Great advice for new parents or parents with young kids

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[BHC Vic]

Kind of going through this now. It’s hard but the best thing we can do is let them figure it out o think… or maybe I’m an asshole I don’t know yet

 

[shintoooo]

Kind of going through this now. It’s hard but the best thing we can do is let them figure it out o think… or maybe I’m an asshole I don’t know yet View attachment 1469753

It’s a balance Vic. It’s hard being a parent. Looks like you’re doing a great job.

 

[rivergames]

When my 2 year old and 4 month old cry asking for food, should I tell them to go take out the cat or dog and feed us all???

 

[shintoooo]

When my 2 year old and 4 month old cry asking for food, should I tell them to go take out the cat or dog and feed us all???

You don’t do that?

 

[Tooms22]

My wife was an only child with a stay at home mom. To be clear, I have nothing against this. My wife is one of the smartest people I know but problem solving is definitely not her strong suit. She has a "I'd rather clean up the slow leak than fix it" type of approach. I told her that it's likely because she always had someone there to handle the day to day things and problems.

Now don't get me wrong, my criticisms of her are minor and everybody else in the world wouldn't see them. But being married to and living with someone is a different story.

By the time I was 8 or so, I can remember when I'd tell my dad that I was hungry, he'd say "You know where the food is and how to work the microwave to heat it up." He didn't do this all the time. But I remember it because it was core memory of becoming more independent. That and other situations were a push to realize "Hey, you can do it on your own and if you fail, it's still learning experience."

For example, he called me during the fires in Yorba Linda in 2008 when I was going to UCI and said get home now, we're saving the house. It's almost confusing for me when able-bodied young to middle aged men evacuate with no plan. It's that type of independence and personal responsibility that I learned from my dad.

Oh and we're not having kids but I support this approach for all of you zookeepers

 

[brianwhiteboy]

My parental advice is to drop your kids off at a Round Table Pizza and load them up with toffee candy. They’ll keep themselves entertained.

 

[4Waters]

If your kid is getting bullied at school don't handle it the way the school wants you to, believe me, it's definitely not a zero tolerance rule. Tell your kids to handle it the old school way.

 

[jet496]

If your kid is getting bullied at school don't handle it the way the school wants you to, believe me, it's definitely not a zero tolerance rule. Tell your kids to handle it the old school way.

Yea, my oldest was being bullied in 9th Grade by a kid in 10th & kicked the kids ass. It was videoed by tons & the principle even reviewed it with us & said you didn't have to finish him off like that, but that's what I taught him. He ended up suspended, going to a school called Chaparrel for a week or so, anger management at the police station. The wife gave me shit for that for years. LOL.

No regrets. He's a tough, business owner today at 30.

 

[JFMFG]

Yea, my oldest was being bullied in 9th Grade by a kid in 10th & kicked the kids ass. It was videoed by tons & the principle even reviewed it with us & said you didn't have to finish him off like that, but that's what I taught him. He ended up suspended, going to a school called Chaparrel for a week or so, anger management at the police station. The wife gave me shit for that for years. LOL.

No regrets. He's a tough, business owner today at 30.

LFG

 

[napanutt]

Where’s the advice for us young at heart but physically oldish grand parents trying to prepare a grand child for the world ahead?

Me and wife share day care duties with our sons wife’s parents. They’re about our age.
He’s three so he will be in school soon enough. He’s our only grand and the other grand parents too.
We’re hoping the “village” raising thing pays off for a well rounded little boy.

 

[Outdrive1]

Yup. My wife’s sisters kids, never clean up after themselves, abd they disrespectful as fuck. They baby them. Their five year old was grabbing food off my daughters plate, I said that’s rude, don’t do that. The sister looks at me and says, she doesn’t understand what rude is. I said well she’s about to get a lesson then. Teach your kids manners and don’t baby them. Seriously. Make them responsible and make them clean up after themselves.

 

[4Waters]

Yea, my oldest was being bullied in 9th Grade by a kid in 10th & kicked the kids ass. It was videoed by tons & the principle even reviewed it with us & said you didn't have to finish him off like that, but that's what I taught him. He ended up suspended, going to a school called Chaparrel for a week or so, anger management at the police station. The wife gave me shit for that for years. LOL.

No regrets. He's a tough, business owner today at 30.

After doing it the way the school wanted us to and them doing nothing my son finally had enough and hit one of the kids last year just before Christmas, gave him a black eye for Christmas. At the end of the year the same kid tried to square off against my son and my son rag-dolled him over a desk and into a cabinet, kid ended up with a concussion. The problem is that kid is just a cronie, a follower of the actual bully, the actual kid calling the shots doesn't want to challenge my kid, he's a fucking pussy. This year, after spending 5-6 hours a week in the gym all summer and the fact my son grew 2in over the summer he is now a lot bigger than them and none of them are trying anything.

 

[Singleton]

My middle step-son has this issue. Very low self confidence and diagnosed with social anxiety disorder.
Wife and I convinced him to go to family therapy and now he goes to counseling once a week. We all go once a month.

Net result, the difference in households caused issues.
My house - Actions have consequences and you need to try at least once before mom or I help you.
Let just say his biological father, did not have the same approach. In fact the therapist flat out told my step-son that his dad’s actions during middle and high school caused part of these issues. Therapist invited step-son‘s dad to all family sessions (6 months and he has never shown and refuses to call therapist). Yet he wants to know everything the kids tells the therapist.

 

[Cray Paper]

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I think that video was made spells out exactly how I felt with my first EX wife that I had my two sons with and was, in my mind why the marriage didn't work. I hated her for almost to this day for taking what my sons should have experienced growing up with a more than capable father and usurping that for her own selfish personal needs. She parlade that in to attention from the same like minded selfish female parents of my kids when they got in to sports.

 

[HBCraig]

Kind of going through this now. It’s hard but the best thing we can do is let them figure it out o think… or maybe I’m an asshole I don’t know yet View attachment 1469753

I still give hitting lessons. Have to fail a bit, get some wins, fail again, etc. It has to go that way.
Need.to be able to figure it out in a game

 

[Cray Paper]

The sheltering / pussification / sheltering of real-life learning experiences of our children is so destructive to them and our country in the long term. It is out of control and has been going on for decades. Let your children learn at a young age!

 

[rmarion]

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[DC-88]

Kind of going through this now. It’s hard but the best thing we can do is let them figure it out o think… or maybe I’m an asshole I don’t know yet View attachment 1469753

Play pepper with him and his buddies in front of the garage door or something other than windows and tell them to protect the plate or they are paying for any foul tips or whiffs . 15 years later my painter and I were just touching up some of that stuff behind my house tonight and we were laughing about it, but old school top hand thru /stay inside to it and thru it pepper is the foundation for knocking the pitcher down and very few K's through high school level