One is a sweet young Thai girl, the other a Russian wild thang....both are super nice however and my buddies are happy...at least for now!

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

A nice female companion could really help the situation. Im sure there are women who would would love to go boating and ride on the Harley.

I'm sure there are. They just don't want to do it with me! LOL

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Sounds like you need to Import a new friend to share your life with....

I have a few friends who have "imported" or "purchased" (because yea, it costs money) a young wife from outside the states.

One is a sweet young Thai girl, the other a Russian wild thang....both are super nice however and my buddies are happy...at least for now!

I have thought about this but have also read many horror stories about these women and how once they come to the USA (on your dime) they become westernized and learn how to get you for all (or at least half) of your stuff.

 

[Jay Dub]

I have thought about this but have also read many horror stories about these women and how once they come to the USA (on your dime) they become westernized and learn how to get you for all (or at least half) of your stuff.

own your assets in a strong trust and have prenup.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Thanks for all the relies. Sounds like I'm not the only one going through this kind of stuff. When I lived in SoCal I had a lot of friends that enjoyed the same hobbies as I did. Motorcycling, cars / hot rods, boating, etc. I think part of the problem is that I don't have any up here. By best friend does have similar hobbies but is still working and is kind of a stick in the mud, homebody on weekends so he never does anything.

I'm going to try to get out to some car shows this summer and maybe I can meet some car guys. I've gone to the local HD dealer for a couple events but no single women there. I thought about taking the boat out to Tahoe by myself but highly unlikely to meet any single women just by running around the lake. I did try the nightmare that is online dating. Quickly learned that is not going to work.

I would like to do a Havasu run but the logistics are kind of difficult. About a 600 mile drive one way, where to stay, launching the boat solo there isn't easy, not really wanting to run around in the boat by myself. I do have a buddy in Vegas that would probably go with me so might hit him up. I was going to go to DS but waited too long to book a room so there were crazy expensive and sane deal, couldn't get anyone else to go.

 

[185EZ]

We have had a fulfilling life, 2 beautiful girls, rv trips, motorcycle trips, lived on a lake, and even made the big move out west.
Now we don't know what to do. Mrs Ez just booked a flight to go back home. Not for me lol.
So we made 2 separate accounts, in a good way. We have different things we want. I say I want a bike and she says you have enough lol. Well, not anymore.
She's curious as to what I will do next
I always wanted to fly a plane and want to at least get an LSA sport license or a basic pilot's license
And after dealing with traffic going to our vaca home she even said I could buy a plane lol

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

own your assets in a strong trust and have prenup.

I have a trust. Prenups are thrown out of family court all the time. It's not just the financial aspect but I don't want to emotionally invest in someone only to find out they have ulterior motives. I think the best way to meet someone is through friends that have known the potential single lady for a long time. That way we all know what kind of person she is. When you get to be my age though, the pool is quite small. Good women are in long term marriages and single women are single for a reason. I always thought finding a widow would be the best bet but my last girlfriend was a window. She broke up with me because she said every time she was with me she felt like she was cheating on her husband. You also have to compete with her memory of her husband and widows will tend to remember only the good things about him.

So, any of you guys know any good single women that are willing to move out to "God's country" in the middle of nowhere? RDP dating service?

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

We have had a fulfilling life, 2 beautiful girls, rv trips, motorcycle trips, lived on a lake, and even made the big move out west.
Now we don't know what to do. Mrs Ez just booked a flight to go back home. Not for me lol.
So we made 2 separate accounts, in a good way. We have different things we want. I say I want a bike and she says you have enough lol. Well, not anymore.
She's curious as to what I will do next
I always wanted to fly a plane and want to at least get an LSA sport license or a basic pilot's license
And after dealing with traffic going to our vaca home she even said I could buy a plane lol

Funny you should mention an airplane as I've been looking at getting a KitFox. I think I have been able to talk myself out of it though. I don't need yet another expensive hobby. I think that may be part of my problem, having too many different hobbies and spreading myself too thin. part os selling off and down sizing is to be able to concentrate on a couple different things and devote more time to them.

 

[hman442]

, ^^ This^^ I don’t know you, but enjoy your posts. I'm similar in age..almost 63 but won't be retiring for a few more years. Self employed. You make mention of all your projects and hobbies. I have felt the way you're describing. You wake up in the morning, and can think of nine different things-projects, but cannot do them all. That causes me anxiety right there. You mentioned whittling down the number of hobbies. Keep plenty, but be realistic on the big restoration things. Simplify just a little. Just work on/do the ones that are achievable in a reasonable amount of time. Go Jeep camping, cuz it's easy, then decide if you want to try some TAT on a motorcycle. Of course there are local groups for all that (of course it's not camping with a Jeep anymore, it's 'Overlanding', lol". You might meet a few people that aren't dorks, I don't know. Again, don't know you at all, so can't say if a woman would enrich your life. I didn't enjoy being single after divorce in 2009, but have friends that I wouldn't dare introduce a woman too, it'd be bad for both of them. It is tough to meet anyone, you don't want the bar fly, they used to say meet 'em in church ??? Dunno. I had good luck on Match back then, been together 13 years. A good friend, same story. It's tough though, because looks matter so much, but at our age, it's tough to attract the one that looks 35, and doesn't have ulterior motives, but they're out there, just take it slow and have patience. I've got a buddy on one called Zues ?, apparently for guys our age. He's met a couple decent women, but is so one sided and set in his ways, he won't ever get in a relationship. You'll get there. Ruts are easy to get into, harder to get out of. Make sure being in a rut doesn't turn into a slight depression kinda deal. They are easy to get into, as well.
Best of luck!

 

[jetboatperformance]

I'm 71 "semi retired" and still doing "biness" love what I do i'll retire when they "pry my tools from my cold dead hands "

 

[C-Ya]

Have you thought about relocating to Florida?

There is a reason why it is affectionately referred to as “Gods Waiting Room”.

Almost everyone here is from someplace else. It caters to people your age. There is almost too much to do. So many like minded groups. Lots of single older women.

What I am describing is just in my general area of Broward County. If you were to move to The Villages in central Florida, you might never be bored again.

Florida certainly caters to the retired crowd.

Just throwing out a possibility? I enjoy your posts and wish you well!

 

[RVRKID]

I am not up there yet and luckily have a good girl now, but grab your buddy from Vegas and hit a cruise ship out of Florida or I guess Long Beach, aren't there always women on there hunting for older men?

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

Have you thought about relocating to Florida?

There is a reason why it is affectionately referred to as “Gods Waiting Room”.

Almost everyone here is from someplace else. It caters to people your age. There is almost too much to do. So many like minded groups. Lots of single older women.

What I am describing is just in my general area of Broward County. If you were to move to The Villages in central Florida, you might never be bored again.

Florida certainly caters to the retired crowd.

Just throwing out a possibility? I enjoy your posts and wish you well!

Florida was a consideration for relocation after I retired. Mostly because of the incredible boating there. Was thinking I could get a place on a river with a dock out back with a boat lift. Just lower the boat into the water, run out to the ocean for a blast then back and put it on the lift.

I've been to Florida many times and like it there but decided that living there wasn't for me. Too hot and humid, too many bugs, too flat, too crowded. I think if I tried to live in The Villages I'd be asked to leave quite quickly. I'm a bit of a redneck and absolutely hate HOA's so that type of community doesn't really appeal to me. I'd probably fit in better in some swamp in the Glades.

 

[SBMech]

I have a trust. Prenups are thrown out of family court all the time. It's not just the financial aspect but I don't want to emotionally invest in someone only to find out they have ulterior motives. I think the best way to meet someone is through friends that have known the potential single lady for a long time. That way we all know what kind of person she is. When you get to be my age though, the pool is quite small. Good women are in long term marriages and single women are single for a reason. I always thought finding a widow would be the best bet but my last girlfriend was a window. She broke up with me because she said every time she was with me she felt like she was cheating on her husband. You also have to compete with her memory of her husband and widows will tend to remember only the good things about him.

So, any of you guys know any good single women that are willing to move out to "God's country" in the middle of nowhere? RDP dating service?

This right here is part of the problem, you have preconceived notions of things you have not done, nor experienced yourself.

Stories are just that, stories. If prenups were worthless, every divorced man out there would be broke!

What makes you think ANY relationship you have with ANYONE is actually real? It's all based upon trust, time and experiences together.

Go do a bit of travelling, hit up the known places that cater to Older US men who are looking for companionship. Enjoy yourself without guilt or expectations.

Clear your head.

Do my friends who actually did the importing have prenups? Absolutely, and part of the agreement is a stipulated payout from their trusts, or the entire trust if warranted. If you asked every single lady you have ever been with to tell you the truth about why they were with you, you'd be pretty shocked I am sure. Just like your widower, everyone has skeletons and self interests.

Personally I'd like to go out bangin a hot 30 year old for the next 20 years and pay her gladly for her "Pretend" affection or love when I pass.

Does it really matter as long as she constantly makes you feel loved and cared for?

Truth is you will never ever know what someone else is thinking, it's all imaginary and time built trust.

I've had some deep conversations with ex's before, more than one admitted that love actually grew from the desire to live on the other side of the tracks....rather than my sparkling personality!

 

[Dan Lorenze]

I wanted to drive the Dalton Highway to Prudhoe Bay. Now thinking about the bugs, the bears, the toll it would take on my truck, the cost of fuel, food and lodging, plus dealing with Canada and vax BS, I don't think it is worth the hassle. Another fuck it list item.

I did this trip a few years ago with my Dad who was 74 at the time. My Dad has been struggling with health issues over the last few years. But he did great. We road all the way to Prudhoe bay, the Arctic Ocean on our motorcycles. We met up with some legit Harley riders out of Florida and rode with them a lot, they were on their Road Glides wearing Gore-Tex suits. You can totally do this ride on a comfortable bike or even in your truck. I want to go back next year, it's totally worth it.

We just have to keep moving forward and do the best we can. There's nothing like having a nice gal in our lives, it makes life so much sweeter.. Maybe that should be a priority. Lots of women on the dating apps. Give it some thought... Best of luck to you and all of us.

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

This right here is part of the problem, you have preconceived notions of things you have not done, nor experienced yourself.

Stories are just that, stories. If prenups were worthless, every divorced man out there would be broke!

What makes you think ANY relationship you have with ANYONE is actually real? It's all based upon trust, time and experiences together.

Go do a bit of travelling, hit up the known places that cater to Older US men who are looking for companionship. Enjoy yourself without guilt or expectations.

Clear your head.

Do my friends who actually did the importing have prenups? Absolutely, and part of the agreement is a stipulated payout from their trusts, or the entire trust if warranted. If you asked every single lady you have ever been with to tell you the truth about why they were with you, you'd be pretty shocked I am sure. Just like your widower, everyone has skeletons and self interests.

Personally I'd like to go out bangin a hot 30 year old for the next 20 years and pay her gladly for her "Pretend" affection or love when I pass.

Does it really matter as long as she constantly makes you feel loved and cared for?

Truth is you will never ever know what someone else is thinking, it's all imaginary and time built trust.

I've had some deep conversations with ex's before, more than one admitted that love actually grew from the desire to live on the other side of the tracks....rather than my sparkling personality!

Well there are no guarantees in life for sure. I'm just more old school and would rather meet somebody that has been vetted for lack of a better word by having friends that have known them for years. I'm not sure how you can meet someone over seas that you know nothing about and enter into a relationship after knowing them for a short period of time. I know people have done so and it worked out but it seems like a big risk. It is not only the risk of them not liking you after they get to know you but also them not liking living in the US and missing their homeland.

I agree that you never really know anyone. I always say, everybody has three personalities. The one they show to the public, the one they share only with those close to them, and the one they keep secret that nobody sees.

I live in northern NV in a county where brothels are legal. I can just take a drive and pay for my needs to be taken care of. Way cheaper than having a girlfriend! What I don't get out of that though is the companionship and someone to share things with. Which is why I wouldn't want a hot 30 year old girlfriend. I want someone I can relate to, someone with similar life experiences. Someone that can reminisce with me about how great the music, cars, people and times were in the '70s. Things like that.

All this talk about women though, I don't think is the real issue here. Sure, it would be great to have but that's not going to change the fact that I need to reprioritize my interests and have to accept growing old also means losing your abilities to do certain things. I have to let go of the things that are starting to impede my desired lifestyle.

And, I just got a test from the guy buying my Z06 saying he just got laid off and his wife is concerned about him buying the car. He says he is working on her but you know how that goes. Now I have to decide if I want to relist it for sale or just say fuckit and starting driving the wheels off it and not care if it gets dirty or racks up the miles. YOLO, right?

 

[ChiliPepperGarage]

I did this trip a few years ago with my Dad who was 74 at the time. My Dad has been struggling with health issues over the last few years. But he did great. We road all the way to Prudhoe bay, the Arctic Ocean on our motorcycles. We met up with some legit Harley riders out of Florida and rode with them a lot, they were on their Road Glides wearing Gore-Tex suits. You can totally do this ride on a comfortable bike or even in your truck. I want to go back next year, it's totally worth it.

We just have to keep moving forward and do the best we can. There's nothing like having a nice gal in our lives, it makes life so much sweeter.. Maybe that should be a priority. Lots of women on the dating apps. Give it some thought... Best of luck to you and all of us.

Wow, your dad did it at 74? Good for him! Did he enjoy the trip?

I would not do it on a bike but maybe I should try it in my truck. I'm converting it to a flatbed and have a couple side boxes for it now. Will put the camper shell back on the flatbed. Also going to cut out a pass through from cab to camper. Should be a great rig for that trip.